To think this is so odd??!

[curiousgeorgie]

My PIL have mentioned several times over te past 8 weeks since their 2nd grandchild was born that they would love to have a canvas of the two children (my DD and new DN) to put on the wall.

With christmas coming thought this would be a great gift so sent a message to BIL and his fiancée to ask if we could get the kids together to do this for them. DH has a brilliant camera and is quite into photography so wouldn't cost them anything and wouldn't take long.

BIL sent a message straight back saying great idea, they'll love that, lets set it up.

3 hours later and she sends me a message saying 'Im going to have to say no to the picture'.

Weird???! Please tell me this is completely off because I'm not really sure what on earth I'm supposed to respond to that!

Yes it's lovely to make someone happy but what if it makes a person feel uncomfortable or unhappy, should they still do it then?

What's so traumatising about it being canvas in someone else's house!!

Jeeeeeeeze.

Your child appearing in a photo at a much loved grandparents house would make you uncomfortable??

Are you my SIL??

Maybe she just doesn't like them, know I can't stand them and even dumped someone as they had one of their son on the wall

My mother got a hooooooge photo of me in my graduation which I find quite embarrassing, but I wouldn't dream of making a fuss of it.

Fair enough if sil dosent want to do it but let's gets some perspective!

But why should they have to do something they don't want to do? Perhaps it would make them unhappy to feel forced and not have a choice.

It's a photo! That's all!

It'll look shit, awkward and cheap - Is what she might be thinking...

And maybe she's too polite to say it's a ridiculous idea at this age and is avoiding making up far fetched excuses and maybe, you should just accept she's not up for it right now, back off the new mum and think of something else to give them!

What about an alternative - a pottery item with both child's hand/foot prints. We did this with MIL's GCs and it's very cute.

What about if the photo went onto a bag or other product? Would she feel the same then?

You have no point to make. I've already answered that. It's just a photo... At the child's grandparents house??! How is that an insane or uncomfortable request?

It's not like I'm asking if I can dress him up in something crazy and take the photo on the edge of a cliff.... Jeez.

I did a lovely one for my mum with my nephew in. Really nice with a wood frame. Doesn't look shit or ridiculous.

Of course she doesn't have to do it, I'd make a nice one if your own dd instead.

It's not an insane request, but it's not for everyone. The point I'm trying to make is that she has the perfect right to say no, for whatever reason.

It's fine... I'm not going to kidnap him and force a photo on them. I just think its absolutely ridiculous to deny your fiancés parents a present they really want when it's not going to cost you anything but 20 mins of your time.

Just do it for your own DC.

And I probably will do one of DD, just so she can see how happy they are, but also so she can hear when they say how nice it would have been if he had also been in it...

Some places do really nice smallish box frames.

Crikey it doesn't have to be some great monstrosity across a whole wall!

You sound charming

Really do understand why you have got so worked up about this op!!!

You are sounding positively bitter over nothing

Sheez, I didn't suggest photoshopping the baby in, but using a pre existing photo of the two childen together if the op already has one, and just change the background, please read what i actually wrote.

I don't see why they need to come into it. You thought of the idea, they don't want to do it so just go ahead without-simple! (there is no need to use it to score points)

"You sound charming"

I'm with you mrskeith.

Sorry...I missed out a really important not in my last post

curious georgie, i agree with you, imo if you sil had a genuine reason for this that didn't come across as selfish or petty, then she would have probably gave it.

There will be plenty time to get a photo of them. She hasn't said no, not now not ever!

Do you not think it would look better when the baby is a bit older? How would your husband set up the shot? I can't see a pose that would work. It would be your dd holding the baby. Wait a few months when baby can smile and be propped up and they can share the shot more equally.

I can't believe this thread has gone pear shaped!

It started off so innocent.