To think this is so odd??!

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My PIL have mentioned several times over te past 8 weeks since their 2nd grandchild was born that they would love to have a canvas of the two children (my DD and new DN) to put on the wall.

With christmas coming thought this would be a great gift so sent a message to BIL and his fiancée to ask if we could get the kids together to do this for them. DH has a brilliant camera and is quite into photography so wouldn't cost them anything and wouldn't take long.

BIL sent a message straight back saying great idea, they'll love that, lets set it up.

3 hours later and she sends me a message saying 'Im going to have to say no to the picture'.

Weird???! Please tell me this is completely off because I'm not really sure what on earth I'm supposed to respond to that!

Mrs k, when my nephew came to see my ds for the first time I got a beautiful photo of them on the sofa, just snapped with the iPhone.

It was so lucky, it was a beautiful photo, ds had a finger on his chin and was looking angelic.

I think it might be quite hard to pose them, that small.

Maybe waiting is no bad thing you might be lucky and get a good shot without having to use a photographer.

Give the op a break, she doesn't sound bitter, just irked by some of the snooty comments.

Im 'charming' because I wanted to give my PIL the present they asked for for Christmas??

We were going to recreate a picture my SIL (on my families side) has of her two children of roughly the same age, where her youngest is lying on the footstool and her oldest was kneeling at the head of it looking at him. It's beautiful.

No, you had a nice idea, it's not going to happen. So you build a bridge and get over it.

This is what makes you charming.

And I probably will do one of DD, just so she can see how happy they are, but also so she can hear when they say how nice it would have been if he had also been in it...

Just get your dd done in all her canvas glory, don't be a bitch about it!

And picking the one slightly off thing I've said is what makes you 'charming'.

We all get on great, it's just a photo. Get some perspective??

But its not your business curious you asked she said no (as I would have done because its tacky) and now you are calling her weird and doing a picture of your DD to teach her a lesson and try and guilt trip her into it.

You can make whatever choice you want for your child, as she can about hers, imo grandparents wants don't come into something if a parent disagrees with it.

only got to page 4 so sorry if it's already been suggested, but could it be that she doesn't agree with you that your DH is that good with a camera and doesn't a badly taken photo of her child blown up and hung on the wall of a house she visits often?

I think that's exactly what you're lacking, perspective!

Hmmm, you don't exactly emerge cloaked in glory either MrsRichards. You might want to reread your own comments, once you're finished chastising.

Missy - if your elderly parents had asked for a picture of your children for Christmas you would have said no?

I have to concur there have been a few mean comments on both sides of the canvas fence!

I would give them a little picture in a nice frame. If they want a canvass thing hanging from their wall then I would say no.

I've had a look thanks, am confident I am my usual charming self

Just don't see why the sil should be taking pelters for saying no to something!

Well, I'm seriously trying to come from a good place. PIL wanted it, BIL said yes it was a great idea, BIL and SIL are paying for their wedding and are pretty broke so it would have been something they could give PIL for free.

It sounded win win.

Fair enough on the sil but there was a bit if canvas hatin' going on.

I can see why op got a bit defensive.

You can make whatever choice you want for your child, as she can about hers,

Blimey. It's not as if they're chosing a religion or veganism is it ? It's only a bloody photo.

I can't see what the issue is myself - but then i've always taken the line of least resistance and am firmly in the "keep everyone happy for family harmony" camp

Maybe when you see her face to face she'll tell you why.

I bet she's gone a Canvas Crime further and commissioned one of those photos where the baby is sleeping inside a flower!

OP it was a nice thought to give your parents/pil a christmas present they want instead of a bottle of bubble bath or some equal shit.

Has been quite a horrible comments either side

Could it not be as simple as her already having bought your PIL their Christmas present?

OP...get one of your DC on a nice big canvass...and cut a small pic of your niece out and stick it on with pritt stick...that'll learn her!

I don't think it's tacky.

However I also think it's up to SIL and I wouldn't give this anymore thought than "miserable cow, ruining my fab present idea!"

I am hoping you aren't my SIL with some details changed OP!

My SIL suggested that we got FIL a picture of DD and her DS for Christmas as he said he wanted one and I said no, and my DH was not happy.

I said no because I gave FIL a framed picture of DD last year for Christmas and it has been propped up on a bookshelf with our nephews picture over it!

So I have said no as I am not going to pay for (another) picture of our nephew for FIL's house to go with the 3 foot high framed pictures on the wall if he can't display one picture of my DD on her own.

So maybe your SIL would like her child to be regarded in it's own right rather than added onto the "group"?

I am not saying I am right or I am proud of my behaviour but there you go.

Vix are you serious?? I prop pictures over others ALL the time! I hope DD1 isn't like you as she's currently blocked by DD2 and a watercolour!

Try reading all the words - the only picture of her DD has been covered by yet another picture of her nephew.