To think this is so odd??!

[curiousgeorgie]

My PIL have mentioned several times over te past 8 weeks since their 2nd grandchild was born that they would love to have a canvas of the two children (my DD and new DN) to put on the wall.

With christmas coming thought this would be a great gift so sent a message to BIL and his fiancée to ask if we could get the kids together to do this for them. DH has a brilliant camera and is quite into photography so wouldn't cost them anything and wouldn't take long.

BIL sent a message straight back saying great idea, they'll love that, lets set it up.

3 hours later and she sends me a message saying 'Im going to have to say no to the picture'.

Weird???! Please tell me this is completely off because I'm not really sure what on earth I'm supposed to respond to that!

No raggies and if you said that, coolio Inglasias, she hasn't said, and doesn't seem to want to explain, hence all the guessing.

Right, she's planning to do her own canvas of DN.

Her DH was also there and said 'but mum and dad want a picture of them together?' And she got a bit stroppy and said she's making them a canvas of just him.

So... 20 x 20 canvas of DD then!!

coolio Inglasias Love it! Lay chilly alien

She will explain though .... fingers crossed.

Yay! An explanation!

Now .... what do we think then?

I'm a bit pissed off

Why can't they have both?

Your husband could use three photos (your dd, their dd and the two of them together) to make a triptych

I suggested doing both but she thought that would take away from her present.

This thread is sounding a little deranged, You asked, BIL said yes, your SIL said no. She has every right to say no, she has every right to say no without giving a reason and she even has every right to say no without even knowing the reason herself.

It was a nice idea (if you like that kind of thing) but it's not going to fly, get over it and move on.

Some posters have suggested taking a photo of the two of them that you already have and using that. I'm sure you wouldn't do that and those posters who suggest it are being massively unreasonable.

If you have to know why and SIL doesn't volunteer the information the next time you're together then maybe your DH can take his brother out for a drink one evening and get the story out of him then. SIL has enough to deal with looking after the baby and probably with wedding plans, leave the poor woman in peace!

Oh how very reasonable and boring of her.

I feel a little let down :(

Ah, x-post, sorry

Well, she's having professional photos taken of him on the 27th... So sort of giving the parents an IOU a canvas

So I actually don't see why she can't do the picture.

Poor grandparents are going to have to have two canvasses on their wall now! I hope their love for canvasses is as strong at Christmas time

She obviously doesn't want her baby being overshadowed by their cousin. Fair enough, but a teensy bit precious seeing as the GPs specifically wanted a picture of the two children together. I'm sure she'll chill out when the kid is a bit older.

She is going to realise how derranged she is in a couple of years time.

I feel sorry for your PIL. Is she a nightmare DIL?

Hmmmmm. It's a sort of 'lime light' thing really then isn't it? Yes?

Someone suggested that upthread.

Have your babies image projected onto the Houses of Parliament a la Gail Porter. I'm sure David Cameron would give it the nod.

AAAhhhhhhh, I seeeeeee, so it's not that she thinks her baby is too chimpish for a photo then?

Well. least we know now.

It's not what your PIL's wanted but hey, leave her to it!

I thought it would be something like that given SIL is lovely and kind normally. Perhaps you guys could co-ordinate complementary canvases so that PIL are not overwhelmed. I'm guessing she also wants one for her parents so the one of the two children together wouldn't really work.

What size is she getting? do a 8ft x 8ft of your DD

Just kidding, it's a pisser, but let it go OP

Oh Lord. She sounds...interesting. Glad to have an explanation though, it was bothering me! :)

FWIW my SIL always sets up a photo session with my DS and her two DC to get a portrait for our MIL and it always looks tacky and shit and I hate them (there are usually fake backgrounds involved, like our children just happened upon a brook with some autumn leaves and a little red wagon ) but they both love them, so whatever.

Ah so there's a perfectly reasonable explanation then and now you know she's not adverse to all things canvas you can get one done together next year.

Don't be a mare and try to stir things by doing one of your dd. Let her have her newborn moment, I'm sure you had plenty, and get your in laws something different. I'm sure they've already got photos of your dd on her own so it would be nice for your sil to have the same for her lo.

OP here's some inspiration for your own photo shoot. Some absolute gems!!!

awkwardfamilyphotos.com/tag/babies/

I hope this is on a 20ft x 20ft canvas on a grandparent's wall somewhere!

Ah, she's in newborn baby love. Bit mad, but could have been much worse explanation.

a brook with some autumn leaves and a little red wagon

Hahaha Yank I have a few of these from when ds was a baby. They're tacky and strangely don't even look like him much, but I still love them. None have been turned into canvasses however yet.