To think this is so odd??!

[curiousgeorgie]

My PIL have mentioned several times over te past 8 weeks since their 2nd grandchild was born that they would love to have a canvas of the two children (my DD and new DN) to put on the wall.

With christmas coming thought this would be a great gift so sent a message to BIL and his fiancée to ask if we could get the kids together to do this for them. DH has a brilliant camera and is quite into photography so wouldn't cost them anything and wouldn't take long.

BIL sent a message straight back saying great idea, they'll love that, lets set it up.

3 hours later and she sends me a message saying 'Im going to have to say no to the picture'.

Weird???! Please tell me this is completely off because I'm not really sure what on earth I'm supposed to respond to that!

I like the idea of the 6ft x 6ft canvas as well

There was a story on thisiskent once about a cardboard cut out being stolen of wills and kate on their wedding day and the police found it in someones lounge. They apparently looked through the lounge window and there it was, wills and kate

I suggest you do a cardboard cut out thing of your children curious, drop it off at MILs and then steal it in the night and drop it round your SILs and phone the police. That will serve her right

nightowl I'm enjoying the counter argument to the 'no is a complete sentence' principle too. It should be amended to 'No is a complete sentence unless I want to hear yes in which case you'll need to explain further'

I often think the "no as a complete sentence" principle is actually rather rude and can lead to confusion where there doesn't need to be any. A brief explanation usually helps to smooth over the waters and stops resentment building. Of course there can be people who put unreasonable pressure on others and see any explanation as weakness where just saying "no" is a good tactic. But here where OP and her SIL have a good relationship a brief explanation is probably important.

Has anyone suggested maybe everyone in the family including OP is getting a photo of DN from SIL for Xmas and she doesn't want to spoil the surprise?

I think SIL is getting a 1250 piece jigsaw of her whole family, with DN at the centre.

I would like to know the reason...

No, no, no she's getting a 20ft x 20ft hologram of the new baby.

No, it's a portable laser show of the new baby lasting 5 hours. There's a lot of sleeping and a bit of posseting.

I would also need to know the reason, how off.

Ghoul

No, because people were far to busy saying the sil is a precious, uncaring, loopy controlling beetch

Bitch

Is it possible the SIL doesn't want to do the photo because she thinks the OP is a bit of a one?

Btw, mrskeithrichards I think you misunderstood my earlier post, although when I reread it I realized it was very unclear.

I thought the PILs were being annoying and treating their grandkids like a lifestyle accessory. The SIL has a perfect right to say no AFAIAC.

How does wanting a supersized photo of your grandkids equate with treating the children like lifestyle accessories?

What an odd thing to say.

read my original post perhaps?

Goodness, what a charming manner you have.

I did read your original post, and it makes just as little sense second time around. You think people taking a photo of a child means they don't want to interact with the child and therefore are treating said child as an accessory? Bad, bad grandparents wanting a photo of their grandchildren.

Wow this thread went... Far, far across the galaxy and turned left.

She said no. It's not a big deal.

What's 'a bit of a one'?

No, squoosh, I think not interacting with a child in any way except to take copious pictures and videos of it means that they don't want to interact with the child and therefore are treating said child as an accessory.

This is why I love Mumsnet - the seconds it takes for these (seemingly innocent) threads dissolve into hysteria and name-calling - pure comedy!

I like the massive amount of fodder created by 2 very short texts

I too want to know her reasons despite myself...

And even though it's been said that a personal dislike of big canvas pictures shouldn't matter because it won't be in the sil's home, she'd still be faced with it relatively often presumably? I don't know if I'd like that.

Did anyone watch 7 days on channel 4 ages ago? It was a short lived reality show anyway. One family had two huge canvas prints, of each of the children up in the kitchen. I'm talking 8ft square at least, these huge faces staring down at the table. Very disconcerting!

This thread is beyond brilliant. I've literally just sprayed tea on my iPhone screen at the jigsaw and hologram.

Ah, mumsnet, I've missed you.

I personally think that mouse mats, mugs and other similar paraphernalia with cheesy pictures of kids are incredibly tacky and I never buy them from school photos rtc

However my mums sister phones me up and asked me to send her pics if my children and my brothers children do she can get my them made into a mouse mat for My parents Xmas present.

You know what - I'm going to do it because it means something to them. Their other sister died at the young age of 34 so having photos of people becomes poignant. You wish you had more when people are gone.

I hadn't even thought to ask my brothers permission I was just going to use one I had.