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To have complained to school for showing Schindler's List to yr 9's

376 replies

jjazz · 07/11/2012 21:32

Just that really. Dont know which parts they showed but DD was awake at 11.15 last night -upset as the scenes were still in her head. She is sensitive but not over emotional imo. she was 13 at end of August so is a 'young' year nine although the film is a 15 so none of the group would have been that age.

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sexypoledancer · 07/11/2012 21:34

School should be reported for showing a film that was deemed by film experts to be unsuitable for under 15s.

PhyllisDoris · 07/11/2012 21:35

I don't think they should show a 15 film to 13 year olds without parents' permission.

3littlefrogs · 07/11/2012 21:36

I agree. They should not be showing a 15 cert. film to 13 yr olds.

procrastinor · 07/11/2012 21:37

I think YABU. Year 9 is IMO old enough to understand the harsh realities. I remember at 7 watching an incredibly upsetting but moving film about a Jewish and non-Jewish girls who were best friends. I can remember the scene where the non-Jewish girl gets beaten by the teacher for sticking up for her friend and the girl's dad having to clean the pavements with his toothbrush. It ends pretty much true to life. It has always stuck in my mind and if I could only remember the name I'd buy it and show it to my DS when he's older.

ISeeSmallPeople · 07/11/2012 21:38

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procrastinor · 07/11/2012 21:38

Oh bugger its a 15. I should really read more carefully (I thought you said 12).

stella1w · 07/11/2012 21:39

Yanbu

Funnylittleturkishdelight · 07/11/2012 21:39

actually, if there are educational benefits, you can show any film regardless of age restrictions- just most schools choose to follow the age restrictions.

I'm sorry she's been affected- have you tried talking to her about it from a 'film' point of view? I did some research into this as part of a masters course, and studies found children who could see the 'director's view' and saw the film as a product rather than a reality found it easier to cope with the images they saw. Obviously the problem with SL is that is based on real life.

sarahseashell · 07/11/2012 21:42

YANBU Shock

kim147 · 07/11/2012 21:47

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ItsAllGoingToBeFine · 07/11/2012 21:47

YABU.

It is good that the scenes are still running in her head, and that she was affected by the film.

Lest we forget...

DawnOfTheDee · 07/11/2012 21:48

I remember seeing films (particularly in history lessons) in school that weren't recommended for our age group. I don't remember my parents being asked if this was ok and I don't remember anyone getting upset about it. I certainly remember watching Missippissi Burning (an 18) in year 10. It actually had a big impact on me and really added to the lesson.

Showing a 15 film to 13/14 year olds is not that big of a deal imo.

Dominodonkey · 07/11/2012 21:50

I think yab completely unreasonable. Yes it is upsetting that 6 million Jews died. Your daughter is not a baby, she is easily old enough to know the realities of World War 2.
It is also true that teachers do not have to follow certificates on films linked to schemes of work and used for education.
Maybe if your child is so sensitive you should have already discussed the holocaust with her.

On a different note aren't parents so wide ranging in their views- some don't want teenagers to know the realities of war, others on
Another thread merrily tell 4 year olds that Santa didn't exist.

Sparklingbrook · 07/11/2012 21:50

A permission slip home wouldn't have gone amiss would it? If yoy are showing a 15 certificate to 13 year olds.

I'm not sure I would want my DS (13) to be affected by a film i had no idea he was going to watch. YANBU.

Have you had a reply from the school.

expatinscotland · 07/11/2012 21:50

Anne Frank was 13 when her family was forced into hiding by Nazi occupation.

YABU.

threesocksmorgan · 07/11/2012 21:53

yanbu
children are affected differently by these things.
my son left the room when it was shown to his class(I have seen it and 100% understand why) it is harrowing.
he was under 15 at the time as well.
it hasn't stopped him understanding the horror of it all, but at the end of the day it is a film. and children should not be forced to watch it.

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PoppyWearer · 07/11/2012 21:54

YANBU.

I watched it once, when released, and it still upsets me now. I'm 37yo and a one-time History student, very familiar with the horrors of the Holocaust fromm my studies.

lovebunny · 07/11/2012 21:54

pretty sure that there are 'schools versions' of films like schindler's list that don't have the 15 restriction.

Sparklingbrook · 07/11/2012 21:55

Every 13 year old is different too.

Iceaddict · 07/11/2012 21:56

Yanbu it's a 15 for a reason. I'd be annoyed if Anyone showed Dcs a film that was too old for them without asking me first

Moominsarescary · 07/11/2012 21:57

Yabu did she really have no idea what happened in ww2? I think at that age they should be aware of what happened.

applepieinthesky · 07/11/2012 21:57

YABU and yes they can show any certificate film they like if it is for educational purposes. I remember watching it at school around the same age.

Barnetbelle · 07/11/2012 21:58

YANBU, it is a 15 for a very good reason. It is deeply harrowing. Yes we should teach the Holocaust but age appropriately. I would be very unhappy with the school and would be complaining. We should never forget but nor should we give our children nights of terror. It must be taught appropriately.

GhostShip · 07/11/2012 21:59

YABU.

she's a teenager, albeit an immature one it would seem but definitely old enough to know about what went on, and to see a dramatisation of it.