To have complained to school for showing Schindler's List to yr 9's

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Just that really. Dont know which parts they showed but DD was awake at 11.15 last night -upset as the scenes were still in her head. She is sensitive but not over emotional imo. she was 13 at end of August so is a 'young' year nine although the film is a 15 so none of the group would have been that age.

YABU
Learning about the holocaust is distressing.
Obviously!
Sometimes we have to learn about distressing things.
I'm 40 and I couldn't sleep for sobbing after finishing Morris Gleitzman's 'Then'

I was in tears at watching Romeo and Juliet FGS. Shouldn't I have been allowed to watch that too?

I wonder what scenes the school actually showed.
As we all agree, they must have showed clips/sceens, because the film is far too long to show all of it.
But what a great film it is. Brilliant. because it is harrowing.
I think my fascination with Russian & German history may have stemmed from watching it.

YABU

Kids that age are often watching 15 cert films at sleepovers or whatever. Far better for them to see it in a controlled environment where there is an adult who can answer their questions.

I remember learning about the Holocaust at that age. The impression remains with me to this day, which was the whole point.

YANBU. If the film is a 15 then the school should not have shown it to thirteen year olds. It is unfair to make children watch a film which upsets many adults who at least would be watching it by choice.

YABU
It's history, it happened.
Better to see it in a sanitised film version, and hopefully learn about the horrors of war, than the real footage.
I learnt about the Holocaust from a series of books about WW2 that my father had.
It stuck in my mind for ever, there were children your daughter's age that died in the concentration camps.
Let her learn, it is more likely to give her a sense of humanity more than anything else.

YABU

Wrt the 15 certificate, those are usually awarded based on specific events aren't they? So only showing selected bits of the film could conceivably be a lower rating?

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it is a very upsetting film. I find the Pianist very upsetting too - of course the really upsetting thing about these films is that they did happen, and things similar still are happening in other countries.

however there are ways of learning about that that are more factual and less emotion-grabbing. giving children nightmares doesn't make the holocaust any better, or any less likely to recur.

GhostShip -are you being serious?

I think the most upsetting book I have read on the holocaust is Hitler's Willing Executioners be thankful that it isn't on the reading list OP

I worked in a nursing home so had first hand accounts of what people suffered. I think all children should know and I doubt they'd have been shown the more graphic scenes.

We are lucky and our children are lucky we were not there to witness it first hand. Millions of children did, we should be shocked by what happened that doesn't mean we should stop our children from knowing the harsh reality of it.

I also think there is a danger some kids will revel in learning the macabre aspects rather than appreciate the humanity of such a topic unless handled in a less dramatic fashion.

My school did exactly this. I think it was right.

Sorry but I don't agree that our children are lucky not to have witnessed or experienced the holocaust and that they should be grateful for that.

Mintyy ? What part of that don't you agree with?

Yanbu, it's good practice for schools to seek parents' permission for films that have an older age rating.

Of course they should be bloody grateful for that!
And for plenty of other things- e.g. for the fact that they are fed,clothed and loved when others in this country are not, and all around the world.
Compassion, humanity, gratitude- useful values?!

Minty er what's not to be grateful about?

What part of what?

Mintyy - um, are you sure?

YANBU and really GHOSTSHIP how does attacking the OP's daughter for being immature help...if anyone is being immature here it is you...grow up and have some compassion for a 13 year old ffs.
OP I remember watching schindlers list at the cinema when I was sixteen and I slept badly that night too. Some scenes are deeply evocative and distressing and really brought home the horror of the situation....a little sensitivity from the school certainly would not have gone amiss, it is a 15 cert for a reason. Maybe a quiet word with the year head asking for a little warning next time?

Im not attacking her, get a grip. I said she was immature, that isn't attacking her. Hysterical or what.