to think DD is too young for Teen posters

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So DH got DS got his Beano comic the other day and DD (7) got 'Go Girl' (she liked the look of the tat free gift which was a notebook/stickers and whatnot). It also seemed to be fairly innocuous - some younger stuff - kittens and ponies and a bit of older stuff - fashion and pop stars.

Now she wants to put the poster up on her wall - One Direction. She vaguely knows who they are but it just feels a bit 'old' for me.

DH says it's harmless and I am not sure why I feel so strongly that i don't want her to - I am not usually uptight at all.

So I have told DH and DD that I will put it to the Mumsnet Jury

x posts. That is my point Soup

Penny sexy is used as a compliment to children these days? Really?

IIRC, the recent 1D lyrics mention something about "getting some while we;re young" or some such thing. Very few 7 year olds are going to equate this to sex whether they know where babies come from or not.

It's just a poster out of a magazine - I'm guessing she thinks it's a 'cool' thing to do and would have wanted it up if it had been a girl band instead. Don't make a big deal out of it, save that for when it is a big deal.

But I don't understand what the OPs daughter is too young for? A poster - why?

No, Mrs, it isn't your point at all. My point was that whilst they may know about where babies come from, they won't understand suggestive lyrics. Which I don't think is what you were saying at all.

Understanding where babies come from and suggestive lyrics are two entirely different things.
that there ^^

and yes simone when you see tshirts saying sexy lil man on that can be taken as a compliment, when you see facebook status's saying look at my sexy dd blabla. I am not saying that's nice/right but it is prevelent in society today.

Anyway, unless the poster has a full print out of the lyrics and/or audio facility, what exactly is it going to do?

I had a massive crush on Jacko from brushstrokes at around that age and posters of Jason Donovan and Craig Mclachlan when I was 8/9.

The point Brandy is making is quite right.

Its like my DD2 is 6, she knows exactly how babies are made, what sex is, what sexy means in a roundabout way, how babies come out (although she doesn't quite believe me).

However, if a person says 'get your leg over' or gagging for it or whatever this means nothing to her.

Who remembers that I'm Horny song. My niece heard it on the radio and would not stop singing it, she knew about sex but had no concept of it. I was however dying inside

Theres a difference between understanding sex and sexual references/language.

My DD sings the Flo Rida song Whistle, this is about blow jobs. She sings it in complete innocence, she just thinks its a song about, well, whistling.
Though I have banned the woman beating Chris Brown.

Posters and song lyrics are totally separate.

its a posters its not a print out of the lyrics!

i cant even remember what i had on my wall at that age tbh, but at one piont my walls, ceiling and all the front of any furniture in my room was COVERED in take that!

btw i do think some lyrics are suggestive etc, children dont always pay attention to them or understand them, but even if they do understand them thats not always a bad thing, you just explain about context etc, ie i have some lily allen cd's my ds2 was singing them and noticed the swearing he knows that swearing is not ok ,but we talked about music being a form of art and whilst its generally not ok to swear that music and art can be expressive and in the context of a song it can be ok. listening to the music does not mean that young children are going to go out and DO what the lyrics are talking about.

communication is key to stuff like this, our children WILL be exposed to it, we as their parents need to help them understand it and put it into context.

Lots of parents seem to view the perfectly natural,innocent behaviour of their children in adult terms.

and yes my boys have heard the whislting song, i saw the video for that the other day! but the younger ones have no clue what it is referring to.

i think some music videos etc are more worrying tbh, i am very careful with things like that and ondt let mine watch mtv etc as some of the videos are too suggestive and do not put out a good images about women/sex etc. (whole other debate...)

Also there is sexual references in most music be it Bob Marley, Springsteen, The Bee Gees, Abba, Nicki Minaj, Iggy Pop, Blondie, Fleetwood Mac, Jay-Z, M People.

Whoever, so this idea that children mustn't be exposed to One Direction based on their content seems ludicrous to me. You can hear worse things on a tv advert.

As I admitted earlier I was a martyr to my Mums musical taste when I was growing up - she for some unfathomable reason had a thing for Dr Hook, I remember both me and my little sister dancing around to "Sexy Eyes" complete with dance and "A Little Bit More" as in "when your bodys had enough of me and I'm lain flat out on the floor etc etc". See I'm actually more scundered that I can remember whole albums of Dr Hook, thirty years later

SHHSS Ruby, until they are 18 they can only listen to nursery rhymes!! Although Jack and Jill is quite suggestive rolling around together and down the hill tut tut.

No Not on in my books.

Posters of singers etc.. is a teen thing. She is 7yo, let her have a childhood and grow up at her pace.

I am not even getting into the lyrics (My dc know the word sexy, has managed to explained me that women having babies are more sexy because they have bigger boobs . However, when asked in more details actually has no idea of what it actually means except that it sounds 'cool').

BTW why does she want the poster on her wall? Have you asked her?

It is pop music.. and a poster. Cant see any harm in it at all.

If it were Snoop Dogg or JayZ then perhaps I would question allowing a younger child to listen that, but 1D are very tame.

My dad used to play prince, MJ, Bob Marley and my mum played Freddie Jackson over and over and over again, this one sexy slow song. My dad hated that I loved boyzone, take that, E17, and Backstreet boys till I was a teen and discovered 2pac. I don't think music damaged me in any way even if I do still no every word to red red wine.

One more point before I get back to work.

1D is not teen music, I do not know any single teenager that would listen to that shite, it is for children not 14 going on 18 type teens.

Brands don't forget Puff the Magic Dragon and that tale of drug fuelled woe!

LOL I had that on my keyboard when I was 6!

I think its ok.

Was turning it round to see if I thought it would be ok for my DS (7) to have eg a poster of Girls Aloud, and I think that would be ok too, he would have Olly Murs too, he likes pop music.

I think if he wanted a poster of random 'girls' it would be more suggestive but not pop groups/stars, IYSWIM.

See brandy you obviously have no moral fibre.