to think DD is too young for Teen posters

[WoodforTrees]

So DH got DS got his Beano comic the other day and DD (7) got 'Go Girl' (she liked the look of the tat free gift which was a notebook/stickers and whatnot). It also seemed to be fairly innocuous - some younger stuff - kittens and ponies and a bit of older stuff - fashion and pop stars.

Now she wants to put the poster up on her wall - One Direction. She vaguely knows who they are but it just feels a bit 'old' for me.

DH says it's harmless and I am not sure why I feel so strongly that i don't want her to - I am not usually uptight at all.

So I have told DH and DD that I will put it to the Mumsnet Jury

You are now changing the point mrscantsay, first it was a poster and now your bringing lyrics into it. That is a whole other thread topic (which has been done to death).

I know my 7 year old has a crush on Jason from Grandpa in my pocket, she can't describe how she feels but I can see it in her face, same as Barney? from Blue Peter [shrug]

penny but the facts are not smething you can separate. A teenage band with suggestive lyrics come as a package...the posters, the music...its all too grown up for a 7 year old.

I had a crush on my cousin when I was 7, I used to follow him around, do whatever he said and make myself breathe and blink at the same time he did. Did not take my innocence away.

I didn't take any notice of my take that posters apart from it showed who I liked music wise not crush wise.

Having a poster up is a way of saying "I am into this"

And if I were the OP, then my DD would not be encouraged in that.

WoodforTrees I'm inclined to agree with you.. I think 7 is a bit young too

In your opinion she may be 'too young to have a crush' but thats like saying too young to be grumpy, its not something you can control. They either have the crush or they don't, whether you think they should or not.

At 7 years old, I and my dcs or their friends were 'getting married'' in the school playground and having crushes on various boys who we wanted to 'marry' or whatever. Its completely normal behaviour and out of your control.

However I don't think a poster signifies a crush as such, it can just be they like them or think its cool. Maybe she thinks because it came in that magazine its a cool thing to do. Would the idea of a poster or plastering pictures of one direction over the walls entered her head if the idea hasn't been introduced to her by the magazine. She probably just saw it and thought that she would like to do that, it seems a good/cool/fun idea.

Penny but did your cousin sing about how soft your ass was?

Harmless.
My dd has fluffy kittens on her wall but I'm sure if she got a 1D poster she'd have it up too. She's nearly 9 though.
I had Michael J Fox on my walls at 8

Well I know most 7 years olds do not know what any suggestive lyrics mean. It goes over their head!

My dd who is 7 has a sign on her door, carved lovingly by her brother, saying 'Harry Styles and baby beachy's room' makes me laugh everytime I walk by.... Also has two posters, as does her 15 year old sister....

I"m with your DH.

What exactly are you afraid of?

(DD is 6.5 and I"d let her have the poster up. Completely harmless)

you're very naive Penny if you really think that.

The children in our lift to school today are ranging from 5 through too 8 and the were discussing c sections and where babies come out of. They know what sexy means.

I'm not comfortable with putting a poster up, but I think I'd probably allow it.

And then I'd go and get a few really cool posters of things more appropriate to her age that she likes to even it out and make her realise what she does like, rather than just a free poster.

Mrs I have the complete opposite veiw of you and we will never agree. I played 2pac to my babies since I was pregnant. My ds loves uk grime like ghetts and maxsta and 2pac and biggie smalls. He loves drake. My dd doesn't have good taste of music yet (I keep trying) and the only artists who we both like are Rhianna and drake. So we will never agree.

A poster does not mean a crush though.

Good God.

MrsCant - and you're naive if you think the children in your car this morning are representative of the population as a whole :)

Um of course children should know where babies come from, it's not a dirty secret ffs.

And sexy well it's used as a compliment to children these days (not that I agree with that but thats how it is).

My 7 year old knows both where babies come of and how they get in .

out of

Yes my ds(5) and dd (almost 7) both know how babies get there and how they get out. I don't see the problem.

There's no problem with them knowing! But Penny was suggesting that a 7 year old does not understand suggestive lyrics. They mainly do.

Understanding where babies come from and suggestive lyrics are two entirely different things.

Knowing where a baby comes from and listening to songs that go on about "feeling asses" up are two different things. NOT ok for a child to be listening to that.

Gosh, how did putting a poster up get to sex ed so quickly???