To be hopping mad regarding pie?

[MrsCantSayAnything]

We decided to have a beef pie for lunch. I put all of the filling ingredients together to cook slowly in our biggest pot. I asked DH to keep an eye on pop...and stir it now and then.

Then I went for a bath.

I could hear DH clanging around and thought he must be stirring etc.

I come down about 40 mins later to find DH has put the pie ingredients in a tiny pan on a higher heat....and begun to cook fucking lentils in the big pot.

AIBU to think you don't mess with someones pie ingredients and CHANGE THE POT AND THE HEAT???

DH thinks I'm crazy.

He often interferes in my cooking because he thinks he's better than me ...he''s not...we are about equally skilled in the kitchen.

And WHY cook a big pot of frigging lentils when there's a bastard big pie on the way with loads of veggies???

Has the pie been ruined because of this?

In my opinion, it has set the pie back. The filling was boiling...not simmering...it won't cook so well.

I just think it's an odd, entitled thing to do tbh.

"I want that pan....oh it's in use...never mind I'll just tip the ingredients out and have it anyway."

Not ok imo.

YABU - nothing's ruined, is it? And the lentils can be used for soup, which you can freeze.

Too many cooks ...?

Well you can tell him I think he is crazy for thinking it is acceptable to do that to someone's cooking, if the pie can be salvaged, don't give him any, serve him his precious lentils!

So you don't think it is rude to take over a pot when it's in use already?

I feel like smashing the lentils Secret

Who cooks lentils (about 40 pounds of them} when there is a pie on the hob??

It's rude too. Like my pie is not good enough.

Sorry, but I laughed at 'In my opinion, it has set the pie back'

Changing the pot seems really odd to me.

Is it really the only one that the lentils would fit in

And he could be bothered to wash it out?

As for changing the heat-well I guess you have to let that go, I think as he was doing what he thought best whist the beef pie was under his care!

Southern I know. Silly really. The pie "could do better"

You want to dictate how it is cooked you cook it. Leave it with someone else then don't complain if they cook it there way

Is he usually this controlling and dismissive of you OP? You know what you need to do (LTB)

HWDBU to start pissing about with your pie, but I'm sure it's salvagable.

How bizarre. Occasionally stirring a simmering pot is not a big ask, really. It doesn't equal saying, hey, please take over the cooking.

What's he planning to do with the lentils? Is this pie-related, or a separate project altogether?!

it the lack of respect for you that i think comes through.

I think the filling ingredients should have gone in the oven to slowly cook anyway... not that it helps!

Just thank him for taking over and ask when he expects to be serveing it.

I clicked on this page just for a laugh. Sorry.

And I got one, especially from this: we are equally skilled in the kitchen.

Yuck to lentils.
Yum to pie.
YANBU Op.
Though I'd have done it in the oven too.
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What a bastard. Clearly he has no respect for you.

you don't interfere with someone else's cooking unless asked!

Kill him

Killing him is the LEAST he deserves. Pie-wanker.

Beef is pretty much indestructible isn't it?

Cooking it on the hob for a little while won't spoil it, unless you're being deliberately stubborn to make him feel worse

Pie for you; lentils for him. Justice. Wouldn't sleep with him tonight.

Why on earth do women let men do things in the kitchen. The kitchen is my empire, all mine, DH would not dare touch anything in there - anything except his stoopid expresso machine