Neighbour vacuuming at 07:30!

[LadyMaryCreepyCrawley]

It's HALF TERM! I don't want waking up at 07:30 (their small child is up and stomping around about 20 mins before, mum only works term time so she should be off for half term). AIBU to ask her to stop?

OP, does she have wooden floors? We do, as do the neighbours, and Hoovering makes such a clattering noise - perhaps that's why we never hoover too early or too late. It would simply be inconsiderate. My DD's room is, on the other hand, carpeted and hoovering in there makes very little noise.

I don't know, I've not been upstairs in her house. I don't hoover my floors (apart from the carpeted ones), I use a fluffly brushy thing.

I lack enthusiasm also, adversecamber.

I Hoover at 7am every morning except weekends. I also have 2 young children who have to be up at 5.45am I have spoken to my childless neighbours and yes, they hear us but its tough, I have to be up for work and to get the kids to childcare and I m not going to tip toe about in my own home. They make plenty of noise on a weekend morning and yes I hear them but it doesn't bother me, life goes on. Christ go to bed earlier if your that tired.

So you know that you disturb your neighbours, but it's 'tough'? Hardly friendly.

Because when I Come home after 10 hours at work I don't want to do the housework then, I'd rather spend my evenings helping the kids with their homework (reception age) or just spending time with them not doing the housework. So I do he hoovering in the morning, load the dishwasher, put the washing on etc then I have my evenings free.

What a lot of posts

OP, YANBU

I love my sleep-ins too.

I get on very well with my neighbours. They Make plenty of noise on a Sunday morning hen I have a child free day which they know but I wouldn't ask them not to do it because may disturb me. It's life. It goes on.

How long does it take to hoover? 5 minutes? You seriously can't spare 5 minutes after work so that you don't disturb your neighbours in the morning?

There's nothing like a sleep-in, especially when you spend most of the year getting up early.

I don't Want to do it after work, that's my point. I want to come home and he house be clean and tidy. Nothing wrong with that, but that's my opinion.
If they complained, I would do it a night but they have never sad anything.
Also my children make more noise than a Hoover but I'm not prepared to gag them for he sake of other people...

You don't gag them, you teach them not to run around/slam doors/shout at 7am because there's other people in the world who will be asleep!

I don't want to!

I am on work from 7am until 6pm, I get home about 6:20 pm and am shattered. I then have to make dinner and tidy my kitchen and then my children do their homework. Some of them need me to help or supervise and others do not want to do their homework against a backdrop of me hoovering. I then have some time wit my youngest before it is their bath and bed. The children then have a staggers bedtime and I can't Hoover while they are in bed. While this is going on I may have some time with the older children and my husband before I start working again at 9pm until I go to bed at about 11 - 12am , depending on the amount of work I have to do.

I just do not have time after work to do housework, unless I give up what precious family time we have.

Sorry am tapping away on iPad, lots of errors.

That sounds like hard work, I don't envy you.

I am surprised that you need to hoover every day then, if noone is home from 7-6, how does it get dirty?

Because I have a house full of children who get home at earlier times and various pets. I have a dust allergy which means we need to keep on top of hoovering and dusting and we have cream carpets.

I don't think I work harder than most working parents with a large family, such is life.

I'm thinking of you now really and not just your neighbours, but maybe you could get whoever is at home with your dc after school to do the hoovering at least some days. Or maybe the dc are old enough to do it themselves?

It does sound to me like you work very hard.

Gosh are you still going on ladymary?

I suspect most people who balance a large family and a career work hard, my DH also works hard. I have some help, we have an au pair/ mother's help because DH often has to work away. She does breakfast for the children and takes the youngest to school and picks up the youngest from school. Our eldest has to travel to the grammar and he often has things on after school so he often doesn't get home that much before me. The children all have chores . I do not want to give the impression that I am some kind of martyr slaving away as that is not true. But balancing family life, two full on careers, children at three different schools and various hobbies takes military organisation. For us, during term time, this means an early start.

Why don't you get up at 7am and vacuum? Maybe she might realise how thin the walls are!!!

My neighbours hear my two DC's every morning. I was a lovely kind neighbour and swapped bedrooms, was always telling them to be quiet etc.. Now my neighbours are twats, so I just let the kids get on with it.

Always did wonder why I tried being quiet in my own house.

YABU though. 7.30 isn't that early to be doing housework.

Completely unreasonable imo to do any kind of housework or DIY that is noisy, for example hoovering, putting the washing machine on, hammering or drilling, before 9am at the earliest on a weekday. I live in a terraced house though, and the walls are very thin, I can hear my neighbour talking on the phone sometimes . Maybe the people who think it's ok live in detached or semi-detached houses, or have thicker walls than me.

I live in a detached house, we would have to live in squalor if I lived in a terrace or semi it would seem

Are all of us who don't vacuum every day living in squalor then?