We have being friends for 5 years, we first met when our dds were babies and we have been having play dates when convenient for both of us, albeit children going to different schools, we busy with our jobs and her having more 2 children since, the play dates are not as often as it used to be. Anyway she is very open about people know how stressed she has been with 3 kids, how desperate she is to go back to work when her mat leave finishes and how she is now spanking and shouting no end. She keeps asking for my dd to go there after school but I really don't want my daughter in this atmosphere. The invitation most of the time is not open to me, she wants me to drop off and collect so I don't see how will she cope with 4 kids -and dd is no angel- if she can't cope with 3 of her own. The days I go and stay, friend and I stay downstairs with baby and her 2 children plus mine go upstairs often with bedroom door closed and we can just hear lots of shouting and thumping as they don't have toys and are not allowed tv I have no idea what they play. I don't invite anymore because my dd's toys always get broken, they fight over sharing as though as they never saw toys in their life, they don't listen to me. Or to my friend and she ends up stressed and smacking in my house and I don't like it. We are telling friend to go to GP but she thinks once she goes back to work things will get better. Ah, let me add she complains she can't cope and hate being at home with children since she had only one but still went on to have two more. And they were planned.