To think boys should have short hair?

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Why would you want your little boy to have long hair?

Seriously, every time i watch Eastenders and Sharons kid comes on all i can think is "you need a haircut"

Ds1 has always preferred short hair, he's 17 now and has the back and sides done with a cut throat razor. Tbh I think it l

Tbh I think it looks awful so short but it's his hair.

Ds2 is 9 and has his quite short at the back and sides and longer on top. When he was 5 he asked for it to be pink for children in need, so I did it.

Ds3 is 19 months and has very curly hair. When it's wet it's to his shoulders but dry it still looks really short. I will not be cutting it until he asks

This topic come up a lot and I cannot for the life of me figure out how the sex of a child of that age group should change how one views of the child's hair. If it was 'why let kids have long hair when short hair is easier to manage/less stress' or 'why put small kids through hair cuts' I can get the debate.

But for a hairstyle to be made bad for half of children for no reason other than their genitals is a bit weird. I have two of each and there really isn't much difference at that age particularly when it comes to looks. Currently, I have one child of each sex with long hair and one of each with short hair (though for DS2 it's because his hasn't grown yet really).

I live in a group where we do no haircuts until 3 years old regardless of sex so our sons have long hair for a while. Some groups do not haircuts at all others do it from an early age (I know traditions at a month old). It comes across as a bit rude to presume your personal preference or culture trumps everyone else's. It would be like saying no men should have beards - yes there are personal preferences and cultures without them, but there are just as many who like them and have a cultural reasons for them.

oh dear.

Who turned Hully's dial up to nuclear today? Come on own up?

But why should they have short hair?

And what about those boys with long hair for religious reasons? Do you think they should cut their hair too? Or is it only ones who do it 'cos they want to who should be given a one all over?

I had very short hair as a young girl and preferred trousers to skirts. Have never liked pink. Dangerously non-conformist, eh?

What exactly is the problem here (other than the fact you appear to be stuck in the 1950s)?

Yeah, but you DID turn into a barbarian, it seems......

This debate should be titled:

Should We All Just Unthinkingly Abide by an Arbitrary and Variable, Prescribed, Socially Constructed Significator of Gender (Which May or May Not be a Social Construct in Itself)?

Alternatively, we could just give up on this tedious shite.

Anyone?

Of course YABU. Why should boys have short hair - unless you have gender representation views that are stuck somewhere around 1910? My eldest son has the most fantastic shoulder length chestnut and blonde corkscrew curls. They are an entire PITA to maintain but I love them and so does he (most of the time). When he gets fed up of being called a girl all the time and asks me to let him have short hair - if he ever does - then that's what will happen. Until then, he can wear it as long as he likes. He only gets compliments anyway but then again we live in a trendy, liberal bit of London so it's pretty much the norm.

This is my last contribution to this. Ever.

OP, get your smelling salts ready:

YABU.

BUT Sharon's and her little 'Denny' are V. V annoying. He has had a haircut recently I think but still looks like he should be wearing frilly bloomers, tights and a 'fancy' waistcoat a la the Victorian era!

And although this is not a discussion point, Sharon's OTT obsessive hair-ruffling 'come here Denny darling', 'oh baby', 'aren't I a great parent' crap really makes me want to throw up!

minouminou Got me there.

YABU, obviously. Both for thinking boys should have short hair and for watching Eastenders. Both complete tripe.

Doesn't bother me either way, but you probably should care if you are easily offeneded as you get silly people like me, who say mind that little girl sweetheart - only to be told very firmly actually he's a boy. Mortifcado!

OP are you my step-MIL-to be? No? then I can said this loudly MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS WILL YOU??!?!?!

YABU to think all boys should have short hair.

It would be more reasonable to think all children should have short hair. After all there is no difference when it comes to hair between male and female children.

anna heh - I get the opposite because my toddler has no hair she looks boyish apparently.

I ignore any mistakes that don't matter, but have to correct people who ask what his name is. Happened a lot at baby group last week and after the 3rd mortified parent I said rather too loudly

"No worries, unless you are actually changing their nappies it's all the same at this age isn't it"

A concept that was met with amazed stares all round.

I have to admit that I often confuse a boy with long hair for a girl. Nowadays say ooooh what a lovely "child" you have there.

Hair in peoples eyes no matter what sex make me want to get my scissors out.

I do however think a smart haircut on a boy looks nice.

I think a smart haircut on a "child" looks nice. I pretty much despise ponytails.