AIBU to be shocked at the school

[wonderingwendy]

handing out my 11 year old dd tampons ?
i was really angry .
she knows all about periods and we have a very open relationship ,she has sanitary towels and that is the best option for me and her i believe
im just shocked as to how my little girl would even manage to get a tampon inside her .
the teacher gave it to them and they weren't even in a sex education class.

My 10 year old got some at school and I had them myself. Love a freebie !!

If my daughter shrieked about a tampon I hope I'd explain what it was, and that her period blood wouldn't be that much and we'd talk about their pros and cons. You seem almost pleased that she thinks tampns are unnatural.

Instead of freaking out have you tried talking to her about the various sanitary choices she has.
I hope you haven't reacted like this I front of her

I don't understand which part of this you're annoyed with. YABU.

Maybe time to talk to he about her inner workings, and how amazing they are.

She probably shrieked in horror because she didn't understand?

Did you explain it to her?

of course we have talked about her options what kind of person doesn't ?

"its a decision parents should deal with not a teacher."

Teacher isn´t going to be checking if she uses them-just giving her the option!

You haven't actually said what your problem with tampons is...

That dildo comment was OTT

"she did put them in a glass of water , shrieked something about what the hell is that!!! and threw them in the bin. "

why did she not know what it was? hadn't you talked to her about her options? why not?

I think boys should be informed, I had to answer my brother's questions about them when he was about 18 (he hadn't had a girlfriend).

If she didn't want them she could have at least offered them to a friend, not wasted them.

OP, You are being much, much more reasonable than my mother was. She never mentioned periods at all.

If she didn't know what they were how could she make an informed decision about her own personal hygiene.

She probably shrieked in horror because her mother did

OP YABU

theinets, that's vile.

So when you discussed it, did you go through the pros and cons of each method?

I sopke to my 9 and 12 year old Dss about periods just the other day.

WelshMaenad that is my thought exactly. Shrieking sounds OTT. Also putting a tampon in a glass of water does not accurately show what happens inside the vagina. It does demonstrate absorbency but is not an accurate depiction.

Sorry but another yabu here. It's pretty standard for the school to give out towels and tampons, we were given them in primary school year 6.

I'm very confused about why you've said towels will be the best option for you and her, I don't really see where you come into it with regards to what sanitary products she chooses to use. Tampons are quite easy I've been using them since I was 13 and started my periods. School also explained how to use them and they come with instructions.

I'm not surprised she freaked out over them given your attitude. I think its probably just as well the school does educate kids about periods and choices in a non bias manner as you seem to have given her a very one sided view.

she was just shocked about how big they got - as i dont have them here she had never seen one - and i didn't react badly in front of her .i do have some sense!.

The OP was equating tampons with sex.

"its a decision parents should deal with not a teacher."

actually i think it's a decision teh person having teh period should deal with, parents should assist them in making their decision by ensuring they are aware of all available options and if possible, the pros and cons of each.