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AIBU to be shocked at the school

279 replies

wonderingwendy · 17/10/2012 18:40

handing out my 11 year old dd tampons ?
i was really angry .
she knows all about periods and we have a very open relationship ,she has sanitary towels and that is the best option for me and her i believe
im just shocked as to how my little girl would even manage to get a tampon inside her .
the teacher gave it to them and they weren't even in a sex education class.

OP posts:
LynetteScavo · 17/10/2012 18:49

"im just shocked as to how my little girl would even manage to get a tampon inside her ."

As the mother of a DD I get where you are coming from, but I think being really angry and shocked is a bit of an over reaction.

She doesn't have to use them if she doesn't want to, but you never know, they might be just what she really wants!

JamieandtheMagicTorch · 17/10/2012 18:50

Was she given both towels and tampons?

fruitpastille · 17/10/2012 18:50

Yabu unreasonable to be angry about tampons. It was pretty standard when i was at school to have a talk from the tampon lady and be given free samples. i was glad as i was far too self conscious to discuss it at home. However it's also common practise for schools to send a letter to parents informing them about sex ed and give then chance to request to see teaching resources if they wish. Did you know they were learning about periods etc?

whathasthecatdonenow · 17/10/2012 18:51

moonstorm, problem with giving them to the boys is that you then find them everywhere! We had this experience when someone left the cupboard with all the boxes in unlocked.

missymoomoomee · 17/10/2012 18:51

I got tampons in school when I was 11. I had already been using them for a year anyway. I don't really see the issue. Do you think tampons are for 'grown ups'? What age do you feel they are appropriate for?

StrawberryMojito · 17/10/2012 18:51

I started my periods when I was 11, I used pads to start with but soon moved on to tampons. I am fairly sure I was given a mixture of freebies when I was at primary school that included tampons. It's up to her what she uses really, some people find towels really uncomfortable.

LynetteScavo · 17/10/2012 18:51

Yes, I think boys should know about sanitary protection too. But giving them to boys would mean they do all sorts of stupid things with them. Unless boys have changed a great deal since I was at school.

FeckOffCup · 17/10/2012 18:54

YABU and if you were "really angry" about your DD getting a free sample along with the rest of her school year then you need to toughen up or you will have a nervous breakdown by the time your DD is a fully fledged hormonal teenager, there are many things in the world to get angry about, this is not one of them.

TidyGOLDDancer · 17/10/2012 18:54

YABVU, and your second post does nothing to change that.

Your DD and her choices in this area are not for you to make.

As for your saying pads are the best option for you....?! Wtaf?!

Original poster
wonderingwendy · 17/10/2012 18:54

i know its her vagina jesus !! all im saying is she told me she thinks they are not for her and i think its a decision parents should deal with not a teacher.

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moonstorm · 17/10/2012 18:55

I understand where you are coming from re the boys. I think they need access to them (demystifying/ get the fuss over with sort of thing). They would maybe need to hand them back at the end! Grin

knackeredmother · 17/10/2012 18:55

Why would you not allow your daughter to use tampons? I really don't understand.

5madthings · 17/10/2012 18:55

so they has been given some by school as happened when i was in high school years ago, tis standard in yr 7, the problem is?!!

i let my boys have a look at sanitary stuff, they took great delight in putting a tampon in a glass of water and watching how it swelled up, they also thought that the pads with wings were like aeroplanes, i am not sure pre-teen boys need to be given any but yes they should be taught about periods and sanitary protection.

CelineMcBean · 17/10/2012 18:56

I think YABU and rather highly strung.

JamieandtheMagicTorch · 17/10/2012 18:56

If she thinks they are not for her then she has made her decision. Teach did not make any kind of decision

kekouan · 17/10/2012 18:56

It's totally normal.

Why is it such a big deal? It's not like theywere handing out lube or something!

JamieandtheMagicTorch · 17/10/2012 18:56

Teacher

PuffPants · 17/10/2012 18:56

I don't get it. They gave us both towels and tampons after our periods talk in Year 6/7 too and that was a loooong time ago.

Do you think tampons are in some way sexual OP? Because they go in the vagina?

I am sure it's hard to see your little girl growing up but tampons are a very normal way of life for most girls and women and nothing to be uptight about.

Molehillmountain · 17/10/2012 18:56

If she has decided they're not for her, op, then there's no issue. She can just throw them away.

Sausagedog27 · 17/10/2012 18:56

Her teacher hasn't decided though- she has given the whole class some samples, thats all. You sound like you have issues with tampons to be honest- why is that?

WelshMaenad · 17/10/2012 18:57

I think it's a decision the vagina owner should deal with.

Did the teacher tell her she simply must try them? Or did she hand her a sample and credit her with the intelligence to decide for herself?

Original poster
wonderingwendy · 17/10/2012 18:57

i know what i use is irrelevant but i was just saying that's all,yes they were all given towels too.
i see im on my own here .
nevermind.

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PinkFairyDust · 17/10/2012 18:57

But some parents might not be all to talk to thier daghter like this, so the school does!

Seriously it's a tampon.....not the endnote the world

What are you going going to do when they give out free condoms?!!!

Joiningthegang · 17/10/2012 18:57

Yabu

Are you in some way thinking if she uses a tampon she wont be a virgin?

I realise she is your baby but yabu

PuffPants · 17/10/2012 18:57

And if she doesn't choose to use them, she doesn't have to - but I bet she will, eventually.

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