To not let my DD play with her friends Dad?

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Took 8 year old DD to play at her new friends house, she is new to school so I went along as I don't know the family at all. Parents have split and children live with Dad. Stayed for around 3 hours during which time the dad told me all about his split with his wife, how the nanny is constantly coming onto him and he can hear her playing with sex toys in the evening, and how the school teacher was flirting with him at parents evening. Also that hes desperate for a girl friend but doesnt know where to meet one, He has apparently been living in the area for 4 years but knows know body as the house is pretty remote. A very very odd afternoon, not really the kind of conversation you want to be having with a single man you have just met! And just set in concrete that my DD won't be going round again (my DH would be livid if I told him the full extent of the conversation) I just told him that he doesn't know anyone locally despite living here for 4 years. AIBU?

are people actually saying that if somewhere/one makes a grown woman feel uncomfortable then she should leave and leave her child?

If she should have left after feeling dodgy about it, then it would have been wrong to leave the child, which would have upset both children, in the short term surely its better for everyone to stay then not send the child back?

I doubt the OP stays at all play dates, but once you get to one, if something doesn't feel right your options are to stay with the child or take the child away with you, NOT to leave the child rather than risk boring someone with your presence for 3 hours!

I wonder what his conversation would be with your DH if he came over with his DD to your house? No way, should your DH go to his without you with that randy nanny upstairs. doing her thing. Had he been drinking a lot to say all those things to you. Sounds very odd to me.

You mean he thinks he's in a porno? Yes. I can see how that could happen.

You've got to laugh or you'd cry

So what's the reason he accosted a woman in the playground today and told her about his nanny, molly? she wasn't in his home for three hours, was she? She was minding her own business in the playground when pervy mcdodgy slimed over and said hey, let me tell you all about my fiddling nanny...

he could be trying to put people off her (the nanny) so noone else hires her, since she's obv trying to part ways, which is still shit behaviour

I wonder why she's trying to get away? If he's this inappropriate with a mum coming with her child to his home, and a mum he traps in the playground, then I can't help but suspect he's likely not engaging the nanny in conversation about global politics or the panspermia paradox.

Probably the teacher is just another female person he had cornered for five minutes and told about the nanny.

She is the teacher of both our children, I have to see her on Wednesday for parents evening, I'm soooooo tempted to drop a hint about him to see if she says anything! The other mums DD played round at 'mr greys' earlier in the week so I suspect when she went to pick up she got the full force of his verbal diarrhea! To clarify I certainly don't stay on every play date but if my dd visits a House of complete strangers I bloody well do, and for this I make no appologise.

I think MadBusLady is probaby right, he's probably currently cornering other people telling them how the OP cracked onto him