to think that 40 years old is NOT too old to become a Mother, whether it is tbe first time or not?

[SoleSource]

I am 39 soon and would like to have another baby.

Hi SoleSource. no never. And D H is 7 years older than me and we've never had an old dad tease. However DH kidult age is a lot less. (Silly old fart is snoring on the sofa, else he could answer you himself).

Sole - kids will always find something to tease about, if they want to. Don't let that be one of your concerns for thinking about having a baby :)

Thank you for answering me. :) I am such silly worrier

My mother was 39 when she had me. My dad was a little younger x(35). I was a 'surprise' as my parents already had two children. they were both great parents and age has never come into our relationship at all.

No, you want to be a good mother - which is always the best starting point :)

FWIW, we can worry together. I'm young, and on a walking stick. Am terrified of what people will say to my DS at school!! So whilst its not exactly the same, I understand.

Bloody hell, where are my manners Sole?

255 posts in and I still haven't asked you who you're shagging?

So g'wan what's he like?

Nobody Worra Lol. I am single. My plan isto sort myself out a bit more and multidate like cwazy :)

It's much better to be an older mother than to be too old and full of regrets. I am older than lots of DS's friends' mums but really there is no difference.

I have 5 had one at 17 and last one at 43. She is one now, I am knackered but was also knackered at 17. Babies are just knackering

Haha I now have a mental image in my head of you speed dating and producing a jam jar and turkey baster on the first date

OMG Worra I spit my tea!

YANBU. My mum had me at 41 (she had 3 children in marriage number 1, then a 12 year gap, then had me in marriage number 2) and it has never caused any problems whatsoever. My mum is amazing - she is now 67, but still works full time, runs around like a bloody lunatic, until recently played netball and still umpires, looks 15 years younger, giggles like a child, has far more energy than I do at 26, and is generally brilliant! To be honest she has always looked so good for her age that she didn't really look older than other parents anyway, and she certainly doesn't act older! We borrow each others clothes (she's still a size 8), laugh a ridiculous amount, and are very close. I've never, ever been teased about having an older mum. If she seemed old now maybe I would feel differently, but I find it impossible to connect her age and her appearance/attitude - it's like the dates got mixed up! And nobody ever guesses she is anywhere near her age - if she tells people she has children in her 40s they think she had them as a teenager. She's great!

Oh, and nobody has ever thought she is my grandmother!

I worked with two women who said that they could not have children. Both got pregnant at 46 and had healthy girls who are no 18. My great aunty had her daughter when she was 48. She thought it was the menopause but was actually pregnant. She is now 92 and looks about 75 so it didn't do her any harm!! I had my daughter at 28 and was told i was an older mum. Thanks for that. Friend had her daughter 3 weeks ago and she said that she was called an older mum - she is 30.

It's too old for me. Anyone else can knock themselves out.

Had DD at 40 (she's 17 now).

Teasing about age has never been an issue. On the other hand I've looked younger than my years for ages, so I don't know how I would react if I WAS taken for DD's grandma. DH, my age, has been taken for DD's granddad and he ticks the offender off on the spot.:o

Never sure about the energy bit. How could anyone know their energy was attributable to their age? I've never been a playful person, so didn't engage in that way with DD. DH did that.

itannoys me that the general consensus [nationally] is that women who have children later in life put off having them due to career ,s etc when sometimes its just due to not meeting the right man untill later imet my dh at 31 we married six months later and pregnant six months after that so my oldest son was borm at 33 my youngest took a year to conceive so he was born when i was 36 ideally i would have been ready for children mid to late twenties but life did nt turn out that way i,m 39 next month and probably wont have anymore but thats due to lack of space money tight etc and i,m happy enough with my two incidentally my sil is 5 months pregnant with her third she is two months older than me has a sixteen yr old and seven yr old so no way do i think forty is too old .

I think everyone should be able to do what they like really!
Although personally, there is no way i would have a child over the age of 35, but thats just me.
My parents were in their forties when they had me. I was their 'little surprise' 10 years after they had my brother. Unfortunately my mother died from cancer when i was 14 and my dad, who's now nearing his 70s has had many heart attacks, despite being very fit and healthy. He is an excellent dad, but him and my step mum are nothing like my partners and friends younger parents. They're off on holiday all the time enjoying their retirement, which i now fully respect, but it was difficult during my late teens not having my dad around all the time.
I'm also coming to terms with the fact that i will probably have to care for either my dad or my step mum within the next 10-15 years.

I don't think it's an ideal situation, but i wouldn't judge anyone who made the same decision.

My mum had my sister when she was 43 not planned but much loved. Its never been a huge issue but I know my mum has found it very tiring, especially in recent years dealing with a teenager when she should be heading for retirement. It has also had financial implications for my parents meaning that they have had to delay retirement to pay for her further education.39 is certainly not too old but I do think serious thought should be given to what your and your child future life will be like if having a baby at 40+

God no ofcourse not. If anything i would rather wait. My mum had me at 42 and i was her first. If anyone said that to me I would just laugh. She was a lot more "modern" than some of my friends younger mums.

Im 24 and have no plans to have children for at least 10 years. At a minimum.

I only met the right man to have a child with when I was 40. Got cracking and fell pregnant almost immediately, but had three m/cs before having DS. I would not necessarily have chosen to have my baby aged nearly 46 but that's how it worked out.

It is a bit silly when posters say "personal choice". It is your body's choice (unless you are going to go down the route of IVF).

Some people are super-fertile late into their 40s. But you only need to visit an IVF clinic and see the masses of women 35+ sitting there to realise that this is far from being the case for everyone.

My mother was 44 when she had me so I felt time was on my side. However investigations showed that I had nearly run out of eggs at age 37.

Having a baby in your 40s is great... but you can't assume it will just happen because you feel 21.

I was lucky to be able to get pregnant on a number of occasions well into my forties (not so lucky in hanging on to the baby but got there in the end!). I would certainly not advise other women to wait quite as long as I had to!

I didn't really think about babies until I was forty and always assumed I just would not have any (was in a relationship and lifestyle in which it would have been really unwise to have a baby, emotionally abusive etc). Then when I met my second husband he said to me after a couple of months let's have a baby, which took me by surprise. After the first m/c I just got more and more sure I really did want a baby (and I was right)!