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in not allowing my ex to let my 5yr old daughter talk to her death row boyfriend on the phone

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munkiboy1971 · 10/10/2012 22:00

She's been 'involved' with death row inmates since we split 2 yaers ago. She's sent pictures of our kids to them before and I asked her not to involve them in her relationships before now but I recently found out that she was allowing our youngest daughter to talk to her latest squeeze when he calls (using his illegally held mobile phone which inadvertanly have been paying for with the money I give to her for the kids).
It creeps me out to know she's been doing this and I've asked for a signed letter to say she's not going to do it again.
She's a pretty fancy piece of work but I really don't understand how even she can possibly think that what she is doing is in any way right.

OP posts:
AKissIsNotAContract · 10/10/2012 22:02

Wow. Surely you know YANBU.

OutragedAtThePriceOfFreddos · 10/10/2012 22:04

Really munkiboy?

PickledFanjoCat · 10/10/2012 22:05

Depends on the crime. Who is her latest squeeze?

DowagersHump · 10/10/2012 22:06
Biscuit
SoupDragon · 10/10/2012 22:06
Hmm
munkiboy1971 · 10/10/2012 22:07

Really. I didn't make this up. I wish I had.

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joanofarchitrave · 10/10/2012 22:08

Get legal advice.

squoosh · 10/10/2012 22:08

It depends.

Did he kill loads of people or just a few?

munkiboy1971 · 10/10/2012 22:08

Death row murderer type.

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OutragedAtThePriceOfFreddos · 10/10/2012 22:09

Ok.

So have you applied for residency of your children as their mother doesn't sound like she's doing a great job?

aldiwhore · 10/10/2012 22:09

I'm terribly sorry I don't really understand the phrase "she's a pretty fancy piece of work"? - like a table? Or something complex? Or fit?

Obviously children shouldn't be dragged into it.

I would seek legal advice.

YANBU for being concerned... I would be.

CrikeyOHare · 10/10/2012 22:09

I wrote a poem once about my death row boyfriend. Want a read?

As I stand here on this magic day
My heart is all a flutter
You really are quite handsome
For such a raving nutter
I know we've never met before
Our love has been online
But one glance at your mugshot
and I had to make you mine
Perhaps you thought I'd be put off
When I found out what you'd done
But few of us are perfect
And those that are just ain't no fun
You're due to fry on Sunday
When they take you to the chair
But please don't worry, darling
You'll look great with spiky hair
I'll love you till the end of time
Dear Prisoner 467
I'll think of you, down there in Hell
Cos I doubt you'll be in Heaven.

Moving, or what?

PickledFanjoCat · 10/10/2012 22:09

I'd be ok with it if it was less than 5 or 6.

PickledFanjoCat · 10/10/2012 22:10

Crikey, that's beautiful, man.

ScaryBeardyCandyman · 10/10/2012 22:11

I read this as your 5yo has a boyfriend on death row...

munkiboy1971 · 10/10/2012 22:11

I am now crying.

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OnwardBound · 10/10/2012 22:12
Hmm

If this is for real I second the posters saying you need to get legal advice.

CrikeyOHare · 10/10/2012 22:13

See, Munki, I told you my poem would move you Wink

GhostofMammaTJ · 10/10/2012 22:14

OP, print out a copy of Crikeys poem for her to use. She would love that.

DowagersHump · 10/10/2012 22:14

Honestly, I'm moved to tears too Crikey.

munkiboy1971 · 10/10/2012 22:15

I have spoken to NSPCC who have said it's not a child protection issue. Does anyone know where I stand legally?

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PickledFanjoCat · 10/10/2012 22:15

Well if you want her back you know what you have to do...

IneedAgoldenNickname · 10/10/2012 22:15

I read this as your 5yo has a boyfriend on death row..

Me too!

PickledFanjoCat · 10/10/2012 22:17

Detention is getting well harsh these days!

There's no need to kill em!

ShotgunNotDoingThePans · 10/10/2012 22:18

Are you in the UK? Where is your ex?