To think that long hair on young boys.......

[Haahoostory]

Is unfair on the child. It dangles in their face and gets in their way and must be really annoying for them. With girls you can clip it back or tie it up in pretty styles so no problem at all. It is the parents imposing their tastes and choices on the child - rather like when toddlers have pierced ears. Older boys with long hair absolutely fine - as they have chosen to wear it that way, but toddlers and younger boys no.

[YouMayLogOut]

YABU.

Boys and men can always have a ponytail, can't they?

[CouthyMowWearingOrange]

at Scottishmummy.

Do you have a permanent wedgie from your Judgy Pants? They must be cutting off your circulation if you are making snap judgments about everyone you encounter!

Take the Judgy pants off for a day, or try to challenge your judginess every time you make a snap judgment.

You might feel more relaxed and less stressed!

[pigletmania]

YANBU at all, especially toddlers where it looks all straggely. I am a short back and sides kinda girl, when ds 8 months has more hair he will be going to the barbers

[scottishmummy]

lol,we had the conversation with the grans and only when they agreed did they get free rein
regardless of their thoughts on organic food,ginger, or discipline they comply with our preferences
you see gran isnt the boss. and has never been lead to believe she has a major say

[cbeebiesatemybrain]

I don't get it, why is it ok on girls but not boys? Little girls must find hairclips and bands irritating too by your argument? My dd is only 6mo so yet to test this btw but my ds had long hair until he turned 2. I trimmed his fringe so it didn't get in his eyes but he had the most gorgeous blonde curls I couldn't bear to cut it! It looked lovely (yes I'm biased and pfb) and didn't seem to bother him at all. I actually cried when he had it cut off!

Sorry op I think yabu on this one. Gender stereotypes anyone?

[5madthings]

my boys all had long hair when they were little, it didnt get in their way at all, they liked it and so did we, we occasionally put a clip or bobble in it and as they have got older they have it styled as they like, ds1 is 13 and his hair is longer than mine, ie down his back, he likes it.

ds2 likes his shortish and he sometimes gels it up in a mohawk style!

ds3 and ds4 is shortish but not very short, as it grows it gets to a surfer type style, they like it and we keep it trimmed etc, its just a non issue.

my mil didnt like them having long hair nad refused to have photos of them as they looked like 'street urchins' her loss! and if any relative cut their hair without the express permission of dp or i then they would not be having access to the children unless we were there!

[minouminou]

All this "but it gets in their eyes, they can't do stuff....."
My arse. These people are just too spineless to come out and say they don't like it and they've got Da Fear of Da Gay, so they dress it up as "concern".
One word....Vikings.
And Mongols, now I think of it.

Didn't stop them, eh?

[Bluestocking]

Aitch, agree with "crappy wispy baby hair at the bottom". Especially when the mother harps on about how she can't bear to have his "curls" cut off.

[5madthings]

Oh and my mil now doesnt like dp's or ds2's hair as she thinks its too short and makes them look like criminals! cant win with her. i find that hilarious as my dad was RAF so had no 2 all over and it didnt occur to me that my father looked like a criminal, every adult male i knew in the forces had short hair, they were far from criminal!

[pigletmania]

My dd 5 has ASD and won't let us anywhere near her hair, looks all straggely, my friend just about managed to trim her fringe. I long to take her to the hairdressers for a lovely stepped bob

[Birdsgottafly]

"Birds I see you don't want to see your step grandchild much then"

I see you all ignored the grin, but anyway my relative agrees with me, it is us v the father.

I willbe a partial carer for a varity of reasons.

[CouthyMowWearingOrange]

My 76 year old Granddad has long hair that he pulls back into a pony tail when he is working.

My 52 year old Uncle has a mullet.

My Dad always had hair past shoulder length and permed a la 80's footballers.

My 50 year old stepdad has short back and sides.

My 21 year old Dbro has had everything from cropped to shoulder length and everything in between.

In my family, the men tend to have longer hair than the women (though I buck that trend with waist length hair), and the men spend far more time on their hair than the women do.

I guess given my family's hairstyles, I have learnt that hair is individual, and is up to the person whose head it is on.

[pigletmania]

I just don't like long hair on boys/ men it's my persons
Tastes, like some of you like long hair Nowt wrong with that

[scottishmummy]

saw wee boy with gorgeous long hair in park other day.looked v celtic
there are any number of things for folk to get hump about
and hair is as good a place to start as any i suppose

[ChristianGreyIsAJackass]

I havent been on mn for aaaaaages but am welcomed back into the fold with 'business at the front, party at the back'
Thanks tethers you have cheered me up no end!

[scottishmummy]

birds in fairness it was such a peculiar post
your attempt at humour was somewhat lacking
encouraging that you were kidding

[BegoniaBampot]

I do both as I can't be arsed going to the hairdressers all the time. They go, get it quite short and tidy and then it grows for ages relatively long till I can be arsed going back for the next cut. Little one likes his hair quite short as it's very curly and bushes out to a lovely bubble ad it gets longer. Do prefer it short for holidays, heat and swimming though.

[DreamsTurnToGoldDust]

Ds has rather long blonde curls, I like it, it suits him. I'd rather children not all look he same, they are all individual.

[Birdsgottafly]

I carn't look at a boy with long hair and describe as 'nice', let alone gorgeous, tbh.

But then i don't think that shaved heads look thugish.

[Bluestocking]

Birds, the didn't take the sting out of your apparently very aggressive stance on the entirely unimportant issue of hair length. But your latest post makes it clear that hair length is probably the least of this still unborn child's worries.

[minouminou]

Phew, Birds. I wasn't sure, there. The only thing that made me think you were joking was the "shaven baby" bit.....it was just too brutal to be true.

[Birdsgottafly]

The unborn child doesn't have any worries.

We all talked about it over dinner last night, because i have bought the pram and was talking about a variety of things.

[Birdsgottafly]

I'm in Liverpool, appearance matters.

[Kalisi]

at the thought of a Nan having any say in a babies hair!

[pigletmania]

Look why are people being castigated for not having the same opinion as everybody else, we are not shep and are entitled to our opinions