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To think that long hair on young boys.......

323 replies

Haahoostory · 07/10/2012 10:57

Is unfair on the child. It dangles in their face and gets in their way and must be really annoying for them. With girls you can clip it back or tie it up in pretty styles so no problem at all. It is the parents imposing their tastes and choices on the child - rather like when toddlers have pierced ears. Older boys with long hair absolutely fine - as they have chosen to wear it that way, but toddlers and younger boys no.

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Quadrangle · 07/10/2012 11:09

YANBU. If it is getting in their eyes then yes it will be annoying. If there is a particular reason why the child wants it in their eyes, eg. if they need to hide behind it, then fair enough.

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wisden · 07/10/2012 11:10

DS2 has longish hair. Not stopped him from playing at all. He has asked for clips/bobbles in his hair (normally when watching me blowdry my hair) and will happily keep them in. DD, otoh, would never tolerate anything in her hair, still doesn't, except for school.

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trio38 · 07/10/2012 11:10

These responses are hilarious. Particularly tthe one calling the OP a bigot and the one implying small children all choose their own hairstyles. Because that suggests that round here all 'middle class' toddler boys choose long floppy hair and all 'working class' toddler boys choose a number one all over.

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BupcakesAndCunting · 07/10/2012 11:11

Yeah what all boys should have is that vile, super-short haircut where the hair is so short you can't even tell what colour it is (always looks kind of greyish) or even better SPIKY hair.

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SirBoobAlot · 07/10/2012 11:12

Oh be quiet.

And I prefer boys with longer hair as opposed to ridiculous short crew cuts that make them look like want to be chavs.

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MadCap · 07/10/2012 11:13

What Bupcakes said.

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WofflingOn · 07/10/2012 11:13

I can't stand boys with a number 1 or 2 haircut, makes them look like mini-skinhead thugs.
But that's because of my age, as a youngster only thugs and dads had short haircuts. Cool dudes had long hair. Grin
Don't see the difference between long hair on girls or boys, our school rule is that it's tied back. Narrow-minded bigotry is more of a problem.

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wisden · 07/10/2012 11:13

theinets pretentious? really? DS1 had very short hair as a toddler, still does as a teenager (even though all his friends prefer the longer look) not sure how that makes me pretentious Confused

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scottishmummy · 07/10/2012 11:14

as parents we all impose our taste on weans,assert our preferences
i prefer wee boys with short hair have no issue if another mum prefers long hair
plenty long haired laddies round here have long hair its the mc way

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germyrabbit · 07/10/2012 11:15

i always find boys with long hair have parents who thing they're a bit trendy and right on, like kids who wear rolling stones and ramone t shirts Grin

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Kalisi · 07/10/2012 11:15

Completely agree with you OP, I think it's disgusting.My DS is 14 months old, I wouldn't dream of imposing my own views on the poor boy. He wears nothing as he does not like to wear clothes, he also only eats bananas and icecream and goes to sleep when he wants on the kitchen floor as that is what he prefers. I am having a slight issue learning French however as he decided last week that he did not want to be brought up with an English culture. Kids these days eh?

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TheHeirOfSlytherin · 07/10/2012 11:16

Hang on... why can't you tie a boy's hair up the same way you would if he was a girl? A two year old is not going to catch the gay-ness from putting a bobble or clip in his hair you know. (And my two year old boy actually likes it when I put clips in his hair, he thinks it's the best game ever).

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SeveredEdMcDunnough · 07/10/2012 11:17

Well I can understand that you have control at this age over their hair.

But wait till they get a bit bigger. They will tell you how they like it.

Please don't judge people whose children might well insist on having longer hair, without knowing what is behind it.

The same as I don't judge people whose toddlers/children have very short hair. I may not like the way it looks but it's not my child and I don't know their logic.

Thankyou.

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BupcakesAndCunting · 07/10/2012 11:17

Ah well. I must "thing" I'm a bit trendy and right on as DS has long hair AND a Ramones t-shirt.

It probably doesn't matter that he chose the t-shirt himself, as he really likes The Ramones.

Lesson learned, though. DS, tomorrow it's a grade 2 for you and we're off to Asda to get you a t-shirt with "I'm Fucking Trouble, Me" printed on the front.

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MissAnnersley · 07/10/2012 11:17

I would love it if DS had longer hair but my exP keeps it fairly short. I think long hair can look lovely on boys.

I'm not particularly keen on really short hair on boys for some reason but it really is just up to the parent.

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blondiedollface · 07/10/2012 11:17

This is akin to saying all girls should wear pink skirts and all boys should wear blue trousers.

Null and void OP in society today!

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scottishmummy · 07/10/2012 11:17

haha funny post. we all impose our arenting and preference on our kids
i dont buy those gross mini band tshirts. skanky
and seeing i pay i am the boss of what gets worn

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GoSakuramachi · 07/10/2012 11:17

The nasty comments about short hair are as judgy and annoying as the OP. How any of you could summon up the will to care about the length of other childrens hair is beyond me.

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picnicbasketcase · 07/10/2012 11:18

Not fussed either way but I don't like that thing where it's short all over with a little rat tail at the back.

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WofflingOn · 07/10/2012 11:18

'i always find boys with long hair have parents who thing they're a bit trendy and right on, like kids who wear rolling stones and ramone t shirts'

Yup, as opposed to cat's bum-mouthed 'O in't that disgustin'? from entirely pink-clad females with their girly girls and their macho men in tow.

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wisden · 07/10/2012 11:18

i always find boys with long hair have parents who thing they're a bit trendy and right on,

Hahahaha I am the least trendy/right on person. DS1 had short hair from day 1, ds2 has longer hair. Just the way it has turned out, nothing deep or "right on" about it at all.

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jellybeans · 07/10/2012 11:18

YABU. It's a silly gender assumption anyway that girls have long hair and boys short. In the past males had long hair. Up to each parent/child.

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sleeplessinsuburbia · 07/10/2012 11:19

I love longer hair, it looks natural, on my boys short hair seems too severe and adult.
I couldn't even imagine caring about how someone else's child wears their hair.

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monkeysbignuts · 07/10/2012 11:19

my little boy has the most gorgeous blonde (multi toned ) hair and he looks gorgeous with it shoulder length. so op yabvvu!

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germyrabbit · 07/10/2012 11:20

love how people get so wound up by these threads, if you don't care what others think you wouldn't get so beat up about opposing views

i meant "think" obviously - wow mn has got super snidey lately!

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