To think that long hair on young boys.......

[Haahoostory]

Is unfair on the child. It dangles in their face and gets in their way and must be really annoying for them. With girls you can clip it back or tie it up in pretty styles so no problem at all. It is the parents imposing their tastes and choices on the child - rather like when toddlers have pierced ears. Older boys with long hair absolutely fine - as they have chosen to wear it that way, but toddlers and younger boys no.

[bigsnugglebunny]

I'm in Liverpool, appearance matters.

indeed, it is the birthplace of the hideous "scouse brow"

[wisden]

birds I am assuming you are taking the piss now with your comment about buying the pram and being in Liverpool re appearances. I almost thought you were being serious! Gah, I am no good at reading sarcasm and irony

[pigletmania]

I would hate it if dh grew his hair long, it would not suit him and would try and cut it off

[WorraLiberty]

When I was little I had a sort of long bob style with a fringe.

According to my Gran, every little girl should have her fringe clipped back but I hated clips and hair slides with a passion.

I used to dread being taken to visit her because my Mum and Dad used to insist I had to wear a hair slide to 'stop her moaning'. They'd say "Oh keep still Worra, it's only for a couple of hours!"

As a result, I couldn't stand visiting my Gran and used to sit there feeling like a prize tit... with a hair slide that resembled a brown fucking polo mint on my head

[bigsnugglebunny]

teddybare presumably the step-grandchild is from her husband's side?

[colleysmill]

Ds has a double crown, 2 lovely circles rotating inwards.

If its cut short he looks like a cockatoo and it flaps as he runs along. Keeping it a bit longer means I stand some chance of getting it flat. Other than a really close cut which I personally am not keen on, longer hair is a better option for us.

[WorraLiberty]

Birds isn't a troll.

[CouthyMowWearingOrange]

Appearance only matters if you let it matter. I would rather bring my DC's up not to be sheep, and to be able to stand up for the choices they make, both in the way they live their life and their appearance.

Hair is just one way of doing that.

If other people have a problem with my DS's having their hair the way THEY want it, then surely it is the people commenting that have an issue, not my DS's?

Does it matter that my friend that runs a Nursery has bright pink hair? Does that somehow make her less able to care for the children?

Does it matter that my Granddad had his hair in a ponytail when giving advice on insurance, or did it only matter that he knew about the products he was advising on?

I just get meh when people make an issue out of something that is a non issue.

[WorraLiberty]

If its cut short he looks like a cockatoo and it flaps as he runs along

Sounds like my DS2

He's in danger of taking off on a windy day

[CouthyMowWearingOrange]

God yes, the double crown. You just can't work short back and sides with a double crown. Hence why DS1 has Justin Bieber hair through choice.

[colleysmill]

worra yes definately take off territory! its quite endearing to me but looks a bit daft to everyone else!

When ds is older he might want it spiky and gelled up but I'm not buying hair gel for a 3 yr old!

[jamdonut]

My youngest son always had short hair till he turned 10 and decide he wanted his hair long and floppy, and no amount of cajoling could persuade him otherwise. When it gets long enough to just about tie into a ponytail, I have to say enough is enough and he gets it trimmed (not cut short) and relayered ( to stop it flopping in his eyes).

[Peka]

I love my son's longish curly auburn hair. We get loads of compliments every time we step out the door. He'll be able to get tattoos, a short back and sides and refuse to do any housework when he leaves home. While he's with me he's going to have to live with the softer side of life. And, just because girls are being totally left out of this thread, I will also keep any daughter's hair above shoulder length until she's old enough to brush it herself without crying.

[colleysmill]

My SIS says ds's hair is very Noel gallagher -esque! But it works and can be made some what presentable!

[5madthings]

colley the madboys also have a double crown and i agree too short and it just sticks up! ds1 also has a birth mark on his head where no hair grows, so he needs to keep it at least a certain length to keep it covered up, the dr said this as too much sunlight on it would put him at increased risk of skin cancer on the birth mark. he has the choice now he is older to have the birth mark removed (they would do it with local anaesthetic so had to be old enough to keep still!) they would have to do it with a few operations, removing a little bit each time and gradually pulling the skin/scalp together so he would eventually end up wiht a scar/line rahter than the circle with no hair that he currently has. he is 13 nad is not bothered by his birth mark, you cant see it as his hair is so long and we have left the decision up to him. but when he was little it was another reason that we kept his hair long.

i dont care what other people do with their children hair, so dont judge me for the styles that my children have. as it is i dont like really short hair on little boys, hence mine not having it short but i wouldnt judge or comment on another parents choice of hair style for their child.

[Haahoostory]

Minouminou, how many gay men do you know with long hair? IME they tend to have stylish short hair. Anyone know any gay men with straggly long hair?

[pigletmania]

I don't judge other people for having their ds with long hair, don't really notice, just do t like it myself and will take ds to the barbers to have a cute David eckham quiff when he is older

[Haahoostory]

Also, if only genius khan had gone to tony and guy. Discuss.

[Birdsgottafly]

"birds I am assuming you are taking the piss now with your comment about buying the pram and being in Liverpool re appearances"

I didn't know that my relative existed 18 months ago. Her foster placement broke down and she got accidently pregant.

We are now making the best out of a less than ideal (who's is?) situation.

So, yes i bought the pram. I am helping her move from the hostel that she lives in. That is why i am so involved, she sees me as a surrogate mum.

Luckily we agree on the hair issue .

Which would seem odd to some considering she had green hair last month and is now pink.

My youngest DD (15) has emo hair, i just don't like long hair on boys, or untidy 'dead' whisps/hair on girls.

[arthurfowlersallotment]

Me, me, I know a gay man with long hair.

[Haahoostory]

Obviously gengis

[MrsTerryPratchett]

I know a gay man, balding with long hair at the back. Do I get a prize?

Could I also add samurai to Vikings and Mongols?

[purplehouse]

I don't like hair that gets in the way of vision or activities or is uncomfortable.

This applies to little boys and girls and also big ones. I know a girl who is 10 with one of those sidesweep fringes and she now always holds her head tilted to one side. She was trying to do a craft activity at a table and instead of looking straight at it, she was tilting her head with this ridiculous long side fringe. Can't help thinking it's going to give her neck problems.