Should this teacher have ignored my upset child?

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My DD told me that she got into trouble yesterday at school for not doing a part of her homework. Not her fault but mine (we had a very busy evening). Teacher tells her to get on with another task but DD went on with her reading. Teacher gives her into trouble and she started to cry. Teacher leaves her crying and another child went and got her a tissue. Teacher carried on taking another group of kids for reading and didn't go back to her.

When I asked her about it this morning she went a bit defensive and not in the least bit concerned that DD was upset. This really got my back up, thought her attitude was pretty bad. Told her that I didn't want DD upset like that again in the class.
I wouldn't mind but there are only 15 kids in that class and she has help from a pupil support worker. Far better conditions than a lot of teachers have I'm sure. Spoke to another mum who said she shouted at her child when he forgot to bring his homework in one day. These kids are 6 years old!

Should I approach the head??

We don't really know if she was told off for not doing the homework.

It seems that the teacher told her to move on, rather.

But the op's issue was that the teacher ignored dc crying after being told off.

Btw, I'm not too fond of HW either, but if it's given then it should be done. We have messed it up before and I do insist with DS that he does it in the morning before school. As well as ensuring he has time in the day to do it.

FWIW if one of my dc came home and told me they were upset because a teacher told them off for not doing as they were told in class they would be facing another telling off from me

So a child is told to do something by a teacher, chooses to do something else instead, gets told off for not doing what was asked, gets upset and then the parents want to complain because the teacher didn't make the upset child her priority in the middle of a lesson? And then the teacher wasn't concerned enough about the parents unwarranted complain the next day so the parent wants to complain to the head?

No wonder teachers struggle sometimes when this is the shit they have to deal with.

The mind boggles.

I think the two threads are completely different. Blanking TA is rude. This poster has already been in and made a tit of herself spoken to the teacher, blanking TA mother hadn't.

(Has she thawed yet BFLIWT?)

Past threads are brought up when relevant and Sammy didn't even posted a link.

And you were awfully rude.

I doubt the op is even reading this any more but the trouble is, if you refuse to admit your child might have been in any way at fault for any of this, you aren't helping.
If you march off and see the head every time she cries because she ignores a teachers instructions, you aren't teaching her anything.

Don't you think it would have been more appropriate to address your DDs behaviour also? To find out why she thought it was ok to ignore her teacher?

You cannot say to the teacher that you do not want your dd to be upset in class any more if she caused the upset by doing as she pleased.

And do they really have homework every night in year 2 at your school?
My DS2 is in year 4 and they don't.

Oh deat this thread has gone in a diffrent direction hasnt it

Only because the OP didn't like the answer to her AIBU.

I remember in year R a child being sent to stand in the corner. One the way they bumped their knee on a table and ended up sitting on the teacher's lap crying rather than in the corner.
I thought to myself "that's a good idea. If I'm ever sent to stand in the corner I shall bump my knee and cry too"