To think that the bullying culture on MN can be a bit much....

[tjah04]

Having been a member of MN since 2003 I have seen and read some disgusting comments from other members particuarly on this board.

I am starting to think that some of these people must be very sad and insecure.

Some of the names that are called are disgusting and I am sure that these people would never go up to someone in RL and call them that.

And do not get me started on the "I am better than you because I can spell" attitude which seems to be the final insult if all else fails.

Other comments include

"troll" "Oh not another thread" etc.

It is cyber bullying at the end of the day and as mothers shouldn't we all just grow up a bit? The MN team do a great job of deleting such posts but often the OP has seen it and the damage is already done.

OP I do not believe that you were called a "dyslexic Cunt" and no-one challenged the poster who said that, - I don't not believe that for a minute.

So what did you do, tjah04? Did you report it to MNHQ? Did you call the poster on it on the thread?

Where were you called a dyslexic cunt? Seriously, I don't think there is a person on this thread who would call anyone that

Name names, please. I would like to add them to my spreadsheet.

If posters are getting followed around the boards being called names on every thread they post on, then that is bullying behaviour and MN will ban people for that. Just FYI.

Someone calling someone a name on one thread, while pointless and unedifying, is not bullying.

I am really sick of seeing the word bullying being hijacked in this way. It definitely dilutes the reality of bullying.

YANBU - All internet forums are basically a playground, and involve a fair bit of ganging up and posters joining in a 'dominant culture.'

There can be a particularly nasty edge on MN sometimes - You do get a lot women deciding that they are here to deal out some 'home truths' - they behave aggressively, very very judgey, while tellling posters that if they react by being hurt, it's because they can't handle 'the truth'. Very rarely have I come across people like that in real life and then I have run a bloody mile! They are toxic as hell....

I think you also get problems with very regular posters feeling that they 'own' MN and get to say what goes and what doesn't. Playground stuff, again.

Then there is the hideous 'I don't care if you are upset, I'm going to prove I know how to use an apostrophe when you can't' posts. Along with the mocking anyone who uses 'hun' etc. Playground taunts with a dose of rank class snobbery.

I think if you want info about a specific problem, like latch and positioning in breastfeeding, Mn can be great. Likewise forums for miscarriage, bereavement etc - I think they have a huge value and are very sensitive places.

elsewhere on MN - you are basically walking into a playground, and sometimes you can see grown women queuing up to take (virtual) chunks out of each other. Strange and unpleasant.

Ah XP on the NC front.
Still about it though. Deeply.

x posted.
If someone called you a dyslexic cunt then that person is a cunt and is not indictative of MN.

Why can't I talk about it on this one, Hully?

OP I'm glad you came back.

A dyslexic cunt? Really?

I'd like 'dyslexic cunt' to be a medical condition.

I do think there are a minority of posters who are nasty about spelling and similar, but there are always loads of posters calling them on it.

I actually find that quite conforting.

But if someone calls you a dyslexic cunt, PM me, and I'll go yell at them. I enjoy it.

I am around. Just catching up on the posts as moved from one computer to another.

I would like it to be clear that the posters tarred with the 'having fun, derailing, mocking, piss taking, knowing people' sins are rarely the ones who queue up to dole out home truths though, wheresmespecs.

The self-righteous Po types take that sort of thing waaaaay more seriously than we do.

If someone called you a dyslexic cunt then I think you should name and shame.

I have been called a cunting dyslexic

self righteous? cheers! Like I'm ever right about anything.

I am only ever kind. To everyone.

Where? What thread were you called a dyslexic cunt? Because I've never seen anything like that - and I can't imagine the very great majority of other posters would allow that kind of insult to go unchallenged. Nope - I think you're probably one of the recent 'new' or 'namechangey' posters who's been whining on and on lately about being picked on, or not believed or whatever gripe is the flavour of the day. Being disagreed with or being picked up on runaway twattery is NOT the same as being bullied. Go educate yourself - you do a great disservice to the truly bullied.

Quite, we are all kind except when someone is a right cunt.

See Ed, why did you take sue's comment personally?

Do you ally yourself with the po?

Name thread and poster.

Will I be accused of bullying WhiteCherry's phone if I point out the glorious
autocorrect in her earlier post?

"They are given shirt thrift by regulars"

I need some shirt thrift, I spend way too much on shirts....

I really, really think you should link the thread or name and shame the person who called you that. That is shocking, and I would bet all of my wages for today (£32.56) that if that happened it was a troll who said it, not one of the "regulars".

Yes, tell us and we will all go and bully them - or have you "forgotten"