To think that the bullying culture on MN can be a bit much....

[tjah04]

Having been a member of MN since 2003 I have seen and read some disgusting comments from other members particuarly on this board.

I am starting to think that some of these people must be very sad and insecure.

Some of the names that are called are disgusting and I am sure that these people would never go up to someone in RL and call them that.

And do not get me started on the "I am better than you because I can spell" attitude which seems to be the final insult if all else fails.

Other comments include

"troll" "Oh not another thread" etc.

It is cyber bullying at the end of the day and as mothers shouldn't we all just grow up a bit? The MN team do a great job of deleting such posts but often the OP has seen it and the damage is already done.

I misunderstood then. What are the people posting you that you think should be posted on here?

Tough,

If I am honest I don't find what you are saying about derailing to be the case, but I know that lots of people say it and therefore do perceive it to be the case.

From my perspective I think that derailing, as opposed to evolving, tends to happen when people doubt the op or find it unhelpful/unpleasant, or simply when it's all been argued to death or become really spiteful.

I think the world is full of different types of people and similar types tend to flock together, so just like in rl you will find that those who like a larf tend to gravitate towards each other and chuckle, but anyone can join in, indeeed are welcomed.

Some people like to stick to one point and don't like things to meander or go so-called off-topic.

Some people find a group having a larf "quichey"

I don't know the answer.

I do think you should air your beef rather than allude. Allusion is rarely a good thing.

Some people find a group having a larf "quichey"

Don't give me any of that flan - nel :)

What do you agree with miss annersley?

egg-sactly woozley

Ah x-posted re PMs

I just assume that it isn't complimentary. And I am guessing it is aimed at particular posters or you wouldn't know what they were talking about

I am probably just jealous as I get no pms. Certainly not complaints.

Ooh yes Tufty. In fact I would go so far as to say she was victimising you. Damn her and her tasteful colour schemes.

Pleased to meetcha woozely How YOU doing?

I still haven't seen any egs of piling in and bullying. Not one. Except the LaQ one.

Oh, sorry Hully, I could have expanded a bit more on that I think!

I can see what tough was saying upthread in her post clarifying what she meant - about the way these threads evolve and absolutely agree with her last post.

I have seen piling in.
I haven't seen it by people I usually josh with or tbh I wouldn't josh with them anymore.
I wasn't on the lequeen thing so I know not of that.

Tough - were you on the thread about LeQ? It was random posters and namechangers having a go in the most horrible way. People insulted her children, her profile pictures, someone compared her to a slave trader. That's why she was defended. And it was mostly by people I've not seen before or since. IIRC someone said she registered just to make her point, but maybe that was another thread.

In fact, that's the nearest i've seen to bullying on MN.

I've just joined this thread after a rapid scan - can I just say that the derailing is something I've done when the thread is iffy or very goading-right-wing-loon.

I would never do it because it is someone new or I just disagreed with them.

i can never believe people feel intimidated - what do they think will happen??

I think it's a shame people feel intimidated but what's the worst that can happen? People disagreeing? If there are posters who agree with you tough, as I do, they should just say.

I think- as usual I haven't got a fecking clue.

I have seen an example of piling in against a regular, besides the LaQ thread. She posted about going for a night out with friends and getting groped by repulsive berks, and she got loads of shit back saying that it was basically her fault, oh and what was she doing going out and enjoying herself when she was still breastfeeding Was nasty.

I'm sorry you're getting hassled by PM Tough. I actually think that's very unfair, and if people want to say something on this thread then they should do it themselves.

And i think you have misunderstood my point - I mean that this thread was about someone - nobody still posting anyway - who apparently called the OP a horrible name. But it's ended up being about the usual cliquey/derailing/taking the piss accusations towards a few posters. THAT was my point about regulars - that the bullying is usually elsewhere but the end result of all these threads seems to be this.
Perhaps I'm not making sense

OH YES I saw that, scrambled

Hello Fut

I don't think we've met?

I'm Katie and I hate Peter Andre.

Open invitation?
Too scared?
I don't understand! Who are these people quivering in the wings? What are they scared of exactly. I think you're taking this a bit too seriously tough. Really?

I think the implication that there is a culture of cyber bullying on MN is unfair.

There are many thousands of threads on MN and hundreds if not thousands of new ones posted every day. Even in AIBU, there many threads that don't kick-off.

There have been times that I have seen someone getting a hard time - sometimes reasonably (because, for example, they are victim blaming or, as in one example yesterday, peddling horrible rumours about a "paedophile" and not even able to see what was wrong) and sometimes unreasonably. In the vast majority of "unreasonable" cases (and even the "reasonable" ones) there is a large degree of self moderation and people will call other people out for unnecessary name-calling.

I think YABU

Come on you quivering scardies

come out come out

we won't eat you