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To think that the bullying culture on MN can be a bit much....

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tjah04 · 04/10/2012 08:50

Having been a member of MN since 2003 I have seen and read some disgusting comments from other members particuarly on this board.

I am starting to think that some of these people must be very sad and insecure.

Some of the names that are called are disgusting and I am sure that these people would never go up to someone in RL and call them that.

And do not get me started on the "I am better than you because I can spell" attitude which seems to be the final insult if all else fails.

Other comments include

"troll" "Oh not another thread" etc.

It is cyber bullying at the end of the day and as mothers shouldn't we all just grow up a bit? The MN team do a great job of deleting such posts but often the OP has seen it and the damage is already done.

OP posts:
NolaFfing · 04/10/2012 16:23

I got linked to a thread a little while ago and it actually went back to around 2004 or some equally dim and distant past.

The first post said simply "You're a twat".

Now, some could say that was bullying, some would say it was honesty, some would say it was just nasty, some would say it was funny.

That's life isn't it? There are thousands of people using MN nowadays, and so there are thousands of opinions and feelings.

The people on here who are talking about having been bullied on MN really, really need to report those posters to MNHQ and let them make the call and have a word with the bullies. Otherwise it just looks like shit stirring and divisionism.

TantrumsAndBalloons · 04/10/2012 16:23

It was nasty for tee?

No it wasn't.

Jusfloatingby · 04/10/2012 16:24

I know. But when it goes back on topic people shouldn't complain and go 'oh this boring subject again'. This thread has been pulled way, way off topic and it's like there's two groups of people talking across each other.

amillionyears · 04/10/2012 16:24

Admittedly that sort of thing happens a lot less on MN,even than 6 months ago.
I think people are quicker to report than they were previously.And MN are most times quicker to respond than they were 6 months ago.

I think an extra problem can arise,when posters are in a group,and there is some kind of fallout.And then the poster is very reluctant to report.

TantrumsAndBalloons · 04/10/2012 16:24

I Like pies. Apple pies.

LaQueen · 04/10/2012 16:24

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Jusfloatingby · 04/10/2012 16:26

Anyway, I'm going back to baby names. Much more fun and pleasant over there. (Most of the time).

TantrumsAndBalloons · 04/10/2012 16:26

Nor have I.

But I have eaten many.

LaQueen · 04/10/2012 16:26

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MaryZed · 04/10/2012 16:27

I wasn't on Tee's thread, I only saw it at the end when all was sweetness and light.

I think it was unfortunate that Tee wasn't around when it all got jokey in the middle - it was one of those threads that sort of evolved and got jokey and pokey, and was funny for anyone who was on it at the time.

Tee missed a chunk in the middle, so when she got back it looked very spikey, and she may have been upset. But she took it on the chin, accepted it in the spirit in which it was (mostly) meant, and they all lived happily ever after. Had she not taken it so well she might have been very upset, I accept that.

But I don't think there was any intention to deliberately upset her. I really don't.

Pagwatch · 04/10/2012 16:27

I m not sure it was nasty for Tee tbh.
I was on it fairly early on posting the thing.

Tee posted one thing and a load of snarky miserable fuckers just started posting 'but I don't understand'. But a similar group of people turned up to mock the snarkers.
It wasn't bullying. It was an influx of po possibly.
And I really doubt that Tee felt bullied.

MaryZed · 04/10/2012 16:27
NolaFfing · 04/10/2012 16:28

"I know. But when it goes back on topic people shouldn't complain and go 'oh this boring subject again'. This thread has been pulled way, way off topic and it's like there's two groups of people talking across each other."

But so what? Who cares? Just ignore it and carry on posting what you want to say. I got pretty bored with the paint talk on this thread (using this thread as an example) so I wandered off. I don't feel bullied by it. Confused

Jusfloatingby · 04/10/2012 16:30

Who said they felt 'bullied' by this thread? Confused

LtEveDallas · 04/10/2012 16:32

LteveDallas,I posted to seeker,about seeker

That's me told then Grin. How very chippy of you. How about if you want a private conversation use Private Messaging - the clue is in the name.

Tee wasn't bullied, and even came back onto the thread to take the piss. AND was on FB laughing about the thread.

See, some people see bullying everywhere. Ridiculous.

OrangeandGoldMrsDeVere · 04/10/2012 16:32

I have been called names
I have been disagreed with loads of times.
I have been told to leave threads and have had people ascribing (is that the right word) beliefs and feeling to me that are waaaaaay of the mark.

I wasn't being bullied. Someone was being unpleasant and/or disagreeing with me.

I rarely report.

What is the point? It's the bloody Internet. These people are to in my house. Unless they are trying to run me off MN why would they affect me?

Cyber bullying is when someone is repeat lay targeted. Sent PMs, followed to different sites.
It is NOT one thread on one site.

NolaFfing · 04/10/2012 16:33

There was talk earlier on the thread about gangs of posters who "derail" threads being bullies.

Jusfloatingby · 04/10/2012 16:36

But that wasn't what I was talking about. I was talking about one or two posters who seemed to object to this thread going back to its original topic and I wondered why they just didn't leave the thread if the original topic didn't interest them instead of constantly pulling it off topic, objecting when it was pulled back on topic, pulling it off topic again and so on and so on.......

Anyway, I really am off to baby names now.

FunnysInLaJardin · 04/10/2012 16:38

Tee wasn't bullied on that thread at all Confused Loads of folk got the wrong end of the stick and and loads of others took the piss.

Now what I want to know is when we all started bolding things we wish to emphasize rather than italicing them. I'm not keen personally. LaQ what do you have to say for yourself?

NolaFfing · 04/10/2012 16:40

OK, but you were talking about people derailing the topic, which was a pointer to bullies and that was what I thought you were saying. Apologies for the confusion.

ScrambledSmegs · 04/10/2012 16:40

I'm Shock at Baby Names being fun and pleasant! Some of the nastiest comments I've ever been the recipient of were on that board.

I made an apple pie last night. It was bloody good. I'm surprised as I'm shit at pies.

TantrumsAndBalloons · 04/10/2012 16:41

I don't like italics. sorry

BigStickBIWI · 04/10/2012 16:42

Funnys - I think it's because 8 is easier to reach than 6

Pagwatch · 04/10/2012 16:42

Ok.
I head tilted.
I head tilted in a mocking way because people were posting 'are you ok'.
So I said 'tee, it's not just 'are you ok' - its 'are you ok .

I am not looking good am I?
But I was defending Tee against the po with mockery.
I am getting stressed now. I was accused of 'mob mentality' on another thread a while ago.

amillionyears · 04/10/2012 16:42

Lte,I didnt want a private conversation with seeker,I wanted a public one with her,so I had one. Just like you are doing with me.

chippy,dont know what that means, I notice you are good with words though.

Tee recovered 2 days later,hopefully fully recovered. She came back to the thread because she said someone had posted to her that it was safe to come back,or somesuch.
Do poeple want the thread linked?