To think that the bullying culture on MN can be a bit much....

[tjah04]

Having been a member of MN since 2003 I have seen and read some disgusting comments from other members particuarly on this board.

I am starting to think that some of these people must be very sad and insecure.

Some of the names that are called are disgusting and I am sure that these people would never go up to someone in RL and call them that.

And do not get me started on the "I am better than you because I can spell" attitude which seems to be the final insult if all else fails.

Other comments include

"troll" "Oh not another thread" etc.

It is cyber bullying at the end of the day and as mothers shouldn't we all just grow up a bit? The MN team do a great job of deleting such posts but often the OP has seen it and the damage is already done.

This thread has gone full circle, hasn't it?

I expect Olivia will pop up any minute to delete it as "not being in the spirit of the site" or summat, and we will lose all the valuable paint opinions.

This is another problem with deletions. There can be no proof that it happened, and no proof that it didn't.

I ensed up with 5 children. All biscuits and juice gone.
I have ordered the grey paint. I might take myself to Lydl tomorrow and get a sander for the floorboards.
So much excitement.
Are you all still being bullish?

Sometimes people are too upset at the time but later get annoyed and start a thread to unload and get other people's opinions. And if people on here don't want to discuss this topic, fine, leave the thread. Why hijack it to discuss something else and then get all yaaaawny when it goes back to its original topic.

I don't even know what anyone is talking about.

"I've seen bullying"

Where?

"I just have"

Well that's interesting.

Clunge, anyone? Dead salmon?

LteveDallas,I posted to seeker,about seeker.

It has not happened on this thread,never said that it did.

It did sort of happen to Tee a couple of weeks ago.Tee had to hide her own thread for a couple of days,before returning.
It was done in a sort of jokey way.

People did and will say it was a joke.Maybe it was,maybe it wasnt.
She did not report,or chose not to report,that was her choice.

But then it's a thread about a thread, isn't it?

Because most of us who are here a lot like the site.

And we are defending it by saying there is no bullying culture on Mumsnet.

Why should I leave the thread and let people say untrue things about the site without challenging them?

If the op is looking for other people's opinions, she has got them. It's unfortunate that she doesn't like them, but they are opinions none-the-less.

I want to know what the super secret deleted thread was all about - a subject so touchy it cannot even be mentioned . Except the dyslexic cunt comment.

If the op got her arse kicked and it was unfair then that is bad. I have had my arse kicked. I have had really really vile things said to me - not random name calling but abuse about me (and my child actually.)

But what I didn't do was blame everyone else on mn for not stopping it. I assumed that it was a nasty fuck who had a nasty fuck agree with them. I didn't randomly blame posters who probably weren't even on the fucking thread.

tee wasn't bullied FFS

LaQueen - I don't think that pack mentality goes unchallenged any more. I think there are many "regulars" who would challenge that now, and indeed have.

HullyGully

It would hardly be helpful if we all dragged up threads where we've been ourselves bulliedor seen others being bullied and started naming names and dredging all the rows up again. I think that would definitely warrant this thread being closed.

MaryZed
I didn't see anyone saying you should leave the site

'40 people do NOT pile in and post abuse. It would NOT be allowed. It would NOT happen.'

Perhaps not 40 but a good ten or so. I know, it has happened to me. Even now I can barely think about it, it was really terrible. MNHQ did nothing. It was several years ago though.

Oh - was that Tee laughing about Facebook thread.

I was actually on that one!
I knw about that one!!!!

Please say it was that one!

No, you told me to leave the thread. I said I wanted to defend the site because I like it, that's why I'm on the thread.

Why should I leave the thread just because I disagree with the op.

And it isn't really helpful to start a thread calling everyone bullies is it? Stating that there is a culture of bullying on Mumsnet? Who does that help?

That wasn't what I meant MaryZed.

Some people were doing kind of oh yaawn I see we've gone back to that boring bullying topic kind of thing. I was making the point that that was the topic of the thread and that if people found it boring and wanted to talk about something else then why stay on this thread and try to pull it off track by talking about something totally different and then sound jokey annoyed when it got pulled back on topic.

Yes pag that Facebook one.

Did it seem bullying to you? Cos I missed that part

Pagwatch,yes that one.
It all ended ok at the end,but the middle was unpleasant, or very unpleasant
for Tee2072.

I want to talk about pies now. I've done paint. I'm over the paint, for now. Pies is where I am now. The pie was invented by a woman called Daphne Forrester. In 1876.
I'm going to make a pie.

And tbh it was not derailed in a nasty way. What else was there left to say?
No one wants to clarify what happened on the thread the op is talking about.