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AIBU?

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Is this rude?

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DesperatelySeekingPomBears · 04/10/2012 08:28

Just for the record, I know its a small problem etc etc but I was just wondering if anyone would think this was an okay thing to do.

NDNs are generally lovely, friendly etc. However recently DP got rid of his car and, while he looks for another one, he is taking mine to work.

We have a double driveway and every morning, as soon as DP leaves for work, NDN puts his wife's car onto our drive. Right up against the garage doors. Every morning.

Now, I can see that this makes things easier for them as they park one behind the other on their single drive so it prevents them having to juggle cars. However, they never ask which I find... Well... A bit rude to be honest.

AIBU to think they could ask to make sure I don't need to be in my garage or that I'm not expecting visitors?

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Lovelygoldboots · 04/10/2012 08:31

YANBU, they are taking the piss.

saffronwblue · 04/10/2012 08:31

YANBU. This should be a favour to be checked with you. Not a right.

WelshMaenad · 04/10/2012 08:32

V rude. Just ask him not to. It's your property!

AmazingBouncingFerret · 04/10/2012 08:33

Open the garage door as your DH is leaving for work and see what happens then.

mistlethrush · 04/10/2012 08:33

Yes, this is rude. Its actually rather strange.

They should definitely be asking.

I would wait until the most awkward time and then ask them to move it so that you can get into the garage. In fact I would suddenly start to need to get into the garage very regularly. I would then be fairly upfront with something like 'I'm sorry, but its not at all convenient to have to keep popping round and asking you to move your car off OUR drive, please could you keep it elsewhere?'

Do they move it back in time for DH to get back?

CailinDana · 04/10/2012 08:33

Very rude. I would just put a big sign on the garage door saying "This carpark will now be charging £2 and hour. Please call to the door to pay, thank you."

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DesperatelySeekingPomBears · 04/10/2012 08:42

It's always moved before dp gets back yes. It just seems like such an odd thing to do without asking. Tbh when we first moved in they'd been using the drive while the house was empty but for the first few weeks they seemed to really resent us for taking "their" parking. However after DS was born they defrosted and became really friendly, which is why I'm not keen on causing animosity [wimp]

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sugarice · 04/10/2012 08:53

This kind of car parking thread always has me seething!

The cheek of some people, it's your drive, who do they think they are. I wouldn't be able to keep it to myself and would ask them why are they doing it.

ChasedByBees · 04/10/2012 08:56

Weirdos, I'd tell them to move it!

QuietNinjaTardis · 04/10/2012 08:58

Do you have a gate you can shut as soon as dh has left? Very rude and bizarre not to even ask. It's your property!

StuntGirl · 04/10/2012 09:05

[sigh] I will never understand people's weirdness about parking. What is wrong with these people? YANBU.

If you don't want to cause bad blood perhaps leave it 'til you get the new car. Then they won't be able to park there anyway.

RobotLover68 · 04/10/2012 09:08

me and my NDN have an agreement we can use each other's drive to turn car on (busy road) and we do use each other's drive if necessary - but we always knock first!

yes it's rude (and weird)

BitOutOfPractice · 04/10/2012 09:08

That's not a bit rude. That's a LOT rude! Unbelievable!!

You have to say something. Even just to ask them what their thinking is behind it. Why they think they are allowed to do it

LRDtheFeministDragon · 04/10/2012 09:24

Yes, it's rude.

You should go round, looking very solemn:

'I'm terribly sorry, I've just tried to push open my garage door from inside, and heard this horrible crashing, scraping sound ...'

Wait for them to react.

'Fortunately it was just the door mechanism creaking a bit, but would you mind moving your car so I can open it safely?'

The moment of considering their precious car with a great gouge from your metal garage door should help with their motivations.

(I'm hoping you have a push/pull job, not a slide-y upwards one.)

OhChristFENTON · 04/10/2012 09:24

It's rude of them not to ask, very presumptuous.

For the sake of harmony though I would have a word and ask them not to park so near to the garage as you need to access it from time to time, - and point out that DH is getting another vehicle so they shortly won't be able to park there at all - but you don't mind in the meantime provided you can get into your garage.

I sympathise, I am also a wimp about these sorts of things.

Sparklingbrook · 04/10/2012 09:25

What a cheek. What if you want to get in your garage?

HorraceTheOtter · 04/10/2012 09:26

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TeeBee · 04/10/2012 09:28

Wow! Are you sure they havent asked your dh? I wouldn't have any qualms about marching round and just asking them to remove their car from your drive. Unreal!

BigFatLegsInWoolyTIghts · 04/10/2012 09:30

It strikes me that they're bullies.

StateofConfusion · 04/10/2012 09:31

This would seriously annoy me, we had a huge works van on our drive most days when we first moved in, our car was not on the drive as we'd moved in to the garage and were then moving stuff to the house, far easier with 2 mad dcs, and most days we were stuck unable to do a thing. Eventually caught the bloke and went postal. Best to resolve now before you reach batshit crazy like I did.

OutragedAtThePriceOfFreddos · 04/10/2012 09:31

Extremely rude.

I'd struggle to contain myself, but the best thing to do would be to politely ask them not to.

BigFatLegsInWoolyTIghts · 04/10/2012 09:31

OOOH! Do what LRD says! I love it!

Ingles2 · 04/10/2012 09:32

of course it's rude! Can't believe you have to ask tbh...tell them to park on their own drive

Sparklingbrook · 04/10/2012 09:32

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LRDtheFeministDragon · 04/10/2012 09:32

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