Is this rude?

[DesperatelySeekingPomBears]

Just for the record, I know its a small problem etc etc but I was just wondering if anyone would think this was an okay thing to do.

NDNs are generally lovely, friendly etc. However recently DP got rid of his car and, while he looks for another one, he is taking mine to work.

We have a double driveway and every morning, as soon as DP leaves for work, NDN puts his wife's car onto our drive. Right up against the garage doors. Every morning.

Now, I can see that this makes things easier for them as they park one behind the other on their single drive so it prevents them having to juggle cars. However, they never ask which I find... Well... A bit rude to be honest.

AIBU to think they could ask to make sure I don't need to be in my garage or that I'm not expecting visitors?

[Sparklingbrook]

It's the thought that he's watching, waiting for your DH to go.

[DesperatelySeekingPomBears]

Well that was awkward.

I went to pop the stuff in the garage and knocked and asked for the car to be moved please thanks if it's not too much trouble

She very sniffily asked if it was an inconvenience and, in my head, I said 'of course it's a bloody inconvenience, it's MY DRIVEWAY!'. However, my head is braver than my mouth which responded with 'no, no, at least, not until DP gets another car, then mine will be on the drive all day again [nervous laugh]'.

Would some brave north eastern MNer like to come and be my backbone?

Ugh, roll on us getting our deposit together and moving somewhere else.

[sugarice]

Have they moved the car though?

[LRDtheFeministDragon]

Well done you!

I am always like that - it makes me squirm to do this stuff in real life.

She's got bloody cheek asking 'is it an inconvenience'. No, you idiot, what do you think?!

[Pancakeflipper]

Pats DSPbears... never mind. Just get DP to get a car right now.

[louismummy]

why don't you have to keep going into the garage everyday and get them to keep moving the car ( just to really annoy them) then they will see it as an inconvenience. Or speak to the landlord.

[Sparklingbrook]

Yes-go car shopping immediately. Does she ever go out in the car?

[Shelby2010]

Just make sure it's an 'inconvenience' to them & ask them to move it at least once a day - especially if it's raining. Hopefully they'll get the message.

Actually, why don't you start keeping ds's buggy in the garage 'to save trailing mud thro the house' & then they'll have to move every time you decide to go out.

[badtasteflump]

Yes, do the buggy thing, definitely.

Cheeky bastards

[SuePurblybilt]

I agree, you're going to have to get into the garage at least twice a day, more if you can summon the courage. Then after the weekend, when you go to ask them to move, say 'this is getting a bit silly isn't it, shall we just go back to you parking on your own drive?'

Lots of bonkers neighbours threads atm

[InfinityWelcomesCarefulDrivers]

ooh I'm in the NE and I don't have to live next to them
(I don't think)

[panicnotanymore]

Send your DP round in the evening to have words about how you were very embarrassed about having to knock their door, and the situation must not arise again.... i.e. they must not park in the drive when he is out. It would help if he looks a bit scary. Does he??

[InfinityWelcomesCarefulDrivers]

Invite me round. I'll come round for a social call as your long standing gobby friend. OOH HAVE YOU BEEN GETTING A NEW CAR? WELL WHOSE IS IT THEN? WHAT, THEY JUST PARK IT ON YOUR DRIVE? WHAT A NERVE YES A COFFEE WOULD BE LOVELY THANKS"

We can do a planned passive aggressive move :)

[InfinityWelcomesCarefulDrivers]

planned, loud, passive aggression. It's always the best way to resove neighbourly disputes :)

[DesperatelySeekingPomBears]

Lol infinity that sounds fantastic.

DP is big and broad (he's a rugby prop) but I'm not sure if he's scary. He does seem capable of intimidating people purely with his strong Geordie accent though so maybe sending him round might work.

[InfinityWelcomesCarefulDrivers]

Brill, I'll be over in 20 minutes. Now where should I park?

[hugoagogo]

Fucking Nora I am glad I do not have a drive for people to metaphorically piss all over.

(although my neighbours do come and cut my grass sometimes, which winds me up no end.)

You could go back and say "having thought about it; it is a bloody inconvenience and would they never park there again."

[Shelby2010]

Do they know what time DH gets home? Any chance of him coming home early, block them in & then refuse to move the car until the next day? You could claim DS crawled off with the keys & now you can't find them. Until tomorrow when DH goes to work early & you knock on their door at 6am to get their car moved.....

[DesperatelySeekingPomBears]

I'll put the kettle on infinity and oh, just pop your car directly behind the silver skoda

[badtasteflump]

Ok - so if you don't want to speak to them about it again and DH doesn't want to either, do it my way the cowardly way - stick a note through their door saying that you've checked with your landlord and the whoe double driveway is yours, not theirs, so they cannot park there. Full Stop.



I wouldn't worry about pissing them off - they sound as if they're stroppy bastards anyway.

[YellowDinosaur]

I'm north east too. I'll come round for a good bit of passive aggression. I can also bring my boys round to play football next to their car if you like? :o

[picmaestress]

This is hilarious! They'll be using your garden and barbecue when you go on holiday next!

Who cares if they then choose to not speak to you if you make your territory clear? It's no great loss is it? They're the ones causing the problem. Absolute nutters.

[kakapo]

It's just too ridiculous though isn't it? They surely MUST think it is a shared drive. That would explain the sniffy reaction to being asked to move as well as the initial parking. Occam's razor...

[Sparklingbrook]

Halloween's coming. Just a thought