Just for the record, I know its a small problem etc etc but I was just wondering if anyone would think this was an okay thing to do.
NDNs are generally lovely, friendly etc. However recently DP got rid of his car and, while he looks for another one, he is taking mine to work.
We have a double driveway and every morning, as soon as DP leaves for work, NDN puts his wife's car onto our drive. Right up against the garage doors. Every morning.
Now, I can see that this makes things easier for them as they park one behind the other on their single drive so it prevents them having to juggle cars. However, they never ask which I find... Well... A bit rude to be honest.
AIBU to think they could ask to make sure I don't need to be in my garage or that I'm not expecting visitors?
AIBU?
Is this rude?
DesperatelySeekingPomBears · 04/10/2012 08:28
plutocrat Don't worry, he's got plenty of neighbour disputes to deal with - just none of them started by us 
. What he doesn't realise is that everyone within about 10 houses of his is either totally intimidated by him (handy with his fists and his DW is the archetypical fishwife) or is making a complaint about them to whatever is the relevant authority for the current issue every verse end.
Most entertaining ones were when he built a stockade around the very small front garden and block paved it - we live in a conservation area so no sooner had this massive fence gone up then everyone opposite was onto the council (parish clerk being one of them 
). A week later he took it down and to this day he thinks it was us - too thick to realise that as we are the only people in the street who couldn't actually see it unless we were outside, then we hadn't bothered .
Another entertaining one, and related to the fence, was that his DW decided she was going to be a childminder. Turned out the fence was to create a safe play area, however, not having the benefit of complying to any of the requirements for CM - didn't register being the least of it, the children stopped coming after a few days, presumably when their mothers discovered that they were in fact simply leaving their pfbs with some random stranger .
He thinks we were behind that too. And don't get me started on his behaviour toward the family from Ivory Coast who arrived a couple of years ago and live on his other side...
Our NDNs are like this, right down to the "we own, you rent, you have fewer rights than us" attitude. The first day we moved in here neighbours both sides came round to tell us exactly where we could and couldn't park - funny thing is though, its a terrace house and all parking is on the public highway 
. So they were in fact trying to ensure that they could park outside their houses and ours and we could park? - well elsewhere.
Then a random guy from the houses behind who had his own drive but didn't want to put a vehicle on it came round shouting the odds that we couldn't park at the back of the house either because he needed what would sensibly be our space for his van.
We took no notice of any of them and park on the street just like everyone else, but that didn't stop them banging on the door day and night and telling us that because we are tenants we had "no right" to park there.
One of them, as someone else suggested upthread is very territorial. He "patrols" the area immediately around his house at the back (again this is the public highway) and makes life a misery for anyone in the street who strays beyond his imaginary boundaries. He works stacking shelves in the supermarket at the end of our road and takes his boundary issues to work with him - when DH goes in there, he rushes over and starts rearranging anything DH touches, standing as close to him as he can, while never making eye contact or saying anything.
He sneaks up to our kitchen window (open yard at the back) when he thinks I'm not there and peers in and comes up the front path to do the same at the front windows occasionally. He gets quite agitated if I have the washing out and flips up big items so they are wrapped around the line which runs parallel to the pavement at the back if they are flapping in the wind .
There's more - we caught him climbing on the roof of the coal shed trying to push something into the overflow pipe from the loo one day and for the first few years we were here, his DW used to throw leftover food onto the coal shed roof "for the rats birds to get". we asked her time and again to throw it onto her own roof but she didn't want the mess...
.
I could go on - good to get all that out though . Sorry to hijack.
I can't believe the cheek of them! And i can't believe you told them it wasn't an inconvenience!
I would retract that in a letter through their door.
Oooh, did someone mention a NE coffee morning
I can bring cake.
I really don't understand why people think they can use others property without asking - it beggars belief!
You need irregular, unannounced coffee mornings . And afternoons. For everyone you know (and some that you don't).
I'm in the NE - shall I bring scones?
A few nails on the drive on a regular basis might do the trick
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