AIBU to find this quite horrifying?

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Friend has posted on FB:

'Dear Jim
Can you fix it for me to go out with a girl from my class?
Love Jeremy Forrest, Aged 30'

Said friend is a police officer :(

I'm horrified. De-friended him.

Great that we still live in a society where jokes cn be made about rape and child abuse. Fucking awful.

I think if you have in anyway been impacted (on a personal level) by rape or child abuse you would feel ill by jokes like that (as I do) :(

Halloween how is that job related? It is the news! Unless he happens to be a investigating officer, which I would guess he is not!

Bugger.

I'm sure if this policeman were to be involved in a child abuse or rape case he would do his job. It's meh at best and hardly an indicator that this copper would behave less than professionally.

Report him?! Jeez.

Well then I suggest you get off this thread then monkeys

And I am far more appalled by the idea that people should report others to their superiors for making jokes that are broadly satirical, such as this one. It's officious and shows that you have little or no sense of proportion.

I don't see the need to make everyone think like me - though I'd quite like to live in a world where rape, child abuse and a whole bunch of other stuff wasn't deemed funny - defriending was enough for me as stated, I don't have to see it then!

"FFS, are we in the playground "ooooohhhhhhhh, I'm tellinnnnnng!" As i said above, I am sure he has colleagues as FB friends and if it is deemed inappropriate then one of them will do something"

or everyone else will be thinking that someone else will do it?

anyway those of you that think its reasonable, what harm do you think would come from reporting? if its so reasonable and "just a joke" like?

Enough for me in terms of not reporting / screenshotting etc etc.

Monkeys: not necessarily. How you feel is valid, but not everyone feels like you: I have known survivors of sexual assault use black humour as a coping mechanism - it works for them so who's to say they should be made to shut up because not everyone agrees?

sense of proportion? I wouldn't send it to a lorry driver's boss! this is a police officer!

solidgoldbrass hadn't thought of it like that - interesting point. Still glad I defriended tho.

He made a mistake putting it on Facebook because of reactions such as this thread but really, humour like this is extremely commonplace amongst police, doctors, nurses, funeral directors etc etc

Making a joke like this is not the same thing as thinking the actual events are funny.

I'm pretty much with Londoner unless she said something crazy since I typed this.

Probably a massive overreaction from the senior staff as they feel they have to be seen to be doing something to appease the likes of you. That's the harm.

My partner in the forces he found it funny.

I work with teenagers - I do not .

I don't find it remotely funny, but neither do I find it horrifying People have always and will always joke about everything, even and especially the worst taste stuff.

He could potentially get in trouble as senior officers are petrified of stories getting leaked to the daily mail or some such and the public clutching their pearls in shock.

It's hard not to personalise jokes if it relates to you but I'm sure this officer would never dream of taking sexual assault less seriously. There is a big difference between ones personal humour preferences and professionally standards and I don't think one necessarily informs the other.

"really, humour like this is extremely commonplace amongst police, doctors, nurses, funeral directors etc etc" Yes it is, in "safe" contexts i.e. around colleagues when it's "safe" and not going to be overheard by people who might be sensitive to it! not on facebook!

don't insult most public service workers by not seeing that most are perfectly capable of seeing the line there!

Read it, think what a dickhead he is for writing it then get on with whatever you're doing.

YANBU, particularly as your friend's a police officer.

And people in professions may use black humour as a coping mechanism - but if this is the case, they really should know better than to put jokes like this up on a Facebook page or similar.

Halloween, that attitude is bloody scary, that you expect public servants tonot only carry out their duties impeccably ( which is reasonable)but to also have private lives that YOU judge to be acceptable. Bloody scary stuff.

actually most public service workers registering bodies require that, so it's not just me!

Is there not a difference in survivors using humour as a coping mechanism for their own experiences and others making a joke out of pretty much anything?

and most have no problem in complying at all! its not difficult

Ah maybe I'm too uptight ... I'm not generally a pearl clutcher and generally pretty liberal - guess it's the same reaction I'd have to jokes about disability or ethnicity. I'm pretty uptight about language actually too and have been known to defriend when disabalist or racist stuff posted - maybe time for a cull!

e.g. no 61: www.nmc-uk.org/Nurses-and-midwives/Standards-and-guidance1/The-code/The-code-in-full/#reputation