To think bathing your children together at this age is not right

[Fishwife1949]

I was talking with my friends friend at her house on our friday lunch date we were talking about our children growing up aour kids are all of a similar age

My mates mate say she cant let go and stil
BATHS her children together (confused) she has a boy and a girl the girl is 11 and the boy is 9 WTF

I nearly spat out my tea

I really think this should end around 5 mark and maybe you could get away with a little later of there same sex

My mother used to force me to share a bath with my sister when I was about 11 too, my sister was 5 years younger. I hated her so much for it, I'd make my sister pretend I'd bathed with her but really I'd sit on the bathroom floor waiting for her to finish then I'd bath separately. I still resent her years later. Your friend is being very unreasonable, 11 is too young to share a bath.

could shock you and say my DD shares a bath with her auntie :)

Surely it's never too old for siblings to see each other naked? Why would you have a cut off same as parent/child...

i have a 12 year old and an 11 year old - both boys. They haven't both fitted in the bath for a long time so they have bath one after the other. Mostly they have a shower. They still like to chat when in the bath tho so one will sit on the toilet seat while the other one is in. They still shout me to come and wash their hair - not the slightest bit body concious - but I think it will be me refusing to go and do it if they don't stop asking soon!

DC 7 and 5 still happily bathing together. Saves time and hot water.

treadonthecracks snap

never too old as in even ADULTS??

no way do I want my parents or siblings seeing me, or want to see them thank you!

There is no reason for them to stop unless they have expressed a wish to! My 11 year old would quite happily climb in the bath with me or his dad if only he were still able to fit LOL

My 13 year old DS has started locking the door when he is bathing now but I think thats mainly to get away from his annoying little brother rather than anything else :)

Ds is 10, dd is 8 and rarely bathe together nowadays, mostly they don't get along very well at the moment.

I think the only cut off should be when the children feel uncomfortable with sharing tbh.

My DSs were still sharing a bath (through choice) until a couple of years ago - at which time they would have been 12 and 9. They probably would have still shared past this aside from the fact they wouldn't both fit in it!

We only got a bathroom door recently (long story) so none of us have the door closed when we have baths anyway, I'm very used to the boys walking in and out when I'm in the bath and vice versa.

Mine aren't body conscious at all.

Totally agree with MoveitMoveit but then I'm one of those that can't understand problems with nudity in general

For some 11 year old girls I would say it's inappropriate for them to bathe with their 9 year old siblings, for others it wouldn't be.

Even if 'inappropriate' I don't mean it in a sexual emergency way, more that at a certain stage in a child's development they appreciate and need a bit of privacy.

If it isn't an issue for your friend's children, then it isn't an issue.

Though I don't bath my two boys together as its just asking for a flood!

Surely kids of this age don't need to be "bathed" at all? They're quite capable of bathing / showering themselves, or should be.

Family nudity really isn't an issue with us.

We all wander starkers around the place after showers looking for clothes or whatever, including 11yo DD who is well into puberty. I find it a little strange when I hear other homes are different.

I daresay there will come a time when DC will demand more privacy

However, what makes us laugh is how outraged she is when she sees too much bare skin on magazine front pages etc.

She has never seen a Sun page three yet, she will hit the roof when she does!

She still actually baths them at the age of 9 and 11. That is the strangest part.

at teh age of 11 I would have totally freaked out if my DM had tried to get me to share a bath with my brother, let alone bath us.

DD (6) and DS ( almost 9 ) occasionally bath together but they often don't want to and I don't encourage it because of the bloody mess

i last shared a bath with my sister in our twenties.

with my brothers, as they still will wander round my parents house in the buff (unless there are guests) there is still nudity in common space.

I wouldn't share a bath with one though. It always looks like a monkey's been in it. Hair everywhere.

I don't know why she's bathing an 11 year old

The sharing the bath doesn't bother me, but being 11and bathed by my mother would!

My ds is nearly 11 and my dd is 9 and they still have a bath together.

So what?! I mean really so what?

They want to, they have a laugh together.

Jesus Christ.

Durr my dd is 8 - how do I not know that?

I don't like the idea of it, from the point of view of privacy for the 11 year old.

Why if they are not bothered? We're not talking about forced co-bathing FGS!
My ds is totally unbothered about privacy/nudity (he's 11 this month).
This thread is depressing.