do they really humiliate Bigger BMI pregnant women now?

[KillerRack]

I am a bigger BMI, and have anxiety issues.

I've been turning my own stomach recently worrying that in hospital they will make me you have to use a fat person delivery room, or a huge bed or god knows what.

just need some reassurrance it hasn't turned into a circus really?.

AIBU to worry so much??.

I had an epidural. Marvellous. I did have emcs in the end after being in labour for long enough that they thought it necessary.
I also have pcos,losing weight ( for my wedding) resulted in pregnancy,feeling & looking better. I piled weight on after having ds & joined slimming world & lost 2.5 stone. Since being back at work I have slipped off it but am careful not to get all that weight back on. Being obese is no joke,don't get stressed out about it in pregnancy though,just be mindful. So many people overeat in pregnancy,as I said in my earlier post I kept it to a minimum.

I'd say no. They certainly mentioned it alot, but not humiliated no.

GoldShip I don't mean to be unkind so please don't take this personally.

Your friend is beautiful but she is overweight.

Now whether she's too overweight for treatment I don't know because I'm not a Doctor but you can see that she is definitely overweight.

Meant to say, you look great too!

My BMI is high. I'm high risk because of my BMI and the illness I suffer from.

None of the Dr's I have met has even mentioned my weight. The only time my weight has been mentioned is during my scans.

I have been told to see an Anesthetist at 34ish weeks but would have had to see him anyways. I also have to have a GTT at 10weeks, 26weeks and another a little later on, I also have to inject myself with the Clexane, but again most likely would have had to even if my BMI was healthy.

If she lost her excess weight she'd obviously still be a very beautiful young woman, because she is a beautiful young woman, she'd just be a healthier looking beautiful young woman who could then go back to her doctor and say that she got her BMI down by X and her symptoms have/have not changed and they could move on to the next step in her treatment

I don't think a "friend" should tell an overweight person that they shouldn't loose weight because they'ld "look like an idiot", its really not helpful, but then some people don't like it when their friends loose weight...

killer they cannot make you have an epidural.
They may tell you that inserting an epi in a woman with a high BMI is hard to do in an emergency.
That could be interpreted as manipulation/scare tactics or the truth.

Depends on what side of the advice you are on I suppose :)

If its any comfort, the higher the BMI doesn't not mean the more you are patronized.

Unfortunately that can be par for the course regardless of weight.

GoldShip my friend has this problem although unlike your friend, my friend is morbidly obese.

But I've known her since we were teenagers and when she was around 17/18/19yrs she looked around the same weight as your friend.

When she was 22yrs she had a baby and ended up gaining 7 stone during and after her pregnancy through sheer relentless over eating.

A few years later she was diagnosed with PCOS and to this day (she's 43yrs now) the Doctor still can't tell whether she got PCOS due to her weight...or weather she gained weight due to PCOS.

It's a bit of a minefield

And I still can't spell whether in the right context

Your friend is a bit overweight Gold, but is no way obese.
She is very cute.
What is the BMI that tilts you over onto to the obese scale?

It could be something to do with this postcode lottery we keep hearing about

I enter my postcode every week and so far I've won fuck all!

My BMI was about 32 - 33 when I got pregnant with DS. None of the medical people I saw humiliated me for being obese, although my scan report did have a note about DS being a bit hard to see because of "maternal adiposity" (which means mum with a fat tummy in normal language).

And regarding losing weight in pregnancy - I asked my midwife at my booking in apppointment if I should be making an effort to watch my weight during pregnancy, given my obesity. She told me, very firmly, that I should not go on a weight loss diet while pregnant, as if I starved myself it would be bad for the baby.

She said I should try to eat healthily so I didn't put too much on, and to not overeat because all that "eating for two" stuff is nonsense.

"Thing there needs to be clear guidelines, instead of what seems like a doctors opinion. I've known larger girls to get treated"
medicine doesn't work that way, the doc assesses the whole picture of the individual. If it was as easy as saying "everyone over X get Y drug" we wouldn't need doctors to go to uni for so long

So if someone says it more politely, now its true?

Poor OP! Your thread got rather derailed there No one can force you to have ANY analgesia or intervension you don't want! For what it's worth, I had an obese, verging on morbidly obese friend pg only 1 week ahead of me. They were much more worried about me; she maintained her weight, I scoffed troughs full of cake put on quit a bit 5 stone and I started out with a bmi of 22. If you're making a good attempt at healthy eating and gentle exercise unlike me , I doubt they will harp on at you much.

OP I had a BMI of 50 in my last pg. I did have a few extra appointments but was never humiliated. I didn't have a special bed or anything, no special equipment. I wasn't offered an epidural, I didn't ask for one either. I didn't feel like I was treated any differently to anyone else.

goldship perhaps the GP suggested your friend try and lose weight to see if it helped first, before putting her on any treatment? PCOS is a funny condition- my sister and I both have it. I conceived just by looking at DH, and as I said I had a BMI of 50. My sister's fertility was drastically reduced, and it took 9 goes of Clomid before she fell pg. She is a normal weight.

Perhaps if you're so anxious you should see if you can get to a healthier BMI before the birth?