To put naked pics of your 10 year old DD on FB

[KellyElly]

Was just looking through some holiday pics of my friend and her family on FB and linked are pics of her friends DD (10 years old) naked and being thrown about in the pool by my friends husband and various males friends.

This made me feel really uncomfortable not because I think the men r peadophiles or anything like that but I just don't think a girl that age should be butt naked in this situation. Please tell me if I'm a prude, IBU etx as I hace a young DD (only 3) and this made me feel really uncomfortable.

I have childhood issues that make me feel like this and need to know if its that making me feel this way or if others do too. I don't trust my own judgement on this sort of thing.

flatpack why are you being so sarcastic. This is not just about whether it is appropriate for a 10 yo to be nude in the presence of others. That is another debate altogether.

But I would think that any child, whatever their age, has a reasonable right to privacy esp. with regards to their nude pics on internet which will be there for eternity. Who knows how many have dowloaded those pics, tagged and shared with friends etc.

Are you suggesting that there are no paedophiles anywhere or they exist in a parallel universe?

Yest another reason that I am so glad I don't 'do' Facebook. Why are people so obsessed with it?

as if you would let that happen!!! i think its weird, my dd was gettin hairs by that age... not that that makes any difference. each to there own but i think its WEIRD and not ashamed to admit.

What about naturist holidays , where everyone is naked ? Are they all closet peados ? My friend went on one with her parents when she was around 10 and said the first day was a bit freaky , but after that you stopped caring and staring !

YANBU.

'Yes, the mother is clearly failing to protect her child because ALL MEN ARE PAEDOS.

Jesus wept.'

Sorry? Where did I say or even imply that?? Jesus yourself.

and I know the statistics

Just as I would not want to be seen or touched by men I didn't know well enough to trust with no clothes on - I wouldn't want my child to be.

Is that not Ok with you? However non-paedophilic or otherwise perverse those men might be.

FFS

Yes frumet, but that is a totally different situation than described by the op, it's not a nurturist holiday and nobody else it's naked just the girl, which really does not sit well it does not. Posting the pictures on the Internet is just not on, anybody could copy them or get hold of them for their use

Flatack would you put pictures of your nacked child on Facebook where anybody including male and female paedophiles can see them . If you would shame on you for violating your child's right to privacy

I'd be freaked out by any adult - male or female- who didn't suggest that a child- (towards whom they were not in a parental/ caretaker role), wear something even if it was just pants. When the child in question is not a toddler.

I see where flatpack is coming from BUT given the majority's sensibilities, it is off to have a 10 yo child running around naked and it is very unfair to post photos of it on FB.

I know a few 10 year olds who look quite grown up, breasts, hair, period. Totally inappropriate to be running round naked in front of any adult male/female. Would it be acceptable for me to run about nacked in front of my parents, friends aunties and uncles, no it would not. A naturist camp is different situation, everybody is nacked Its set up for that

YADNBU. Although she may have set the privacy at friends only there are ways around these things. i personally would be uncomfortable with any man (or woman) throwing my 10 year old around whilst naked.

I actually read a few public blogs where naked childrens pics are on display, usually painting around a dining table etc, but feel that this is very irresponsible of parents to put their kids at risk.

Are they Swedish?

My point exactly fatack, you responded to my post in a stupid unintelligent way. Just shows what kind of person you are

As a parent you have to make responsible decisions for your chid, putting pictures of your caked chid were they can be accessed by anyone and yes including paedophiles is utterly irresponsible. Parents are not reflect they do Sicily things as can be seen here. Your arguments just do not hod weight, good thing the majority on here have common sense

Meant parents are not perfect they do silly things, stupid auto correct

Flatpackhamster - I am reporting your post, purely and simply on the basis that you used a disablist and offensive term.

A 10 year old, however, should be guided by parents not irresponsible morons like this girl's mother.

Sorry, but couldn't help PMSL at this. So children should be guided by their parents unless their parents can be judged as 'irresponsible morons' by a bunch of complete strangers on the Internet, in which case they shouldn't be. Have I got that right?

Mydog, hardly anyone knows the history behind that word.

The name calling isn't on, though.

I'm sure that nobody in the picture was a paedophile, and this particular child obviously wasn't bothered about being naked in front of male friends (her Dad doesn't count). Every family has different boundaries, and it's likely that this was completely legitimate.

But even assuming that everything was fine that way: she isn't a small child any more. She's old enough to be highly recognisable in the photos for years to come: and old enough that some of her classmates probably have their own FB accounts (limit is 13 but IME lots of parents let their children on much earlier).

Well Jenai I do - and before anyone asks, I didn't have to google. It's offensive and nasty. And I reported it.

Some people are not self conscious about nudity. In some countries this would be perfectly normal. My children have always walked around naked, and are still not embarrassed (older than 10 now); I sometimes have to tell the teenage boys to get some pants on, if we are expecting visitors.

I don't think there's anything wrong with a 10 year old not being embarrassed, but in our society it is not acceptable to post those pictures, as some lunatics would see it as pornographic.