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To put naked pics of your 10 year old DD on FB

148 replies

KellyElly · 27/09/2012 21:38

Was just looking through some holiday pics of my friend and her family on FB and linked are pics of her friends DD (10 years old) naked and being thrown about in the pool by my friends husband and various males friends.

This made me feel really uncomfortable not because I think the men r peadophiles or anything like that but I just don't think a girl that age should be butt naked in this situation. Please tell me if I'm a prude, IBU etx as I hace a young DD (only 3) and this made me feel really uncomfortable.

I have childhood issues that make me feel like this and need to know if its that making me feel this way or if others do too. I don't trust my own judgement on this sort of thing.

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MacyGracy · 27/09/2012 22:07

Kelly, you can report the photos yourself, they won't know it's you. Just click on the Report/remove tag underneath and select 'nudity and porn' option.

Dominodonkey · 27/09/2012 22:11

Apart from the obvious idiocy of posting naked pictures on the web I would be concerned that this family have little awareness of social boundaries. The fact that she was naked with a variety of her mother's friends sounds very odd to me. I personally would think it a little strange if a 10 year old was happy to be naked in front of her brother or father but I do appreciate that all families are different in this regard however this is seems very peculiar indeed.

Seenenoughtoknow · 27/09/2012 22:11

According to a statistic I read recently, about 15% of girls are sexually abused in some way by the age of 18. With a statistic that scary I would be as worried about random men manhandling the girl as I would be about the photo's. What on EARTH was her mother thinking??

AndiMac · 27/09/2012 22:12

There are two issues.

One is being 10 years and naked in front of others.

Two is putting pictures of naked 10 year old with others on public display.

Issue one is not the concern, as we don't know the situation ie, how comfortable the family is with nudity.

Issue two is the concern, as obviously more than just family and close friends can see the pictures and all it takes is one weirdo to see them, copy them and spread them across the Internet.

I would report them as well as contacting your friend to let her friend know.

McHappyPants2012 · 27/09/2012 22:12

report the photo

crackcrackcrak · 27/09/2012 22:12

Yanbu on both counts. Fb especially. Why do people post these pics - just why?

MacyGracy · 27/09/2012 22:13

No man I know would be happy to be throwing a naked ten year old girl about in a swimming pool. This is very,very wrong.

pigletmania · 27/09/2012 22:13

Totally inappropriate, I would send a pm to her saying that it is

Anonymumous · 27/09/2012 22:16

Report it to FB and ask them to take the photo down - that is just wrong.

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KellyElly · 27/09/2012 22:17

I didn't think the photos were porn and I don't think they were meant that way. I just wamted to know I wasn't weird for thinking this as I have issues about this kind of thing. Her mum posted the pics and that's up to her but I just had a really strong emotion about this and felt I needed advice in relation to my own hang ups so I don't mess up my DD as a result of what I went through.

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pigletmania · 27/09/2012 22:19

Sorry running about nekkid at 10 I totally inappropriate foran older child. She is not a little toddler but growing towards being a woman. A few of my friends at tat age started to grow breasts, pubic hair, starting periods, very wrong

pigletmania · 27/09/2012 22:21

No iwould tell the mum sh is wrong, she is violating her dd privacy, any Tom, dick or Harry could get hold if the pictures they are on th world wide web, very worrying

AnyFucker · 27/09/2012 22:22

who mentioned porn ? Confused

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MacyGracy · 27/09/2012 22:26

Anyfucker, that was me referring to the option to select on Facebook when reporting the photos, it is one title option only 'nudity and pornography'.

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KellyElly · 27/09/2012 22:27

anyfucker Kelly, you can report the photos yourself, they won't know it's you. Just click on the Report/remove tag underneath and select 'nudity and porn' option.

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foreverondiet · 27/09/2012 22:28

YANBU - infact I think 10 too old to be naked in pool at all whether photos taken or otherwise.

I personally wouldn't put naked photos even of a baby on facebook or even in photo album as I know we hated naked photos as teenagers even if offending photo was us at 3 months old. Obviously ok for 3 year old to be naked in pool - by 5/6 I think at least knickers should be worn.

Dominodonkey · 27/09/2012 22:29

defineme yes and if 40 year olds wish to cavort naked that is up to them. A 10 year old, however, should be guided by parents not irresponsible morons like this girl's mother.

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KellyElly · 27/09/2012 22:33

Dominodonkey amen to that :)

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AnyFucker · 27/09/2012 22:33

sorry !!, missed that re. the option to report on FB

CrunchyCowPat · 27/09/2012 23:12

My DD has recently become very private about her body, so can't imagine for one moment she'd feel comfortable naked in front of other people. This just doesn't sit right but as others have pointed out, we all have differing opinions re nudity. That aside, the pictures on FB are another issue entirely - YANBU. Anyone can gain access to these pictures and once they're out there......Agree with all those saying report to FB - they do take it seriously as a friend of mine found when she had a ticking off for posting pics of a male stripper.

CrunchyCowPat · 27/09/2012 23:13

Agree dominodonkey

modifiedmum · 27/09/2012 23:16

I wouldn't feel comfortable and I look back of photos of me at 10/11 and i was starting to get boobies already, seems a bit odd.

CouthyMowWearingOrange · 27/09/2012 23:19

My 10yo DS1 gets to OK EVERY photo I post on fb of him. And my albums are set to friends and family only.

YANBU. 10yo is too old, and tbh, I wouldn't be posting naked pics of ANY of my DC's online. Because those pics will still be online when they are teenagers and adults. They have the say in that. Not me.

FionaOJ · 27/09/2012 23:30

That wouldn't sit right atall with me.

Yanbu.

I guess the cut off for nudity is different for all families but I would say 7/8 max? Maybe younger. And I am thinking of getting changed on the beach etc, not messing around in a pool with adults! No reason for her not to have a swimming costume or bikini on.