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To stop giving a shit and get fat!

149 replies

Inneedofbrandy · 24/09/2012 21:42

Im a 10 on top 12 on bottem, this can to yo up and down slightly. Im dreading a life time of denying myself cake biscuits cheese and nachos. Why can't I let myself go ( as my mother would say) and stop giving a shit and just eat cake. Whats going to be so bad if I end up a 14/16?

What's so good about staying a 10/12 I would love to be a 6/8 if I could, but hey I love food and I want cake every day so fuck it, it's winter and I'm going to get fat!

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panicnotanymore · 25/09/2012 08:35

Ignore the word fat, and think about health. Why would you want to be unhealthy? Diabetes, high blood pressure, poor circulation, swollen ankles, heart attack, stroke.... Would you voluntarily sign up for any of those?

I like being slim, not for vanity reasons, but because I love being outside, taking part in sport, having loads of energy, being able to run and climb. I couldn't do any of the things I love if I piled on the pounds. I'd be bored, miserable, and hate my life.

expatinscotland · 25/09/2012 08:42

I don't much care for my health, tbh. I can't be arsed not enjoying food and life to be a size 6/8. I'm a 12, but I stopped caring.

Not all people can go running, either. I have had 4 knee surgeries (back when I was a size 6), and now have plantar fascitis in my left heel and Achilles tendonitis in my right leg.

becsparkel · 25/09/2012 08:43

Worra, smoking isn't a feminist issue though is it?! Have you actually read the book? It doesn't say it's ok to eat a house and weigh 40 stone, the book discusses why we have become obsessed with being fat/slim, where those notions come from and how society, the media & the diet industry feed it. It also discusses our emotional ties to eating, which the majority of diet books don't.

I still don't see the problem in being a size 14/16, how is it a Heath issue?

MadBusLady · 25/09/2012 08:54

Exercise doesn't make much difference to weight IME. I still do it, but not for weight control reasons.

fatlazymummy · 25/09/2012 08:56

becsparkel clothes are size 14/16, people aren't.
If the person who wears a size 14/16 is healthy ie has a healthy BMI and fat distribution then the size of her clothes isn't a health issue.

dexter73 · 25/09/2012 08:57

I suppose that if you eat what you want all the time and do no exercise you will quickly go past being a size 14/16 and end up very large and very unhealthy. That is when it becomes a health issue.

ithaka · 25/09/2012 09:09

It is personal choice, but I would HATE to be fat, no food is delicious enough to be worth feeling lardy and frumpy all the time.

I put on a bit of weight after my first child and I felt like I didn't know myself in the mirror. I worked to lose it and made sure it didn't happen again with subsequent pregnancies.

I just hated that feeling of being a chubby mummy, it is so not me. I love to be slim, fit and lithe and as I get older, I am so happy to be slim as I feel it has helped me stay healthy.

My DH has just lost 2 stone through healthy eating and says he is sleeping better, feels so much healthier, his IBS has gone.

So, up to you, but mountains of fattening food does not seem to me a fair substitute for a healthy, fit body that looks good and will hopefully see you into old age.

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Inneedofbrandy · 25/09/2012 09:38

No I concur I do not want to be overweight or fat. I don't want all those health worrys and feeling frumpy.

I do eat healthy but even when I eat healthy I have to be so strict to stop the pounds. I'm fed up of thinking about it. I'm going to start running plus 5:2 to stay what I am with eating nice food.

With the using sizing to describe my weight is due to how weight can fluctuate to each person with their height and bones. What is completely normal weight for one person would be overweight to another.

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WorraLiberty · 25/09/2012 10:03

becsparkel The OP is asking if she's being unreasonable to stop giving a shit and get fat.

You said she was not being unreasonable and told her to read a book called fat is a feminist issue.

Well in my opinion apart from the fact fat is a health issue and the nation is in the midst of an ever increasing obesity epidemic, it's irresponsible to tell anyone they're NBU to to stop giving a shit and get fat...even if you have brainwashed yourself into thinking it's a feminist issue because you read a book on it.

I would no more recommend someone purposely did this to their health than I would recommend they took up smoking.

ZZZenAgain · 25/09/2012 10:09

being a size 14 would be ok, I know a lot of women that size would look good and I doubt it would be an unhealthy size for you but if you get into a habit of eating a lot of sugary food, I expect the problem would be maintaining the size 14 over time.

zookeeper · 25/09/2012 10:11

Crunchy, tell us more. For years I've dieted and in all honesty have just got steadily fatter. For the last couple of months or so I've really tried to eat what I want but mindfully and , whilst I haven't lost anything, I've not gained anything either which is progress for me.

How did you lose the weight? Any pearls of wisdom for us porkers? it

Sorry for thread hijack btw Smile

StinkyPig · 25/09/2012 10:14

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EdMcDunnough · 25/09/2012 10:14

I eat whatever I like, including a LOT of cake and chocolate and so on, and I stay the same weight. I just eat less of everything else I suppose.

It balances out if you listen to your body.

I'm still a 10/12 like you and I agree, life is far too short not to eat cake. But it won't necessarily make you fat - only if you insist on eating your normal, healthy stuff as WELL as it. You need to balance it out, which you probably will naturally if you just eat when you are hungry and not at other times.

AnOldieButNotSoGoody · 25/09/2012 10:18

I hear you OP.

I actually said this to dh the other day.

I'm a size 10 atm, but feel like I'm always thinking about calories and how much exercise I need to be doing.

But I don't like being heavier than I am now. I don't like feeling fat and choosing clothes that hide bulges.

So I'll have to put it with it.....

EdMcDunnough · 25/09/2012 10:20

Oh and I do very little exercise. I'm not very fit, probably - but I feel Ok (apart from being pregnant which is difficult!)

I was anorexic for four/five years and after I recovered from that, my weight stayed between about 8 1/2 and 9 1/2 stone, it's been within those limits for about 10 years now and it fluctuates but it doesn't worry me - onyly thing is I feel more 'free' and like myself, iykwim, when I'm in the lower half of that, and can wear things more easily and feel like I look Ok.

I don't think too much about weight. I think about how I feel - if I'm hungry, what I'd really like to eat, what I don't want, and so on - and stop when I'm full, and really, your body is quite clever and will tell you if you just listen to it. Sometimes cake is exactly what you need, often it's something savoury or fruit or whatever. Just because you let yourself eat cake etc, doesn't mean you'll never ever want anything else again.
In fact it stops you from panic-eating unhealthy stuff, because you know you can have it when you want some and you won't have that awful sense of self denial to stop you.

YouMayLogOut · 25/09/2012 10:26

YANBU. It's perfectly reasonable to prefer cake to being thin :o

Beamur · 25/09/2012 10:26

Whats 5:2?

Ephiny · 25/09/2012 10:29

I eat cake (and whatever I fancy really) and I am not overweight. It doesn't have to be a choice between being fat and depriving yourself. I just don't keep eating once I'm full - not in an attempt to 'be good' or lose/maintain weight, but simply because it doesn't actually feel nice, and why would I want to make myself uncomfortable.

Your choice, of course, but ask yourself honestly if you'd be happy at that size. And as others have said, it's not always easy to lose the weight once it's gone on.

OHforDUCKScake · 25/09/2012 10:31

I second doing 5:2 diet OP!

All you have to do is lower your calories 2 seperate days a week and on the other days you can eat what you like guilt free. I lost 5lb very quickly.

Im on a break at the moment because I cant shake the end of this stomach bug but as soon as its totally gone, Im back on it.

The best thing is its EASY.

OHforDUCKScake · 25/09/2012 10:33

Beamur for two days you eat 500-600 calories. The other days, eat what you want. Simple!

EdMcDunnough · 25/09/2012 10:41

Oh my God, how can you be happy on 500 calories!!! Shock

Life's too short for that as well imo Smile

Surely it just makes your body think it's starving and try to compensate?

MadBusLady · 25/09/2012 10:52

Nope, it doesn't, it works (though I'm not religious about it, I'm more 6:1).

I wouldn't have tried 5:2 without doing low-carb first though, I think that would have been hard. Low carb teaches you about satiety and gets you off the horrible cycle of feeling so hungry you could faint/throw up (usually just before your 4pm Twix).

It's like crunchyfrog says, it's amazing what your body actually wants when you learn to listen to it. Eating not much for a day here and there is really not a big thing for it.

EdMcDunnough · 25/09/2012 10:58

Oh that's good.

I do notice I lose weight more if I don't eat a lot of bread/cake/biscuits, and put it on quicker when I do.

MadBusLady · 25/09/2012 10:59

I don't do it if I REALLY don't feel like only eating 500 cal Grin. Hence the more like 6:1.

TalkinPeace2 · 25/09/2012 11:35

NB
Anybody who says they are "still a size 12"
Sorry ladies, you are delding yourselves.
The waistband on a pair of size ten jeans has increased 4 uiches since 1970.

What is now a size 12 was then a size 16

If you do not believe me, go to a vintage clothing store and try some stuff on.

5:2 is really easy. I nearly started fasting again today because I did not feel hungry - so had a huge mug of tea! But big dinner with DH tonight to balance it out.