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did we really deserve this? I was in p&c parking and blue badge owner got pissy.

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StateofConfusion · 21/09/2012 17:51

Arrived at sainsburys today after fetching dd from nursery, not bothered where we park but 4 empty p&c spaces so popped into one of them.

In the store about 15 mins. Go back out to the car to find a car waiting and indicating for our space, bit odd I thought how does she know that's our car.

As me and dd approach I load her in and dp loads in the shopping.

I hear lady muttering in the car behind "bitch" I turned and she looked away shrugged it off and got in to leave.

Then she winds down her window and says "you don't need that space you lazy fat fucking bitch" I am 27 weeks pregnant.

Me and dp look around, either sides cars are displaying blue badges, I check the sign in front is p&c and underneath painted on the floor is p&c, the blue badge owners are there as there's no more of there spaces.

I politely told her we were in a p&c space so she continued screaming at us we were selfish and she'd seen we had no badge and asked customer services to do a shout out to get us to move, they ofc told her the same as I had, p&c space doing nothing wrong.

Dp just reversed to leave and she pulled in tight to our car so he couldn't move carried on shouting at us to give her, her space. And how selfish and entilted we were, screamed at my 3yo not to look at her.

Anyway we eventually got out fully and left.

Dp asked If she was there when we arrived, I'm pretty sure she wasn't and anyway there were 4 spaces when we had! If a blue badge owner appeared I'd move our car imeadiatly, but since there were 4 p&c spaces I didn't see an issue with using one as we were parents with a child!

Did we really deserve this telling off?

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dysfunctionalme · 22/09/2012 11:27

Totally misread this. Thought she called you names and explained she was 27 weeks pregnant by way of explanation!

What a crazy person she is.

Try not to let her take any more of your energy as you did nothing wrong and she had merely forgotten to take her meds.

BeyondTheLimitsOfAcceptability · 22/09/2012 11:37

Definitely speak to sainsburys and report to the police. Tell them you were to upset to do it at the time if they ask.

Dawndonna · 22/09/2012 11:43

My dd and dh have a blue badge. They would never treat anyone like this, it's awful. I hope you are okay.

hmc · 22/09/2012 11:53

Haven't read whole thread - but she was a fucking loon. I think blue badge owners should by all means park in p&c places if they need them, but to abuse you for parking in p&c is abusive and unreasonable

Angelico · 22/09/2012 11:54

She sounds completely unhinged Of course YANBU.

A phone call to the police to make a complaint might be in order because she actually sounds dangerously mental, the kind of person who rams their car into another car because they're having a bad day...

Angelico · 22/09/2012 11:55

But I am confused here - did she have a blue badge? I know it wasn't a blue badge space but is that why she felt so entitled by some mad logic???

sashh · 22/09/2012 11:55

Genuine question: why would someone need a blue badge if they don't have a physical disability?

Heart disease. Non visible disability. I worked with someone who got abuse for parking in a bb space when he 'obviously wasn't disabled' - he took his artificial leg of and threw it at them.

hmc · 22/09/2012 12:05

Yes heart disease as sashh says - my mother has a blue badge but other than being elderly doesn't look disabled. However if she walks more than a few hundred yards she gets breathless and feels very faint and dizzy and has to sit down to recover (heart issues)

Thumbwitch · 22/09/2012 12:06

Emphysema/ lung disease = another reason. Invisible, can maybe walk a short way but not far.

Ullena · 22/09/2012 12:32

Hope you are ok OP. What a bizarre and unpleasant situation!

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StateofConfusion · 22/09/2012 13:57

Angelico I realised after I wrote this thread I didn't actually see a badge, I just assumed that was her reasoning.

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EdMcDunnough · 22/09/2012 14:03

I think I'd have abandoned our car when she blocked us in and gone to get someone with a walkie talkie on

She sounds deranged

Why would it even occur to you to not park in a P&C, they're not designated for disabled drivers, it isn't even like the bus where it says please give up your buggy space for wheelchairs - though if they were, it still wouldn't apply as you were there first and you can hardly give it up if you don't know someone's arrived.

Bloody odd some people. Don't give it another moment.

Vicky2011 · 22/09/2012 14:36

Very odd. I'm inclined to think she was drunk, or appallingly hungover as the behaviour sounds so delusional.

We should also remember that it's statistically proven that 99% of people who behave like cnts are simply cnts and not mentally ill :)

MrsReiver · 22/09/2012 16:16

Oh state (I'm pathetically entertained to see you outside t'other thread btw) how awful, if it was me I'd probably still be blubbing about it now. How did you get on at Sainsburys? I hope you're feeling better now.

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StateofConfusion · 22/09/2012 16:34

Hiya mrs

We never got to sainsburys, dps mum called his Grandads in hospital, bil lost his job and dp got into a state, then my Mum rang and pointed out the NCT sale I was going to was today NOT tomorrow as I'd told her and arranged for her to have the dcs whilst I went.

Dp rang sainsburys as we didn't want to just leave it and said what happened and he felt we needed to tell someone, turns out someone had seen and gone in and told them but we'd left as they came out. They got her reg and details but she was also leaving. But they got the info I didn't so its a start, And could we pop in tomorrow for a chat.

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SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 22/09/2012 17:13

TheBigJessie - the OP was parked in a Parent and Child space, not a disabled one, so if the woman was on a campaign to stop people misusing disabled spaces, she should have checked her facts first.

Anyway, I don't think that ranting at someone, abusing them and their three year old child, being aggressive and blocking their car in is a particularly good way to raise awareness of any issue.

I'm with the posters who would have got back out of the car and gone back into the supermarket. OP - I hope you get the info you need from Sainsbos to complain about this.

madhairday · 22/09/2012 17:24

I have a bb for lung disease. It's not visible because it's ummm my lungs. It means some days I can barely walk at all so if I'm at doctors/hospital etc the bb space is a lifesaver, but posts like this make me so sad that some people with bb's can be so very vile and misguided, and would be the sort to shout at someone like me with invisible disability.

OP yanbu at all, you poor thing it must have really shaken you up, glad Sainsbos are taking it seriously, hope they chase it up.

hmc · 22/09/2012 18:19

Am quite impressed that a passerby was sufficiently public spirited to report it to Sainsbo's on your behalf - there are some decent people out there

TheBigJessie · 22/09/2012 21:10

STDG

Sorry, my previous posts were a bit disjointed.

It's because it was actually p&c parking that I think the woman wasn't disabled. Otherwise she would, I presume, be quite clear on where blue badge parking was, i.e. not there.

If I'm right, it's got sod all to do with raising awareness. She wants to feel justified and virtuous while being abusive. Self-righteous boyle of a woman.

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StateofConfusion · 22/09/2012 21:11

It certainly makes me feel much better hmc

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bumperella · 22/09/2012 21:39

She was a loony.
Either that or it's a "thing that everyone knows" at that particular shop - i.e "everyone" knows that there aren't enough disabled spots so avoids the P&C to keep them available for disabled. You're meant to be telapthic and "know" these odd quirks of certain individual supermarket carparks, obviously..

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