did we really deserve this? I was in p&c parking and blue badge owner got pissy.

[StateofConfusion]

Arrived at sainsburys today after fetching dd from nursery, not bothered where we park but 4 empty p&c spaces so popped into one of them.

In the store about 15 mins. Go back out to the car to find a car waiting and indicating for our space, bit odd I thought how does she know that's our car.

As me and dd approach I load her in and dp loads in the shopping.

I hear lady muttering in the car behind "bitch" I turned and she looked away shrugged it off and got in to leave.

Then she winds down her window and says "you don't need that space you lazy fat fucking bitch" I am 27 weeks pregnant.

Me and dp look around, either sides cars are displaying blue badges, I check the sign in front is p&c and underneath painted on the floor is p&c, the blue badge owners are there as there's no more of there spaces.

I politely told her we were in a p&c space so she continued screaming at us we were selfish and she'd seen we had no badge and asked customer services to do a shout out to get us to move, they ofc told her the same as I had, p&c space doing nothing wrong.

Dp just reversed to leave and she pulled in tight to our car so he couldn't move carried on shouting at us to give her, her space. And how selfish and entilted we were, screamed at my 3yo not to look at her.

Anyway we eventually got out fully and left.

Dp asked If she was there when we arrived, I'm pretty sure she wasn't and anyway there were 4 spaces when we had! If a blue badge owner appeared I'd move our car imeadiatly, but since there were 4 p&c spaces I didn't see an issue with using one as we were parents with a child!

Did we really deserve this telling off?

that's what i was thinking state - that one day she'll do that to someone as loopy as her and it will end in hospital tears

Most car parks in Britain are built on Druidic burial grounds. The old spirits possess a good percentage of the people entering and turn them into raving wild-eyed lunatics....>True story. PMSL that or an old king who needs to be dug and have his bones moved .. Next time you encounter a car park loon, eyeball him/her slouch a bit and reply: ""Now is the winter of our discontent / Made glorious summer by this sun of York"

YANBU. [And: "A horse, a horse, my kingdom for a horse!"]

I agree with the poster unthread, I would have pulled back in the space and gone to get a cup of tea!

Nurse, you are responsible for the odd looks I'm now getting from the other parents at swimming class - I'm chuckling away here!

State - I'm another who would've suddenly discovered a major need for further shopping/coffee. Enjoy the crackers.

Blimey, SoC, you so did not deserve that diatribe. :(

She sounds like a fucking vile cunt and must have some MH issues but she was acting dangerously too so I would have taken her number plate and reported her. Don't give her a second thought - she is a complete twat.

Jeez Louise what a bizarre, horrible woman. You were soooo in the right.

You were perfectly entitled to use your space, she was being deeply nasty and very abusive. Sorry that you feel defensive and uncertain about who was in the wrong, you shouldn't be.
It only goes to show, that you can simultaneously have a disability and be an arse.

You didn't deserve it. She was rude and out of order. Even if you'd parked in a blue badge bay, that sort of language would be uncalled for. It's just plain rude and abusive.

YADNBU. She's lucky she didn't try that shit with me, screaming abuse at my DCs, cos I'd have phoned the Police. That's threatening behaviour, and I'm sure the staff at the shop who she marched into would have backed up what you said. The worry is, what if she loses it completely one day and harms someone?

She sounds like she should be in a "special warm fuzzy" place. Like a nut house.

Obviously bonkers. DH had this once waiting at a bus stop. An old lady he had never seen before came up to him and hissed in his face "you should be ashamed". He was really shaken up!

YADNBU I would have remembered something I needed in the store, left her to it and spoken to security with a veiw to calling the police tbh. I wouldn't have tried to manoeuvre round her at all.

A p&c/blue badge thread that hasn't gone haywire and a huge YABU is a bigger shock than her bat shit crazy-ness.

We've got to go to sainsburys tomorrow as the sodding hoody I brought dd has loose threads all over it so will pop to customer services then, its usually the same lady there so hopefully she'll remember the loony demanding a shout out and something can be done.

YANBU. I would have been really shaky after that. Put it down to her probably being unwell & try to forget about it.

You didn't deserve that at all!

If I were you I would contact Sainsburys and see of they have CCTV of the incident. She can't and shouldn't be allowed to get away with behaviour like that. I have a Blue Badge, I wouldn't dream of behaving like that. Can you imagine how frightened a pair of frail OAPs would have been if she had started on them?

Nasty bitch her not you!

Oh that sounds shit, OP. Sorry you got yelled at so unfairly. I'd have lost it if someome shouted at my child for no reason at all, so you were very restrained.

Have some chocolate and tell yourself that maybe she fell out of bed, crushing a valuable ming vase, found her way into the spare room where her husband was in bed with a stripper, had her bank account cleared out by a Nigerian prince she met online, ran over her own cat and had explosive diahrrea by the time she crossed paths with you, so maybe it helped her to be mean to someone

Yikes, that sounds scary and horrible and I bet you've been running it through your head all day. You did nothing wrong. She is unhinged, rude and awful. Forget it and enjoy your lovely life with your family.

Wow, she sounds like a nutjob. YANBU. Forget about the crazy bitch.

She sounds confused. Perhaps she really thought you were in a blue badge space?

She'll give herself an ulcer, getting herself all worked up like that

I agree that the OP was not being unreasonable, but can we stop with all the random slagging off of those who may have mental health issues?
All the 'looper, mad, local nutter, mad cow, mental woman, should be in the nut house, crazy bitch'
Would you use those words to a poster with PND? Is that how you feel the mentally ill behave?

She may just have been a nasty, entitled woman. There are a lot of those around.

With the comments I've been treated to at the local school for being new and shy, I never even considered a MH problem until it was commented on here, its just one of those places with a big population of nasty people (bitched about behind my back for weeks as ds wears clarks shoes)
Going to mention in sainsburys tomorrow regardless of what caused the outburst.

State, none of the words I quoted came from any of your posts.

WofflingOn do you blame anyone? That level of abusive behaviour is simply not acceptable, it all strikes of care in the community gone wrong. How dare she be abusive to a 3 year old- issues much?

I've had MH issues, however, never acted like that to anyone, ever. And if I had of done, I would have expected to be carted off by Police, frankly.

So, sorry, but I, as a MH sufferer, did not find one word offensive. People like that should not be allowed out alone for their own safety if not for that of everyone unfortunate enough to cross their path. How about she pulls the same stunt to someone who doesn't make a swift exit and feel upset/frightened or mortified, but instead, pulls her out the car and smacks her one? The area I am from, I've seen it happen. One person gets mouthy, other is hard nut, ten seconds later, mouthy person finds fist in face.

Think about it!

I blame the nasty woman with the foul mouth and the Blue Badge who was rude and aggressive, for no reason whatsoever, to the OP.
I thought I'd made that clear.