did we really deserve this? I was in p&c parking and blue badge owner got pissy.

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Arrived at sainsburys today after fetching dd from nursery, not bothered where we park but 4 empty p&c spaces so popped into one of them.

In the store about 15 mins. Go back out to the car to find a car waiting and indicating for our space, bit odd I thought how does she know that's our car.

As me and dd approach I load her in and dp loads in the shopping.

I hear lady muttering in the car behind "bitch" I turned and she looked away shrugged it off and got in to leave.

Then she winds down her window and says "you don't need that space you lazy fat fucking bitch" I am 27 weeks pregnant.

Me and dp look around, either sides cars are displaying blue badges, I check the sign in front is p&c and underneath painted on the floor is p&c, the blue badge owners are there as there's no more of there spaces.

I politely told her we were in a p&c space so she continued screaming at us we were selfish and she'd seen we had no badge and asked customer services to do a shout out to get us to move, they ofc told her the same as I had, p&c space doing nothing wrong.

Dp just reversed to leave and she pulled in tight to our car so he couldn't move carried on shouting at us to give her, her space. And how selfish and entilted we were, screamed at my 3yo not to look at her.

Anyway we eventually got out fully and left.

Dp asked If she was there when we arrived, I'm pretty sure she wasn't and anyway there were 4 spaces when we had! If a blue badge owner appeared I'd move our car imeadiatly, but since there were 4 p&c spaces I didn't see an issue with using one as we were parents with a child!

Did we really deserve this telling off?

I agree with you 100% Woffling.

I wanted to say something earlier but didn't want to rock the boat.

Nothing to do with you or your posts though SOC, that women was rotten regardless. :)

You know people can be dicks both with and without a disability. If she didn't have a blue badge you wouldn't be asking this would you?

YANBU. She was a nutter although I assume that, in her nuttiness, she thought you were in a blue badge parking bay. Even if you were, she would be entitled to be annoyed at you but not verbally abuse you.

On a separate note, I got really annoyed yesterday when a really rich looking guy in his 30's pulled into the last free p&c bay in the shopping centre in a huge spanking new BMW. He had no kids with him and looked like he was going to a business meeting. I bet he chose that bay as his precious car would have extra space and not have to get close to pleb cars like mine. I went up to the pay counter and told the guy working there but he said they have absolutely no powers to sanction people who don't have kids yet park in the p&c bays. How annoying. It's almost impossible to get a baby carseat out of a car parked in an ordinary bay in that particular shopping centre as the bays are really small.

Anyway, sorry for highjacking your thread with my rant.

I would have unloaded my shopping & gone back into the store after behaviour like that.

I had one guy tooting at me to hurry up while I put several bags into my car as well. He was waving his hands, inching forward etc. I took the trolley back & I decided to have a drink in the cafe, he yelled out of window to move my fucking car & I told him that had he been patient & gave me time to do what I needed, I would be leaving now instead of deciding I wasn't finished with the space. He roared off, almost hitting a reversing car!

People who don't give me time (and I don't dawdle btw) to do what I need, get nothing from me. A bit of patience goes a long way.

Stop excusing her people! Pregnancy, being ill or anything else does NOT mean you have free reign to call strangers a fat lazy fucking bitch, or shout at a 3 yr old! Would you all be excusing it if it were a man who did this?

This give woman a bad name & makes it seem like we can't control ourselves when pregnant etc. By that summation, perhaps we should not be let out in public when pregnant!

She wasn't pg. OP is pg.

Who is excusing her?
The majority of replies seem to either want to run the rude woman over or have her locked up, I can't see a post saying that her behaviour was excusable.

I once had someone tell me that I deserved to die, my mother deserved to die and I should never have been born and we were all whores. This was for putting my bag on the seat next to me on an empty bus. I assume they had ishoos. I was a teenager at the time though (and a bit less bolshie than I am now!) and it hugely upset me.

differentname I think you have misread the OP.

eurochick, in what way?

WofflingOn,

sounds like she may not be well
She sounds like she had mental health issues

People who park in disabled parking bays without a blue badge are selfish, ignorant and lazy. HOWEVER,Those who assume that just because you are not in a wheelchair or visibly struggling to move must mean that you are pulling a fast one are equally as ignorant and selfish. We all think it from time to time but most decent people wouldn't say anything in case we are wrong. Even if you were in a BB space (which you clearly weren't) the vile woman was completely unreasonable to behave like that.
You should just write this one off and put it in the 'some people are just cunts' category.

YANBU nobody deserves to be treated like that, certainly your DD.

Yes she may have MH issues but really if these issues exhibit themselves in such an abusive and threatening way should she really be driving at all? God help any other driver who inadvertently cuts her up or breaks suddenly in front of her whilst on the road.

Must say I would have definitely locked my car and returned to the shop.

Give your DD a big hug that normally helps deal with nasty situations, best medicine going:)

Op YANBU
I had DS with me, 12 days old and bravely I ventured to the supermarket with him on my own (Pfb and all that) early one Sunday morning.
I left him in the car while I went to get one of those trolleys that you can fit a car seat on top of. I had parked in a p&c space.
As I went to get the trolley this woman gave me a gob full abut parking there, to which I promptly burst into tears! That showed her. She was mortified and said she would check her facts in future.

Hope you are ok today.

kalisi Genuine question: why would someone need a blue badge if they don't have a physical disability?

You've never had to control a flailing and screeching autistic child with no road sense whilst attempting to do your weekly shop then, digitalgirl?

If someone verbally abused my DDs, I think I'd have to seek out the security guard, but mainly to restrain myself from pulling the driver out through the side window and putting them back in through the windscreen.

No I haven't wofflingon. But that would make sense.

But my disabled SIL and FIL agree that there are still people that abuse the bb right by using them when not transporting the person whose card the name is registered in, so I don't think it's necessarily 'selfish' to assume that this happens.

OP yanbu.

I encountered an odd person like that this week.

I was driving to hospital and was on park lane, a bus was blocking a people carrier, he tried to force his way infront of me in the next lane, as it was so busy and I am not farmiliar with driving there I carried on. Later at red lights the people carrier waa next to me. He hooted his horn put a finger to his head and twisted it then pointed to me, I think I saw him mouth "you are mental". I shook my head and pointed to him, I mouthed no, you are.

There are some strange people around.

YANBU!

What the hell was going on? If she was disabled and wanted the space, why was she blocking you in?! In fact, how come she didn't know where blue badge parking was?

Call Sainsburys, ask for car reg from cctv, report to dvla / non-emergency police. If your OP is word-for-word of what happened, I would question her ability to drive safely - not to mention the threatening behaviour.

I find it incredible that unless she called the store, she parked her car, walked into the store to ask CS to shout out to you, they refused so she got back in her car & waited for op to come out.

Why do that? She wanted to go in the store, she was in the store. yet she left to move her car, to go back in the store.

Odd

I think someone who wasn't disabled on a crusade to stop people abusing disabled parking. I bet she's a bitch to people with blue badges in disabled parking without wheelchairs.

Going to sainsburys shortly so I will report back.

digital my grandma had a badge when diagnosed with terminal cancer, although refused to use it until she was very ill, bil has one aswell for diabetes don't know him very well so can't pass comment on why.

Wow. I think I'd have gotten out and reported her to staff when she blocked you in and verbally abused you tbh!

She was a nutcase! and horrible too

State, that was utterly cracked behaviour on her part . YWDNBU.

(your BIL may have nerve injury in his feet due to the diabetes and therefore unable to walk too far).

Hope you get some help from Sainsbury's and it might be an idea to log the abuse at the police station, I don't know.