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did we really deserve this? I was in p&c parking and blue badge owner got pissy.

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StateofConfusion · 21/09/2012 17:51

Arrived at sainsburys today after fetching dd from nursery, not bothered where we park but 4 empty p&c spaces so popped into one of them.

In the store about 15 mins. Go back out to the car to find a car waiting and indicating for our space, bit odd I thought how does she know that's our car.

As me and dd approach I load her in and dp loads in the shopping.

I hear lady muttering in the car behind "bitch" I turned and she looked away shrugged it off and got in to leave.

Then she winds down her window and says "you don't need that space you lazy fat fucking bitch" I am 27 weeks pregnant.

Me and dp look around, either sides cars are displaying blue badges, I check the sign in front is p&c and underneath painted on the floor is p&c, the blue badge owners are there as there's no more of there spaces.

I politely told her we were in a p&c space so she continued screaming at us we were selfish and she'd seen we had no badge and asked customer services to do a shout out to get us to move, they ofc told her the same as I had, p&c space doing nothing wrong.

Dp just reversed to leave and she pulled in tight to our car so he couldn't move carried on shouting at us to give her, her space. And how selfish and entilted we were, screamed at my 3yo not to look at her.

Anyway we eventually got out fully and left.

Dp asked If she was there when we arrived, I'm pretty sure she wasn't and anyway there were 4 spaces when we had! If a blue badge owner appeared I'd move our car imeadiatly, but since there were 4 p&c spaces I didn't see an issue with using one as we were parents with a child!

Did we really deserve this telling off?

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MaBumble · 21/09/2012 18:09

No, you were in the right.
I'd have 'forgotten' something and had to go back into the shop, leaving car where it was.
but then I can be such an awkward cow :)

ginmakesitallok · 21/09/2012 18:10

I think I'd suddenly have realised that I'd forgotten something and went back into the shop for a browse, and a cup or tea, and a wee and then another browse.

Mad cow

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StateofConfusion · 21/09/2012 18:10

Dd is still in 3pt harness so can't do much more than clumsily climb in, if I just have the 5yo I don't bother as he can fully sort himself out.

--i do waddle a bit, its dc3 and my bodys had enough Blush-- But even at term I wouldn't use a p&c space without a child who needed assistance. Tbh I hardly use them anyway as we have a wide car we worry about getting in someones way who needs to get an infant seat in, so usually head to the back where its empty.

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maytheoddsbeeverinyourfavour · 21/09/2012 18:10

No you didn't deserve that at all

She was completely in the wrong and I say that as a blue badge holder myself

It must have been really upsetting but try not to dwell on it, there are lots of twats out there and you encountered one today

ginmakesitallok · 21/09/2012 18:10

X posts with Ma!

CaliforniaLeaving · 21/09/2012 18:10

Most car parks in Britain are built on Druidic burial grounds. The old spirits possess a good percentage of the people entering and turn them into raving wild-eyed lunatics.

True story.
PMSL that or an old king who needs to be dug and have his bones moved!

honeytea · 21/09/2012 18:12

sorry i thought she was 27 weeks pregnant, silly me!

SammyTheSwedishSquirrel · 21/09/2012 18:14

Shock This is one of those situations where you back away slowly, get in your car and make sure the doors are locked.

ledkr · 21/09/2012 18:15

yanbu but just imagine how unhappy she must be to behave like that poor woman.

I was shouted at by a big oaf in asda when I parked in p and c space. He thought I didnt have a child until I removed dd2 who was about 5 months old.

He drove off shouting something.

I saw him in the store scowling at me. He was with his slightly pg wife and 2 school aged children Hmm

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StateofConfusion · 21/09/2012 18:15

at druid burial grounds, that would explain a lot! Grin

I'm fine, I was that shocked at the time it didn't really hit me as such --i had a teary meltdown last night over prawn crackers so got it out of my system-- even dp who can't usually keep his mouth shut was stunned to silence! And now mn say I didn't deserve it I can stop obsessing.

Just so surreal!

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GooseyLoosey · 21/09/2012 18:17

Wow. You deffinititely did not deserve this.

I once parked in a blue badge space. My then 6 and 7 year old got out of the car and I saw them to the footpath. Before I could do anything else, someone came over and started screaming about people with children thinking they were so entitled and she was going to report me etc..

I then asked if rant just a little to the left so I could get my father's wheel chair out of the boot. She went white and backed away muttering that she had not realised. I wonder if I live near you.

honeytea · 21/09/2012 18:17

/shares my prawn crackers with op :)

Wheresmypopcorn · 21/09/2012 18:20

Sorry she was so mean to you. :(

MyThumbsHaveGoneWeird · 21/09/2012 18:23

Hard to tell if she was drunk/drugged or very rude and entitled or with an acute mental health problem. If it had gone on for a while I would have called the police I think. If the former she certainly shouldn't be driving, and if the later they could have taken her to a place of safety (a&e for a psych assessment). How horrid for you though, esp with your 3 year old there. Hope you're feeling better now.

wannabedomesticgoddess · 21/09/2012 18:27

Thats awful. I think if someone did this to me I would have burst into tears right there.

When she blocked you in and kept going you seriously should have phoned the police. Thats really threatening!

You have to wonder how long she actually waited on you, and surely she could have just went and parked somewhere else in that time.

I hope you are ok. Try not to get stressed over it (says the most stressy person in the world right now :) )

fourfingerkitkat · 21/09/2012 18:28

Have some chocolate and put your feet up. Definitely not being unreasonable. With any luck she bought something out of the supermarket that will give her the shits....karma and all that...

Chubfuddler · 21/09/2012 18:29

I had someone have a go at me for being in a p & c space. They considered my attire (suit and heels) and vehicle (range rover) meant I could not possibly have a small child with me. I pointed to dd in her front facing car seat and said "what's she, scotch mist?"

Then he told me to fuck off. Nice.

Glitterknickaz · 21/09/2012 18:32

If she'd blocked me like that I'd have reversed into her, frankly.

WithoutCaution · 21/09/2012 18:34

And that ladies is what we call an entitled psycho bitch

Have to say that if DH wasn't with me (you just don't act like that near DH) I would also have 'forgotten' some shopping unloaded the DC and complained at the help desk about the nut job who is repeatedly threatening you on the companies property. Would ask them what they, as a company, plan to do about it. Then I'd have sat down for a nice hot drink

NapaCab · 21/09/2012 18:34

She sounds like a loon. Did you get her license number? I'd have taken it and said you were going to report her to the police for verbal abuse and road rage. Or you could have started videoing her on your mobile phone to embarrass her enough to stop.

She did verbally abuse you and physically intimidate you by blocking in your car. If you'd been on your own without your DP, that would be pretty serious and scary. With your DP there, it sounds less scary as she was outnumbered by the two of you but it's still not right to behave that way.

GoldenBabooshka · 21/09/2012 18:38

You could have been sat on a deck chairs drinking a cup of tea in the P&C space and still not deserve such vile abuse being flung at you, or your family.

She screamed at your little DD?

Horrible.

LilyCocoplatt · 21/09/2012 18:41

YANBU at all, try not to give that mental woman another thought, as a previous poster said she must be deeply unhappy to behave like that and wanted to take it out on someone and unfortunately it was you who crossed paths with her. And if she was able to go storming in to customer services and waste time arguing the toss with them then she can't have needed the space that much anyway.

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StateofConfusion · 21/09/2012 18:42

There are a large percentage of mad people here I have to confess. I wish I'd thought to phone the police, wouldn't have dared video her on my phone.

If dp hadn't been there I'd have been terrified but as he was it was one of those, open mouth shock moments then "well that was weird" and trying to analyse it.

Only know the first letter and year of her car, dp was wondering about asking sainsburys for cctv to pass to police as if it had been someone alone with young dc it would have been horrible, or even worse she picked the wrong person to kick off at and they returned the vitrol

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GoldenBabooshka · 21/09/2012 18:47

I would ring sainsburys if I were you.

The fact that she pulled up to your car and prevented you from leaving is beyond threatening. She could have caused an accident.

WildWorld2004 · 21/09/2012 18:47

You were being very unreasonable parking your car in a p&c space accompanied by your 3 year old.Wink

Id have told her to fuck off & fuck off again. Being a blue badge holder doesnt mean u can do what the hell you like.