To ask how you broke the news you were pregnant to your parents

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I was wondering/being nosy. How you broke the news to your parents/in laws that you were having a baby. How did they take it if they had no idea you were trying to conceive.

I myself have no story, I'm still TTC but dreading the day I tell my parents (if it ever comes) despite them being lovely- still chicken.

My parents knew we had been TTC and they were delighted, same with the ILs. We just called and told them.

With DD2 it was a bit spooky - the day I POAS I couldn't tell my DM because she and my dad were driving around Spain in their camper van and had no mobiles. Turns out the day I found out, my parents were walking through a bird sanctuary and saw a nest of storks, DM said out of the blue 'Oh yes, pointy is pregnant again and it's another girl.'

Very Twilight Zone. But nice.

I chickened out. My sisters told my mum while I hid (I was 17, and my mums last hope of getting a degree in the family ).

It didn't help that my brother had announced that his gf was pregnant the week before! I'm surprised she didn't spontaneously combust.

She didn't speak to me for weeks, then she finally thawed and bought me a maternity shirt to wear for work on the day I got taken in for an emergency c-section 3 months before my due date!

So I never got to wear it

3 years on and she is the happiest nana in the land!

When we announced DD1 - "Oh".

Ten minutes later. "So what will you do?".

When we announced DD2 - "Oh, not again".

I was actually 25 and married with DD1, 29 with DD2. It's not like I made her a grandmother at 13 or anything.

My DF refers to it as 'holding hands' while doing the "inverted commas" with his fingers. Apparently it's "legal" but only on a Sunday.

So his daughters must only conceive on a Sunday... shrugs

Some lovely stories. I laughed at the MIL who assumed the big news would be about a dead lizard.

I wrapped up a babygro and gave it to my MIL for Christmas, with a card saying something like 'Dear Grandma, can't wait to meet you in June!' Unfortunately 'Grandma' couldn't find her glasses so just waved the babygro calling out 'what the hell is this for, then?' Many tears of joy when card was finally read.

My own parents were slightly underwhelmed (despite me being in my 30s with a lovely DP) but I think they just needed some time to process.

We got away with knowing for quite a while before we told my parents. It was first night of the annual fireworks at the beach and we all went down to watch them. As they started i stood between my parents and said 'guess what, we are are having a baby'

I can't remember their reaction....

I told my parents over the phone as I was going to visit them the week after and wanted to give them a week to process the news. My Dad had to lie down on the floor apparently and my mum was speechless. I think it was probably the last thing they had expected me to say.

Once they got over the shock they were thrilled!

I never actually told my dad, I couldn't face it

I told my mum over tea, DH and I had come back from holiday so she wanted to know all about it.

'what are you doing on the 22nd May next year ?'

'Nothing - why?'

'you will be doing something!!'

'What?'

'Becoming grandparents for the 8th time!'

For DC1 I emailed my mum then went on holiday for a week so she had a week be angry before I got there. (I was 19 and she really didn't like my DH)

The best was telling MIL we were having triplets after being told we couldn't have anymore DCs. We bought her three blue balls of wool because she always knits a blanket for each new DG she has.
When we handed them to her and after tears of joy she told us she only needed one ball of wool. Cue even more tears when we told her it was triplets.

Told my mum in the car. Easier to talk when you're not face to face.
MIL guessed.

I'm loving reading these! I'll be telling my mum and dad on Sunday if all is well at my early scan this week, wishing it was closer to Christmas now so I could do a card!

The first time I told my mother she was delighted but sadly we lost it. The second time I waited till the three month mark and got my DH to tell her. Her answer, I know, my SIL had already told her.

"Have you got any special plans for November?"

"No,"

"Well you might want to come up to ours and meet your grandchild!"

DD is only grandchild as was a LONG time coming and my DB and SIL have had many rounds IVF without success, yet. They are just about to do another round and my eyes prick with tears every time I think about them/ hope with all my heart that they will be able to share our M & D some good news. (crying now just thinking about it!)

eating scrambled eggs and tinned pilchards in tomato sauce may have been a clue. it was too early to test too...

I was young and dd was very unplanned (I was in a ldr), I only did the bloody test as a rule it out thing.

I did manage to keep it to myself for a couple of weeks, but blurted it out to my sister when she called about problems my other sister was having, she was very shocked and called back 10 minutes later confirming what I had just told her.

My Mum somehow guessed about 2 days later, I have no idea how, spooky, she asked me if I was pg, I said yes and howled for ages, she did the whole there there thing. When it was clear that I was keeping the baby she seemed really chuffed and phoned around telling everybody, which is a better reaction than I had hoped for.

Aww Catmint I wish them well, when my pg came to light my eldest sister was about 14 weeks pg with her first ivf baby, she had also had a scare with bleeding not long ago, I did feel shitty.

What can you do though, I totally felt like I was stealing her thunder, so obviously not on purpose though.

Showed piccie of first scan.

Went home for Christmas when I was about 12 weeks. We wrapped some of those little soft baby slippers up and gave them to them on Christmas day. my mum thought they were for the dog even though there were only two and the dog isn't limbly challanged.

nothing, my parents had died, had been trying for years, Dad died 4 months before I conceived, Mum died 9 days after I got engaged, 7 years until I got pregnant and I started trying the week before she died...as in I had got engaged and in the maelstrom of upset and grief realised I had forgotten my pill, and though fuck it, we are getting married, but then became Dad's carer.
Parents in Law my Dh phoned them the minute the stick went pink, I was upset at the time as I didn't want to tempt fate, he also made me tell my aunt who I am very close to and she is only a few years older than me, in hindsight he was right, she is a best friend and yet a part of my Mum, very like her in ways.
the rest of the family god I was getting angry with DH (I think it is far to say he was excited but I was afraid of bad things, not had an easy time with caring for my Dad, and losing him and my Mum) we had some sort of family doo, when I was 9 weeks and had, had an early scan so Twins (had googled and found out about missing twin syndrome) we where having a heated debate on telling the rest of the family in whispers in a quite corner, my supposedly deaf grandad walked passed and said, "what are you too whispering about is Missing Pregnant?" DH leapt on this and said "yes she is" all proud.
And to this day I loved my grandads reaction, his answer "are you talking the piss? I'd given up on you.. still you have loads of time to catch up" Gran had had 5 children her last at 43 I was 33.
in a way I realise that this sounds like shit in hindsight, but actually it was fantastic, I just wanted to be careful and wait until 13 weeks (not 12) just to be sure, but everyone made me laugh was excited and made me enjoy it.

and the secret I did keep was my c-section date, it was moved forward a week a couple of weeks before, so my in-laws arrived on the day of the birth instead of a week before to clean the house, as they had planned (DH might not have liked that :) he had to clean and get ready) and they where born on my Mums birthday, had 2 boys, Dh always wanted a boy named after him and his Dad and I had refused as I didn't like Dh name, when the second boy came out (I didn't want to know sexes on scans) I said, I am calling Dt2 missings dads name and we will call the other yours DH, I love Dh name now.
I didn't mean to do a downer but it sort of flooded out, sorry.

First time, my Mum told me, I was young, she tracked my periods, she bought me a test and made me go take it.

2nd time I casually let it into the conversation about halfway through watching the Last Castle. DP and I had found out a few days beforehand and Mum had walked in about the time I was saying "Oh fuck fuck fuck" and then we legged it out the house giggling. My parents response to my announcement was muted at best although I'm told they got it out of their systems when I was out of the room. Mum later told me I knew you were either pregnant or on drugs!
Thanks Mum!

Third time I don't actually remember, we lost the baby, I remember telling them that. they had just gone on holiday but I couldn't not tell them. They had just pulled into a pub carpark. All my Dad could say was "do you want to talk to your Mum, I was later told that once they had hing up she probably cried more than me.

Fourth time, I had a smear test booked and need to do a test before I could go (GP rules apprently) so when my Mum took me shopping as a treat I picked up a test. none of us were expecting a positive as we'd been trying for 19 months and were starting fertility investigations due to the nature of my last loss.
I called my Mum once I'd done the test the next day. Her response was "Let's not get too exited just yet"

The in laws were't too happy the first time but now they are chomping at the bit for me to get on with the next one.

I fully intend to get a good reaction if there's a next time!

grabbing a seat

I'm 18weeks pregnant now, with dc2, dp and I are thrilled... he's told his family, I havnt even told my parents :-/ he's 26 so it's fine I'm only 20 and this is my 2nd and last may I add!! my dad's got a lot on (is a stressy bugger atm) and I feel my mum may disapprove as dd is only 16months! tbh we're happy so I don't really want to hear their crappy comments.... I'm here waiting for someone to come up with a brilliant idea :) either that or I'll just wait till I have a massive bump and it's overly obvious then say "oh, didnt I mention it" ...opps.

I had to tell them over the phone after blurting it out to some close friends! It didn't seem right that friends knew & family didn't! We kept it quiet from siblings initially but when we told them after the 12 week scan my sister kept repeating 'nooo.... You're not! Really? But... Like, really?' As if it's the sort of thing I might make up! My SiL didn't even congratulate me before telling me I couldn't eat raspberries...!

Am hoping for a BFP either this month or next & then we will keep it quiet until they open the scan-pic-containing-card on Christmas day!

Went round to see them and took a knitting pattern for a baby cardigan, handed it to Mum and asked her if she could do anything with that?

Travelled to see IL's and took a tiny pair of baby socks that my friend had bought us, and asked them if they knew why we'd been given those?

Lots of tears and happiness all round x

DS 1 was unplanned, me and DP had only been together a few months, both 19 at uni. Lots of crying/shoutingnetc. My mum didnt speak to me for two months. Now DS is the centre of her world :D

When DS was three months old, DP had graduated, as a v. Well paid accountant, DP's cousin announced his girlfriend was pregnant. Cue everyone looking at how well we were coping and it became a great event with baby shower etc! Very jealous it wasnt the other way round!

Cant wait for dc2 in a few years so it can be a happy announcement. Love the werthers orignial & sister also pregnant stories!