To want to take my baby on public transport?

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Just returned from a trip to London with my 3 month old baby. Very busy train on the return journey with a lot of luggage so there wasn't room for my pram (quinny with basinet) in the luggage area as i'd politely hung back to allow others to get on in front.

I put it in the next carriage, as advised by a staff member and then a manager asked (very loudly) whose pram was parked next door and it couldn't stay there etc. He was obviously harrassed, but was quite rude and sarcastic to me. After a very publuc discussion he said 'well these trains are not made for prams really'.

If that's the case - why sell family railcards?

I have a quinny and it's not the best for use with public transport although I have seen worse. If I'm going to be using it on a bus/train I put ds in his car seat so I can fold the frame and pop baby and carseat of in one and sit with him on my lap. That way you have the frame in one hand and the car seat with baby in another. It only takes a couple of seconds and folds down quite compact so isn't in everybody's way.

Theres no way unless you have ten hands you can fold the pram with the carry cot on and use public transport if your alone. It means you have to hold baby in one hand fold the pushchair and carry it on, then go back for the cot and carry it on by that time things will be running late. I'd either consider using the car seat or buy a cheap lay flat pram. I'm told toys r us have one for about £100 or have a look on eBay?

Yes, OP. I know how hard it is to travel with a small baby. Actually everything's hard (or feels hard) with a small baby.

You do realise that once your become a mother you should be seen and not heard until your children are of an age where they do not require a pram, do not tantrum and do not talk incessantly. Unless you don't mind being considered SELFISH!

Sorry you not 'your'

m.toysrus.co.uk/Babies-R-Us/Travel-and-Pushchairs/Travel-Systems-and-Pushchairs/Pushchairs-and-Strollers/Storm-Stroller-in-Ziggy-Zebra/0093267?searchPosition=84

m.toysrus.co.uk/Babies-R-Us/Travel-and-Pushchairs/Travel-Systems-and-Pushchairs/Pushchairs-and-Strollers/Babies-R-Us-Swift-Stroller-in-Red-and-Black/0089494?searchPosition=85

Sorry cant do proper link things as I'm on my phone. £59.99 a bargain!

fwiw those travel systems the ones shaped like car seats or with car seats clipped to a frame are not recamended for significant/long periods of time use neither are actual car seats. every bit of infor ive ever seen on them has made it perfectly clear that they shouldnt be used routinely for several hours at a time.

op i do think you where a bit ur for not planning your journey more effectivly to make sure you could cater towards any luggage/prams ect but i also think yanbu as a member of the trains staff told you to put the pram where you did.

I think better rail companies should make accommodation for prams on trains.

Advice from my 8y old...some of other mums should be nicer to the op. Its her first baby and she hadn't used trains much before.

Why why why do people post on AIBU if they're going to get upset when people don't agree with them? The whole point of the bloody forum is to get different opinions surely? Drives me mad!

Srawberry

You let your 8 year old read AIBU? I shall have to modify my language.

Where does it say she hasnt used trains much before??

Agree with StrawberryMonkey's monkey boy. She may have been on here 5 minutes, not have seen this topic before and jumped in. I remember my first comment on AIBU. I was torn to shreds. Looking back I though MN was going to be a little nicer. I'm glad it isn't but it can be a shock to the uninitiated.

I'm sorry UTUMP I'm not normally horrid, I promise. I hope your usual pushchair is fixed quickly.

Seriously though, if you are using public transport a lot there are many better ones for the job that fit criteria for a newborn baby.

What MrsTerrysChocolateOrange said - please don't leave because of one bad AIBU! We've probably all had one at some point - name change and go to a gentler part of MN for a while.

FWIW it does sound as if the manager was a bit unnecessarily rude to you.

I agree that slings and fold up buggies are the way to go, but I guess you don't really need a sling or a buggy right now, you need a or better still a , and some RL sympathy.

It depends op, if you were just on the train for a short time one or two stops then yanbu. However if you were on for a long time or on a local stopping service then you should probably have thought about sitting down with your baby or a sling, and folding the pushchair down.

We ave traveled a few times since dd was born and on longer journeys we have always folded up and sat down. We were recently on a 30 minute journey with inly two stops our stop being one of the main stops and we kept dd in the pushchair and stayed in the corridor by the door this train wasnt really busy though and there was enough space for people to get past and space for us to move to clear the doors. If we needed to fold we could have done.

Just in case op comes back.

I am assuming you were on the Piccadilly line OP? I also assume that you are a visitor as, having lived in London for 12 years, if someone was that rude to me I'd have had a go at them :). It not unreasonable to expect to be treated civilly. Most people in London are, I have always had lots of people helping me/chatting to me on the tube and trains. Saying that, off-peak trains are better than the tube if you want more space.

Mothercare dont lend you a pushchair whilst they fix your broken one do they????

They do

I've PMed the OP. Am I going soft?

YES!

Poop. I'll NC back to MrsTerryPratchett soon and get my mojo back.

sirzy i am they are the epitome of unhelpfulness in our local store!

Yeah yeah, whateva Mrsterry

Look, no-one called her a cunt...they just gave their own opinions.

The OP made a stroppy second post and then flounced on the 3rd.

If she can't handle people telling her she's BU (and not everyone did anyway) then this forum really isn't for her

Three snaps in a Z for valium.

I know it seems to go against the grain but our local store are very helpful in that way!