To expect a congratulations on your baby card from work

[needsomesunshine]

That's it really. My baby is 5 weeks old but I work in education so I thought I would hear from people after the summer break. I sent an email at the start of term to say I had the baby. Email was to 50 people got 3 replies. I thought I got on well with my colleagues. A bit of a slap in the face really.

We were talking about this at work the other day, more collections for people off sick, big birthdays as well as maternity leave.

I think YADNBU

I was off last year for a long period due to an accident and was hurt that work didn't even send a card ( team of around 30)

I think it's important as it makes staff feel valued.

I don't think anyone at my work feels valued tbh but I at least felt we made the effort with each other as it is a tough job. They usually do send flowers, a gift card and a signed card to people. I know of a couple of times they haven't organised things for people the boss didn't like but I didn't know I was one of them
I thought I got on well with colleagues and had a laugh.

I think this is imply a case of bad timing- on your part. What were you thinking having a baby in the summer holidays. People have come back to work, it's the start of term, there is shed loads to do and get your head round. They will have got your email along with 3 million other directives being sent out, thought how lovely I'm sure someone will get a card/ present organised and carried on. It's not that they don't like you it's just an awkward time- your baby isn't high on the priority list.
Probably if you bring the baby in to see everyone someone will realise they haven't done anything and you'll get something then.
YANBU to be a bit miffed but as I said probably bad timing and maybe the one or two people who organise these things (and it's always the same lovely people) don't know or again have been snowed under.

Op can I just say that I'm so glad you posted this. I thought it was just me! The responses have cheered me up as much as they have you.

My normal job can be tough and we have to rely on each other. There are only about 16 of us so you would think we would be a close knit team.

I'm obviously not very popular! The way the office staff treated me, however, has reassured me that I'm likeable enough.

Ah thanks Albertsneed to get over it now and get on with my life. Lesson learnt. I might take him in though. Once they see how cute he is I'll be swamped with gifts

So have you ratters. I have to try and not take it too personally

I find you can't really predict with these things. It's a bit like leaving presents and cards. Places I thought I got on really well, have come away with nothing. Places where I absolutely hated the job, the rest of the team etc have come away with a huge gift.

Maybe it's a sign of the times also, in that people don't have a spare fiver any more.

I don't think I got anything from the ward I was working on when I had my dd. But I think something like 9 of us (out of around 40) had got pregnant around the same time. We got a humungous present from my dh's work.

Don't take it too personally. Work is just work at the end of the day.

This happened to me to, when I had my baby and when I left - it's very hurtful, glad to see it's not just me! It's hard when you spend time with people every day and think they are friends then they can't be bothered to even acknowledge the fact you've had your baby/ left the organisation you dedicated time to!

The lesson you ladies have helped me remember is that work is just work at the end of the day. They are not family or friends & I shouldn't take it too personally