Want to ask for more maintence for my dd?

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Hi am posting this here as it gets quite a bit of traffic.
Dp, now ex dp, have lived apart for the last year but we were still in a relationship, it was just our way of havign time to sort things out, anyway as we were sorting things out and he was puttign money into days out and holidays etc I was only asking for £50 a month. Anyway a week and a half ago i got a text from him saying it wasnt working and it was over (since found out he has been seeing someone else for at least a month!!). Seeing as he wont be putting into other things I feel he should be giving me more but he feels as he pays the £100 childcare and me the £50 a month he shouldnt have to give me anymore!!!

Am I unreasonable to want to ask for more for his dd?
(FOrgot to add he never has her over night either).

Tax credits can pay for holiday child care too there's a box in the form so worth getting quotes from local holiday clubs in anticipation.
Good luck sounds like you have a plan

THank you, will let you know what happens on Thursday. if I can do it without the CSA I would rather but if that is what i need to do to get what dd deserves I will. Fingers crossed that wont be necessary though.

Hi just a quick update. He cancelled thursdays talk as he had a disapinary(sp) at work friday, dont know what happened but we are meeting Sunday. If he pulls out then it will be straight onto the CSA!!!!

Ok well he turned up today and it went well. He still has a job but only as a temp but it is still a job. I told him we will stick to the current arrangement but if I am sucessful at work with hours change then i want the money he would have given his friend too so as can provide well for dd. He agreed to this which surprised me and was generally friendly about everything i said to him. The only thing he denied is the woman on facebook so it had been hacked but as I said it is his business except that dd isnt meeting other partners till everyone feels she is ready. So as long as he sticks to it it turned out well, will be better if I get hours changed at work too.
Mentioned school holidays i cant get off and inset days etc and we said we will work it all out together.

Sounds like a good outcome, OP. Glad to hear it.

If he's working 6 x 12 hrs then 3 days off - over a month he earns about £450 to £500 a week at £7.80 an hour. If we take the LESSER wage to do the next bit - so £450 divide between 100 then times 15 to get the percentage the CSA work out you are entitled to, then you are entitled to £67.50 a week. If you found a registered child minder then tax credits would help you pay the child care, so he can stop using that as an excuse (as he may be paying less than he tells you) but he should still be paying you £67.50 a week. The CSA will sort it out if he's being an arse...I would contact them ASAP, as they don't backdate claims so every day will be costing you - not him. Best of luck in taking care of dd - hope you are okay.

Just seen you've worked it out between the two of you...keep hold of the above knowledge though, you never know when you might need it. Best of luck.

But CSA is calculated on take home pay so you need to take around 20% off before you do the CSA calculation. That brings it to around £200 per month which whilst more than she is getting (taking into account the childcare which is paid direct) isn't a million miles from what she is getting.

Thanks for the responses but I am happy with the outcome as would rather not go through CSA and keep things as friendly as possible. At present due to only being a temp dont know how much he will be taking home. Will keep the above information in case it doesnt work out though and have also told him there will be a record of what he has given me each month.

Again thank you.