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Husband said hello to the man who kicked our dog....

117 replies

coansha · 16/09/2012 16:58

The background info:
Whist on a quiet, solo walk some months ago with my 2 large and very friendly dogs, the largest runs off to sniff and say hello to a man and hs dog approaching...
Well to keep it short he kicked my dog, as it sniffed his, berated me for not having it on a lead. Blah, blah, I went completely apeshit, I'm in my 40's but 5"10 and size 16 and Ive also done kick boxing for several years, I was that close to decking him but went ballistic, called him everything under the sun and more , he's a miserable old git anyway( say early 60's and has had a go at afew female dig walkers for same incidents) , husband was angry when told, said ed throttle him, some weeks later I pointed him out driving by and he confessed he'd let on to him that day.

So weve Been away for weekend with family, after a quick cuppa and laundry mission, head out for a walk with dogs and the husband.
As we round the corner of quiet country lane" the dog kicker " and his pampered neurotic dog approach, the husband knows who he is, after " the dog kicking incident" I pointed him out , fuck me whilst I stand there, not saying anything as I ignore the idiot, HE FUCKING SAYS GOOD DAY!!!
I'm a being stupid or should I pull the knife out of my back before he twists it?
I could throttle him, he knew who it was, he has made me look stupid and I cannot believe it.
The idiot to be fair, put his head own, it was the idiot I married who went all out to be pally.
I'm livid, it's the principle, he says I'm mental and need help. I don't want to even look at him, I've lost my respect for him, I know it's a small matter, I don't expect them to exchange cards and arrange a duel but he shouldnt have done it with me with him.

OP posts:
squeakytoy · 16/09/2012 17:00

why not keep your dogs under control then and the man would never have had any reason to kick your dog.

he isnt the idiot.. it isnt right to kick a dog, but if yours hadnt gone running up to him, he would not have needed to..

GreenParcel · 16/09/2012 17:01

Your husband saying hello probably threw the grumy old git more than a scowl would. He'll be confused now rather than getting the reaction he expected.

GreenParcel · 16/09/2012 17:02

PS i would have SHIT myself if a dog off the lead ran upto me so can see why he might of kicked it, i might of out of fear Blush

Socknickingpixie · 16/09/2012 17:02

im confused,you wanted him to have a go but you didnt want him to have a go?

Ilovedaintynuts · 16/09/2012 17:03

You sound utterly deranged and quite vindictive.

GoldShip · 16/09/2012 17:03

For one, I understand your anger. If anyone kicked my dogs that would be the end of them. I also did boxing and kick boxing (among others) for years :o

But you just need to calm down, let it pass. But make sure your partner knows you don't appreciate him undermining you. Honestly it's not worth getting worked up over

It might be an idea to keep your dog on a lead when walking, unless you're on a field and they're having their run.

Softlysoftly · 16/09/2012 17:03

You didn't know the nature of his dog you shouldnt have let yours approach. He shouldn't then have kicked it but your reaction sounds like a lovely person.

nokissymum · 16/09/2012 17:04

I dont think he was trying to make you look stupid, i think he was trying to be the bigger man, what did the 'dog kicker' say ? Im sure he must have felt a bit small in comparison.

Ephiny · 16/09/2012 17:04

Your post is very odd with all the violent threats and fantasies, you sound really quite aggressive.

I mean, I would be furious if someone kicked one of my dogs...but you should not allow your dog to go running up to other people or their dogs uninvited. Was the other dog on a lead? Are you sure yours wasn't aggressive and needed to be fended off? Was your dog injured by the kick?

FrustratedSycamorePants · 16/09/2012 17:04

Well done to your DH for being the bigger man.

Have you considered that the kick given to your dog was perhaps the better option to your dog being mauled by his? I think perhaps you should prevent your dogs from running up to strangers.

Ilovedaintynuts · 16/09/2012 17:05

I would have probably kicked your dog too though...not everyone loves your big dog running up to them and sniffing them.

GoldShip · 16/09/2012 17:05

That's no excuse to kick them ilovedainty.

ShobGiteTheKnid · 16/09/2012 17:05

"he says I'm mental and need help"

He sounds like he might know you better than us...

ChaosTrulyReigns · 16/09/2012 17:06

Could you try to be proud of your DH for being the better man?

Hope you had a nice relaxing weekend away. Smile

PowerDresser · 16/09/2012 17:07

Another dog owner who doesn't keep her dog under control at times when it would be wise.

Kayano · 16/09/2012 17:07

The initial incident was your fault though
You put your dog in that position

You don't know how strangers night react
He might have been trying to protect his own dog and didn't know yours were friendly

You seem like hard work tbh.

Use a lead

ratbagcatbag · 16/09/2012 17:08

Sorry, but my dog got out once (not known for being friendly with other dogs) and legged it up to a dog walker who knew us because he lived on the same street, he kicked out at my dog and briefly connected, I hauled dog in and apologised massively, my dog off lead running up to a stranger, my fault end off. I did check my mutt who felt sorry for himself, but he was fine, I was upset my dog got kicked, but he should have bloody listened when I yelled blue murder at him to come back recalled him and he didn't respond.
If I am out and with my dog and another dog comes up that won't back off I have been known to use knees to push them away (not kick by the way) because I never know how my dog on a lead will react and it's better that than an almighty brawl starting because someones dog won't return, no matter how friendly.
I think YABU with your husband and if you had reacted that way to me after I shifted your dog that wasn't on a lead I'd have rang the police, really you considered decking a 60 year old man, who you deem a miserable git!!!!! complete over reaction on both occasions and I am a complete animal lover.

thepeoplesprincess · 16/09/2012 17:09

I'm assuming this is a reverse AIBU?

BlackTieNTails · 16/09/2012 17:11

so do you not think 2 months is enough time for a grudge

perhaps OH was the bigger person out of the three of you and thought it was time to move on now

plus, yes, you do sound mental

ChaosTrulyReigns · 16/09/2012 17:11

Is the OP the DH or grumpy old man, do you think thepeoplesprincess?

ChaosTrulyReigns · 16/09/2012 17:11

Comma.

Kayano · 16/09/2012 17:12

The DH I would think - having called her mental Wink

thepeoplesprincess · 16/09/2012 17:13

The carer chaos .........

marquesas · 16/09/2012 17:15

What does "he'd let on to him that day" mean. Did your DH tell the other man that you were cross? I don't fully understand the situation.

Chandon · 16/09/2012 17:16

Use a lead, you were in the wrong.

You are weird and agressive and scary, and you would go to prison if you attacked the man over this the way you want to.

Nutters with dogs...