Husband said hello to the man who kicked our dog....

[coansha]

The background info:
Whist on a quiet, solo walk some months ago with my 2 large and very friendly dogs, the largest runs off to sniff and say hello to a man and hs dog approaching...
Well to keep it short he kicked my dog, as it sniffed his, berated me for not having it on a lead. Blah, blah, I went completely apeshit, I'm in my 40's but 5"10 and size 16 and Ive also done kick boxing for several years, I was that close to decking him but went ballistic, called him everything under the sun and more , he's a miserable old git anyway( say early 60's and has had a go at afew female dig walkers for same incidents) , husband was angry when told, said ed throttle him, some weeks later I pointed him out driving by and he confessed he'd let on to him that day.

So weve Been away for weekend with family, after a quick cuppa and laundry mission, head out for a walk with dogs and the husband.
As we round the corner of quiet country lane" the dog kicker " and his pampered neurotic dog approach, the husband knows who he is, after " the dog kicking incident" I pointed him out , fuck me whilst I stand there, not saying anything as I ignore the idiot, HE FUCKING SAYS GOOD DAY!!!
I'm a being stupid or should I pull the knife out of my back before he twists it?
I could throttle him, he knew who it was, he has made me look stupid and I cannot believe it.
The idiot to be fair, put his head own, it was the idiot I married who went all out to be pally.
I'm livid, it's the principle, he says I'm mental and need help. I don't want to even look at him, I've lost my respect for him, I know it's a small matter, I don't expect them to exchange cards and arrange a duel but he shouldnt have done it with me with him.

Saying good day to someone does not mean that they are "becoming pals", OP. You've got this completely out of proportion and the amount of anger which comes across in your posts makes you look unhinged to me. Move on and try to find your dignity.

Not good to kick a dog, but it boils my piss that dog owners think everyone else should happily tolerate being sniffed at/said hello to by their 'friendly' dog.
Keep it on a bloody lead.

You sound lovely.

Christ if this is how you react prehaps you need a lead. All that anger and violent thoughts are not good,

I thought 'let on' meant 'told'

If your dog is aggressive and needs to be kept on a lead then why take it somewhere where other dogs are likely to be off the lead? It's kept on a lead and on a path, so why not walk it around the street?

My dog is lead aggressive, and is the most timid thing when off.

Why should I put my dog on a lead because yours has issues? It actually really winds me up.

OP you are no BU. If that was me in your situation I don't think I could of been so restrained. I absolutly hate animal cruelty.

Off lead my dog is the run up to other dogs tail wagging in a blur type of dog, on lead he's the same but more inclined to bark.
I know he just wants to play, but i respect that other dogs don't. Mine is a youngster and can't always make that distinction.
if I don't recognise the dog in the distance, or I know it's a dog that doesn't like mine, I put him on the lead.

You do sound a tad unhinged

HOWEVER, if someone kicked my little pussy tat they'd be hanging by their balls from the lamp post!

This is why I avoid parks with my blind child. :( Dogs off leads rule the parks.

YABU. You said yourself that your dog's are both big, and it was the largest one that ran over to him.

You know your dogs are friendly, but a stranger doesnt. Who wouldnt feel threatend or intimidated by a massive dog off it's lead bounding towards them? I know i would!

When people feel under threat, their natural defence instinct will kick in. For some, that instinct is to lash out. Im not saying its right, but it happens.

You are the one in the wrong, by leaving your big dog off its lead, therefore free to do as it pleases. If you didnt want it to get kicked, you should not allow it to be in the position where that may happen.

If you cant take responsibility for your dog & its actions, you shouldnt own one. Simple as.

coansha,have you asked your DH why he did this?

Ok he kicked your dog. I would not be happy if it was not warranted BUT although I am a dog lover I hate it when large dogs run over to me when I am out walking with my dog.

But you were contemplating decking him, called him every name under the sun and your husband said he would throttle him.

Because your husband said hello to him and you want to throttle your husband and have lost respect for him.

Sorry op but I do not think the dog kicker is the main issue here. Your reaction is not normal. You do know that if you or your husband attached the 'old man' that you would be up for assault.

OK, so it seems that "let on" means to say hello which does make sense in the context of the sentence, thanks to those who explained.

On balance I think you are the unreasonable one for getting so aggresive with someone in the first place. You would have been better to have asked him not to kick your dog and walked away. As for the rest of the saga you do sound like maybe you need a little more to worry about. Not a biggie imo.

Nobody but you can make you look stupid, and I suspect you dont need your husband for that, you manage this quite well on your own, judging by your op.

op,when did your uncle die

My dd is terrified of dogs and owners not using leads just make the problem much worse. I love dogs but would defo not want a strange one running up to me. Having said that I would not kick it either. I think you need to let this go and use a lead.

I would never kick a dog and I would be extremely angry if some kicked a dog.

Angry yes, but I would not go all go all bat shit sweary crazy and start posting about being close to "decking" a pensioner, how hard I am, being pleased my DH want to "throttle" someone , and then want to throttle my DH whilst making ott dramatic statemens about twisting the knife and duels.

Have you considered pilates?

Don't get me wrong, I judge each situation and ask the approaching owner if their dog is ok.

It's just the expectation of 'my dog is aggressive therefore you should keep your dog on a lead' that bothers me. No, if your dog has issues then you need to remove him/her from the situation.

Sole that's so sad. I don't let my dog run near any children or adults for that matter. I respect that not everyone wants a nutty springer near them. My local park has a children's only play area that's fenced off, is there nothing like that near you?

Perhaps his dog had been previously attacked by someone else's off lead dog? Perhaps he had himself been bitten by someone's off lead dog?
If you can't stop your dog from approaching other dogs when it's off lead, it shouldn't be off lead. No, he shouldn't have kicked your dog, he shouldn't have felt the need to kick your dog, because you shouldn't have allowed your dog to approach without him saying it was ok.

My springer bit a very large dog that jumped out of the bush at him, and the owner went ballistic. He got such a shock and he has severe fear aggression since being attacked as a puppy.

I had my dog on a lead the other day & a terrier came up & bit him.

Wish I´d kicked the fucking thing before it had had the chance.

And the twatty owner.

You're a size 16?

I think this poster may need some help.

op,I think you need to try and calm down.
You sound like you need some help in some way.
When you are feeling calmer,you may want to access some help.