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Husband said hello to the man who kicked our dog....

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coansha · 16/09/2012 16:58

The background info:
Whist on a quiet, solo walk some months ago with my 2 large and very friendly dogs, the largest runs off to sniff and say hello to a man and hs dog approaching...
Well to keep it short he kicked my dog, as it sniffed his, berated me for not having it on a lead. Blah, blah, I went completely apeshit, I'm in my 40's but 5"10 and size 16 and Ive also done kick boxing for several years, I was that close to decking him but went ballistic, called him everything under the sun and more , he's a miserable old git anyway( say early 60's and has had a go at afew female dig walkers for same incidents) , husband was angry when told, said ed throttle him, some weeks later I pointed him out driving by and he confessed he'd let on to him that day.

So weve Been away for weekend with family, after a quick cuppa and laundry mission, head out for a walk with dogs and the husband.
As we round the corner of quiet country lane" the dog kicker " and his pampered neurotic dog approach, the husband knows who he is, after " the dog kicking incident" I pointed him out , fuck me whilst I stand there, not saying anything as I ignore the idiot, HE FUCKING SAYS GOOD DAY!!!
I'm a being stupid or should I pull the knife out of my back before he twists it?
I could throttle him, he knew who it was, he has made me look stupid and I cannot believe it.
The idiot to be fair, put his head own, it was the idiot I married who went all out to be pally.
I'm livid, it's the principle, he says I'm mental and need help. I don't want to even look at him, I've lost my respect for him, I know it's a small matter, I don't expect them to exchange cards and arrange a duel but he shouldnt have done it with me with him.

OP posts:
TheGoldenKnid · 16/09/2012 17:18

You should not let your dog run up to a stranger's dog. Even if your dog is friendly, the other man's dog might not have been! It really irritates me when people do that. That's assuming your dog was being friendly!

You have 'lost all respect' for your husband? Total over reaction. You do come across as slightly unhinged, to be honest.

OldBagWantsNewBag · 16/09/2012 17:18

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ExitPursuedByABear · 16/09/2012 17:20

I think you were in the wrong for letting your dog run up to a dog that was on a lead. My dog can be aggressive to other dogs so I put him on the lead when other dogs are around. If a dog then comes up to him I have the moral highground.

You sound a bit deranged to be honest.

GoldPedanticPanda · 16/09/2012 17:20

Yabu, put your dog on a lead and grow up a bit.

edam · 16/09/2012 17:21

I think your husband is reasonable and you are unhinged. Go around with a temper like that and you risk getting yourself, and your dog, into deep trouble. You aren't a toddler, you are a grown woman - you need to start behaving like one.

coansha · 16/09/2012 17:22

The old git was actually quite a burly guy, also his dog was off the lead, dogs do sniffing and he isn't aggressive.
It's an off lead area for all concerned and it was a gentle kick it was a proper kick and his dog is less than blameless but I would nt ever kick a dog.
I'm certainly emotionally at the moment as have got lost my uncle to cancer and thought at least my dh might be a bit more understanding.
And no, I'm not aggressive just fucking deflated my husband has proved his worth.
I do not expect him to fight, but becoming pals with the local knob is not my idea of a good week all things considered.

OP posts:
coansha · 16/09/2012 17:23

Meant wasnt on lead...

OP posts:
ratbagcatbag · 16/09/2012 17:25

oldbagwantsnewbag I completely agree with the dog walking etiquette, but I am amazed at the amount of people I see and yell over, can you get your dog, mines not that friendly, and they shrug their shoulders and say oh mines fine and leave it, sometimes my dog does behave but if another dog gets too close all hell breaks loose, a terrier once hurtled up to him and went for his throat, he had it by the scruff in seconds, owner was swearing and yelling and threatening allsorts whilst doing Fuck all, ended up half throttling mine to make him let go, I had told the owner twice to get his sodding dog, he then said he's not normally like that, he must have known yours would attack so did it first!!!!!! My dog was next to me, off the path on close lead, so he could walk by fine if he had got his dog on a lead. Grrrrrrrr!!
Stuff like this annoys me so much.

SleepyCaz · 16/09/2012 17:26

You DO sound mental and in need of help. Nice behaviour.

atacareercrossroads · 16/09/2012 17:27

id be fuming if dp let on to anyone who kicked our dog. Twat.

cornzy · 16/09/2012 17:29

your dog should have been on a lead if you weren't able to stop it from running up to other dogs.

cornzy · 16/09/2012 17:30

sorry about your uncle

WofflingOn · 16/09/2012 17:30

I rather like these threads where it's dog on dog and everyone arguing is a dog owner.
Rather than dog on child or dog on me.
Seems like poetic justice. Keep it in the circle.

99luftballoon · 16/09/2012 17:35

I wish people would keep dogs on leads if approaching another dog. My dog can be aggressive towards other dogs, so if any nearby I muzzle him immediately and shorten his lead and if necessary form a block between him and other dog.

The number of times people still let their dogs run up to mine, saying. "Oh my dog his fine, he just wants to play."

My dog likes to play too with his teeth :(

GoldPedanticPanda · 16/09/2012 17:42

atacareer what does that mean? That sentence in the op didn't make any sense to me and the OP didn't answer when marquesas asked.

threeOrangesocksmorgan · 16/09/2012 17:43

wow op you sound charming.
keep your dog on a lead

sparkle12mar08 · 16/09/2012 17:46

Well aren't you just delightful OP. Charmed to meet you, I'm sure...

PowerDresser · 16/09/2012 17:46

99luftballoon

Frankly, it would be good for everyone if dogs were on leads at all times but, yes, certainly when approaching other dogs and people. I am not a dog owner and do not want dogs running up to me or jumping up at my children, slobbering everywhere (if it's a boxer). The owners who say that 'he's all right. he's just being friendly' do not really understand that some people just do not want dogs in their space!

And seeing Paul O'Grady on the television letting dogs lick his face ........

Kayano · 16/09/2012 17:47

How is his do less than blameless! It's your dog that is out of control

Yes you've had a hard time but it's no excuse, you seem aggressive and nasty. It doesn't matter if it's a burly bloke, you have no idea what he or his dog were like.

Just because there are lead free areas does not mean all dogs should be lead free.

fairtomiddling · 16/09/2012 17:49

Maybe his dog was aggressive - I'd much rather see someone boot my dog out of the way rather than letting their dog go for her throat. I work in a vet practice and have seen the injuries dogs can inflict on each other... don't let your dog go running up to others!

Kayano · 16/09/2012 17:50

You call him an old git Hmm
He probably calls you a crazy mare

Just saying you bobs didn't like him to start with, and if you know he has told others off for similar incidents and still let your dog bound up to his then it's on you

atacareercrossroads · 16/09/2012 18:10

Let on = say hello ooop norf

GoldShip · 16/09/2012 18:15

Let on generally means acknowledge

Kayano · 16/09/2012 18:17

I'm 'oop north' and have never heard that lol

GoldShip · 16/09/2012 18:18

I've only heard it in Liverpool

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