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to wonder why people are such shits.

91 replies

kinkynagbag · 16/09/2012 10:53

i dont know where to put this but need to let off steam.
i went out last night for my birthday, was having a semi good night, got some of the usal sneers and laughs from drunk guys, we i thought your a twat and got on with it, untill we got to my favourite bar i walked through to go to the bathrooms when this random guy just grabs me by both arms and goe s " yeah right, your uglay" then shoves me backwards.

i carried on to the bath room n cried. i know im fat and not the best looking girl but was there really and need for that?

my friend s came to see where i was, could see that i was upset but i couldnt really tell them. there skinny minnis and gougoruse they wouldnt get it, and honestly it was embarssing.

why?

OP posts:
wannabedomesticgoddess · 16/09/2012 10:58

Next time someone does that phone the police. Its assault.

People are just cunts. And shallow.

I dont really know what else to say. I have experienced similar but nothing as horrible as that. I hope you are ok. Please dont listen to the words these people say. Overweight doesnt mean ugly.

WorraLiberty · 16/09/2012 10:59

Why are some people such shits?

Because they are unfortunately.

Shits come in all varieties, sexes, ages, shapes and sizes.

Take no notice of the twat and just thank God you're not him!

Happy Birthday btw Thanks

BuggerLumpsAnnoyed · 16/09/2012 11:00

Some people are shits sadly, especially with drink. Doesn't matter though. There's no goodness or happiness in people like that. I'm sorry this happened to you but don't let it get to you, be happy that you're not like them xx

KenLeeeeeee · 16/09/2012 11:00

:( What an utter wanker. I'm sorry & I hope you're ok.

MySpanielHell · 16/09/2012 11:00

Whatever somebody looks like, they can understand that to have a stranger in a bar grab you, say something mean to you and then push you is really upsetting. You shouldn't have to feel that other people will not understand or will not care.

Why some people are vile I don't know, upbringing, peers, general mean spiritedness?

Sorry this happened to you.

Petsinmypudenda · 16/09/2012 11:02

Because they are cunts who lead shitty lives, have a shit job they hate and cant get a girlfriend/boyfriend because they are cunts.

thebeesnees79 · 16/09/2012 11:02

that's such a shitty thing to do! Ignore the arseholes hun xxx

MNhoneydragonHQ · 16/09/2012 11:02

His incredibly fit woman was probably still deflated under his bed. He wasn't a shit he physically assaulted you. He isn't good enough to be a shit.

Next time tell your friends. Thats what friends are for.

GoldShip · 16/09/2012 11:03

What a prick!!! Hope you're okay! If you were my friend I'd make the bastard pay!!

GoldShip · 16/09/2012 11:04

Next time (if there ever is) tell the doorman or security. They take incidents like this very seriously x

usualsuspect3 · 16/09/2012 11:05

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Youcanringmybell · 16/09/2012 11:07

Oh that is horrible. I can say it would also upset me terribly. He is one of those people that enjoys seeing people hurt...makes him feel powerful.

Sound like he is a nasty fucker and one day he will do it to the wrong person!
Treat yourself to something nice, have a lazy day and try to put it to the back of your mind
Thanks

Softlysoftly · 16/09/2012 11:08

I think it's getting worse, people seem to feel freer to abuse others about their physical appearance.

You should have kicked him in the nads Angry

Just think in your head for 1 of him there are 10 who think you are beautiful. Then count all the good things in your life that a test like that is unlikely to have or appreciate due to karma being a bitch.

Softlysoftly · 16/09/2012 11:09

Twat not test definitely definitely twat

SoleSource · 16/09/2012 11:11

I totally empathise. x

People seem to have less and less manners and are angry about everything all of the time.

mum4041 · 16/09/2012 11:14

You get people like that. What sad little lives they must lead.

I'm two stone overweight and the number of times I've been just walking down the road and some arse has whispered some fattist comment to me as I'm passing. Or shouted a comment out of a car window.

This is nothing to do with how you look. He is just an arsehole, probably drunk, who enjoys putting other people down.

Thingiebob · 16/09/2012 11:15

Don't think about it anymore. This is a woman hater who has spent the whole evening offending women. He is to be pitied. His 'assessment' of your looks means NOTHING.

As some said further up thread. Take heart, one day he will do it to the wrong person, or he will sadly go further but hopefully end up in prison. His life will fall apart around him, deservedly so.

You on the other hand will lead your happy life.

If this ever happens again, please go and tell the manager and get the offending article kicked out.

SheppySheepdog · 16/09/2012 11:18

What a cruel, pathetic excuse for a man. If my DH ever behaved like that I would be thoroughly ashamed of him.

Have a comeback ready next time op, something along the lines of "And I still wouldn't touch you with a barge pole mate". Who wants to be attractive to men like that anyway?

DolomitesDonkey · 16/09/2012 11:18

I'm so sorry you had your night ruined by that idiot. :(

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kinkynagbag · 16/09/2012 11:20

thank you every one. kind words hvae made me feel better and smile. so thank you.

i should have told my friends, and i know now they would have understood why i was upset. was just to ashamed tbh.

he is a knob, i know this but its hard when your self esteem is all ready so low last night was like the final straw.

i shall take advice and have a lazy day with my two sprogs. have cuddles, drinks loads of coke and ice and nurse a hang over.

thank you x

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Latara · 16/09/2012 11:22

There are some real shitty men who enjoy upsetting women on nights out - it's one of the ways they entertain themselves, especially when a bit drunk.

Usually because they have massive egos, or issues with women, or both.

I used to work with lots of men before i started nursing, & had male friends (no longer friends thankfully) who were exactly like that.

It's upsetting but please please just try to forget about it.

Men who insult women on nights out are a bit like muggers - they pick on women who seem vulnerable to them & not that confident (ie. unlikely to fight back).

I've seen some really very pretty women get insulted or harrassed by men like that so it's no reflection on your looks; just on the fact he thought he could get away with bad behaviour.

Try reading a book on body language & assertiveness; but also don't go to the toilets alone in future.
You shouldn't have to take those precautions but in reality it does help to do that.

HiHowAreYou · 16/09/2012 11:23

Last time there was a thread like this, someone suggested the retort:
"Being nasty to strangers won't make your cock any bigger dear".
Which I thought was quite good.

scentednappyhag · 16/09/2012 11:25

Some people are just jizz-crusted wank-socks.
I have similar comments when I go out (never been pushed though Angry) and tend to just laugh in their face. They're pathetic and I'm out having fun, I win Grin
Hope it doesn't play on your mind too much, you're better than that.

crackcrackcrak · 16/09/2012 11:26

He has issues that aw not your fault. We all deserve to be treated with respect. Hopefully he will get what's coming to him. Sorry he spoiled your birthday Sad

WorraLiberty · 16/09/2012 11:31

Acting like a prick won't make yours any bigger mate

That would have been my preferred retort Wink

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