to wonder why people are such shits.

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i dont know where to put this but need to let off steam.
i went out last night for my birthday, was having a semi good night, got some of the usal sneers and laughs from drunk guys, we i thought your a twat and got on with it, untill we got to my favourite bar i walked through to go to the bathrooms when this random guy just grabs me by both arms and goe s " yeah right, your uglay" then shoves me backwards.

i carried on to the bath room n cried. i know im fat and not the best looking girl but was there really and need for that?

my friend s came to see where i was, could see that i was upset but i couldnt really tell them. there skinny minnis and gougoruse they wouldnt get it, and honestly it was embarssing.

why?

Years ago now I had a car full of lads slow down as they passed me and shout 'fat cow' before speeding off. It made me grin. An older woman passing by asked if I was OK.

I was walking back the 2 miles from the swimming pool to my house, having completed 2.5km of pathetically slow breast-stroke. I'd lost a stone and would lose another stone over the rest of the year. Yes I was overweight but I was actively doing something about that, being rude is probably still their way of life now.

Nice post, elfycat!

What an arsehole OP. Such horrible stories on this thread too [Angry]

Oh how awful. I hope you are having a lovely day and that you feel better now!

I once had a man tell me in broad daylight that I was 'the ugliest woman he'd ever seen' so I know how much it stings. The thing is though that I was actually having a really good and happy day up until then as I was on my way to meet a new boyfriend that I was besotted with, just as you were probably having a really good night with your friends - I think some very dreadful and unhappy sorts just can't bear to see other people who are obviously happy, loved and feeling good about themselves and think they'll do what they can to ruin it!

Twats, the lot of them!

MmeG that has made me feel so sad. :(

I was completely mortified as loads of people heard him. In fact he stopped his car and beckoned me over to say it, so important must it have been for him to make his feelings known!

My cheeks are burning now at the memory of it and the most stupid thing of all is that I'm the one who felt too ashamed to tell my boyfriend why I was crying when I finally met up with him a few minutes later... :(

Mme i am so sorry that happened to you.
what a complete fucking lowlife loser. honestly. feeling quite angry on your behalf.

hope you don't let it bother you. it says far more about him than it does about you.

MmeG - what an utter shitty thing to go through! He was obviously setting out to upset someone and chose you.

I don't think this happens so often to men and I don't think groups of women all get off on belittling and mocking a random man although I'm sure it happens occasionally.

I once had a bloke say to his mate right in front of me, "god she's ugly" to which his mate replied, "yeah, like a pig." I presumed they were talking about me but didn't hang around to check. My cheeks burn even thinking about it now.

Op, so sorry this happened to you. It took me years to be able to accept compliments after this, even though they probably outweighed insults 100-1

o p, i'm sorry you have had that experience. many such things have happened to me. i don't know about smart comebacks, you might make things worse. perhaps 'but i'm a nice person...' as they'll never understand that the unsaid words are 'unlike you'.
people who make these remarks are bolstering up themselves, trying to make themselves feel better by making you feel worse. they aren't nice and they aren't funny. love yourself regardless of their opinions.

Aw, you're very kind! I should get over it really (don't worry, I don't dwell but this thread reminded me and I'm all mortified all over again!) as my DH just asked why I'm looking upset and I couldn't tell him as I felt too embarrassed! Isn't that awful?

I'm furious with the guy who ruined the OP's night by doing this and all the other men who did similar throughout this thread. It's so spiteful. :/

Retrospective happy birthday OP . So sorry to read about the horrible experiences of yourself and others here. Having had my share too am in floods here - but you have done a good thing in starting this thread as often it feels as if everyone else is 'gawus' so won't understand if you try to discuss the problem. Thanks.

This thread is so sad. People can be such utter shits.

I have to say though that shitty people who say shitty things will say shitty things whatever you look like.

As me and 2 friends were leaving a nightclub 15 5 years ago a bloke across the street yelled at the top of his voice "look at that - lanky, fatty and short arse".

Well he certainly covered all bases and gave us each our own individual insults!

Belated happy birthday OP

'Don't try and win over the haters, you are not the jackass whisperer'

Hey, some people are tossers. I was walking down our street early one Sunday morning (with the DCs) and three young ish blokes came towards us, all still very out of it from the night before. They all looked at me, one said to another (loudly) "Would you do her then?" He looked me up and down and went "Nah! Never!" and they all staggered on laughing. Think it went over the DCs heads thankfully. I was a bit but I can't say it bothered me.

and Happy Birthday and never mind the twats.

:( this thread. I have also had lots of insults in the street.