Wibu to have stomped downstairs and called DP a knobhead

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I hate waking up. It takes me ages to come round and start feeling human. DP is very aware of this as he bitches and moans about it every morning. DP is used to getting up at 5.30, I hate anything before 7.

So this morning he wakes up at 5.30, tries to get me to wank him but I'm having none of it so he gets up n ready etc. all ok so far.

Then a 6.30 he comes up again and starts touching me up...it's still a no (well its actually more of a series of grunts and moans tbh).

So then...this is the bit that really riles me....he puts his fucking freezing cold hands on my legs and starts laughing! What a fucking knob! My screams wake ds up (who's also grumpy on a morning) and then DP leaves me to it and refuses to get ds up.

And that's where the story ends. I came stomping downstairs with a face like thunder, call him a knobhead and he calls me a few fruity words. Now he's not speaking to me.

Grrr...I hate mornings :(

dragons thanks for that, you both sound lovely.

When I say permission I mean at the right time where it's obvious that both of us are on the same page. I don't mean saying 'yes dh, now I will allow you to touch my boobies'. It is surely obvious that when I'm asleep/cooking dd's meals/washing/busy in general that my first priority isn't giving my dh a 'wank' so if he were to come and interrupt me and physically take my hand and put it on his bits I would find it really disrespectful and be furious. He would not have my permission.

Permission in our relationship is obvious because we have been together quite a long time, having a romantic meal leading to bed...just cuddling and kissing in front of tv...things I would assume most normal couples do!?

If that makes me boring tbh I really don't care, I like the way my relationship is. If you like being woken up by your dh having sex with you and you are ok with that it is totally your call, just not something I would be happy with in my relationship.

The op stated she is not happy and if one person in a relationship makes it clear that they do not like being forced upon in a relationship (and it concerns me that people do) yet the other person ignores their views and respects them so little to physically abuse them, and I really do think this is a form of abuse then it's not right.

Disagree with my views all you like...

I don't even get what your OH has done wrong. He tried it on, you said no, he tried again and then tried to wind you up for a joke - not funny when you're hungover or whatever but hey ho...but then to storm downstairs and call him an knobhead - I would say YABU, it's not a big deal, he tried it on twice to see if he could get you to change your mind. That's all! You're bad tempered in the morning, he wants some action and why should your preferred time of day outrank his? I've read nothing that says abuse, just a guy who wants some action with his partner, I think that's normal.

Is it normal to keep trying it when you know full well your partner hates it and hates being woken up that early anyway?

Your husband sound lovely dragons, as do you

I used to live with a boyfriend who didn't even bother to wake me up first. He'd just clamber on top and I'd wake up half way through. It used to really piss me off (understatement). I expect that makes me a boring cow too.

i read your post out to my husband...he says you're a boring cow

Jebus on the Skeggy donkey - is this what MN is now?

What a weird thread.

My dh always wakes about 5.30. He wouldn't dream of trying anything on at that time of the morning. Anyone who does needs a serious talking to about respecting other people's wishes.

Sorry OP but your H sounds like an annoying twat. Tell him to grow up.