to think that mums who send their toddlers to groups with colds...

[MrsBucketxx]

are irresponsible

can't they keep their dc's at home till they don't have snotty noses and infecting the other children there.

kinda sick of nursing colds everytime they go to any sort of group.

Coughs/colds don't really bother me. But my youngest started school recently with another child who had a throat infection and who was advised to not go in by the GP.

The mother of this child did send the poor girl in, despite being very unwell and I'm livid. Apparently the mother was too busy to keep the girl off school but she is a SAHM.

Coughs/colds is par for the course unfortunately.

i do the same ceevee.

YABVU! My dd was made extremely unwell (hospitalised, ventilated twice) by colds when she was a baby - before they found out what was wrong and sorted it, she's fine now - and there is no way I could have this attitude! WE stayed in, WE obsessively used hand gel and washed our hands every time we touched our faces, etc - I fully expected everyone else to just get on with their lives. Children get lots of colds during winter and spring - you'd be holed up for 9 months of the year if you had to stay in every time you dc had a cold!

Look at it this way OP: if you let them get a few colds now (when they are young enough to not be missing out on their education if they feel ill) then they will get a lot less ill later on when they are at school.

all that snot its mostly about kids developing their immune systems bugs are everywhere and unless your child has a serious immune deficiency there is no point in trying to avoid them

Toddlers always seem to have runny noses especially starting new things, Fact of life I am afraid and as long as a child isn't burning up and just has a runny nose then there is no reason to keep them home IMO, builds up immunity too,

I go on "would I go to work with this?"

D&V - no toddler group.
Chicken pox - no toddler group.
Absolutely stinking cold, green snot everywhere, up all night crying - no toddler group
Normal cold - toddler group

mummytokatie Basically that's how I approach it too - would I keep the older one off school? Would I stay off work?

I don't have any problems with my DDs mixing with children who have colds - what are you supposed to do with them when they're perfectly well, but have a very runny nose for example. That's not a reason to keep a child at home.

I do, however, have an issue with parents sending children to nursery or school with vomiting or diarrhoea. I work in a pre school and the rule is that a child has to be clear of vomiting/diarrhoea for 48 hours before returning. Some parents totally disregard this and try to send children in who've been poorly before coming to pre school and then 'seemed' okay. That's so irresponsible and selfish imo.

you can tell autumn is nearly upon us. We have a thread on this topic every year without fail. YABU btw and PFB

Ah well mrsbucket it's just you and me then. Shall we set up a germ free playgroup?

Gosh I admire your stamina Mrs Bucket and ceevee, there's no way I could stay at home all day with a coldy, bored toddler!

If it's an ordinary cold, YABU.

I'm currently keeping DS at home because he's got chicken-pox, but that's a bit more serious than the common cold (particularly if he was to infect an adult).

Also, how do you know that they caught their colds from the toddler group? Don't you go anywhere else with them?

I'd like to join the germ free toddler group-I'd be able to drink my coffee in peace because there'd be no pesky toddlers there!

If children didn't mix with other children and kept sterrilised then I am sure some sort of virus would mutate the body needs its immune system to work so if it isn't fighting germs and snoT it wil find something else, get your kids out in amongst the snot

The building up of immunity thing is an extremely valid point - I grew up in an island community of less than 5000 people - I rarely suffered any illness at all - all through childhood - I had chicken pox and rubella - that was it - didn't get colds (not kidding - the first time I had a blocked nose I was 15 - I thought I was suffocating and dying!!) - and it was too bloody cold wet and windy for nits even!!

Now - I work as a dinner lady in school in suburban England - it is rare that I am healthy - the kids at school always have something or other, and I catch the lot - due in no small part to my idyllic upbringing.....

Let them catch colds - they shake them off so easily when young.... so much harder to go down with one after another in your forties....

YABU. I run a playgroup, coughs and colds are commonplace and we wouldn't think twice about a child coming along with a cold.

Some people would never leave the house if they had to stay in because of a cold.

Coughs and colds- carry on as normal.

Flu, chicken pox, gastro enteritis etc- stay at home.

If they're too unwell to enjoy the group then they should be at home resting. If it's just a snotty nose and a bit of a snuffle, then YABU to expect them to stay away from all human interaction. Your PFB is going to come into contact with all manner of lurgy at school! There's a good reason I refer to schools as "a hive of contagion" and always know the school year has well and truly started the first time we all come down with a bug (right about now, aaatchoo!).

If its just an ordinary cold then YABU. Annoying though it is, it does help to build up their immunities. Dd and ds used to have one cold after another. Now at 5 and nearly 3, they rarely get them.

Colds -- YABU
Green snot, chesty cough -- YANBU
D&V -- YANBU (but you are annoyed about colds)

It's a pita to deal with one, but small children need colds.

Wash their hands when you are leaving, and wash yours too. You can do it with bottled water or a baby wipe.

OP do you plan to keep them off school when they have regular colds? There are lots of bugs flying around schools and they could end up with a very poor attendance record. Our school does not recognize a common cold as a valid reason for absence.

It's crap and i hate DS1 always getting colds, but YABU because all the toddler groups would be empty if we kept them all home for every runny nose!

It's different if they've a high temp and coughing away or if they've a sick bug, but colds are mostly just annoying.

There's a difference between a sniffle and a full on cold right? Anyway my dcs have gone to a pre-school nursery for them not because I've worked and so I have the room to make different choices.

Colds are nothing, wait until they start school the things they get are limitless. Nits, worms, conjunctivitis, flu, impetigo just to name a few!

Wonders off to administer worm tablets muttering "it's not even been 2 weeks!"

YAB daft never mind U. It's a cold not the plague.