to think that mums who send their toddlers to groups with colds...

[MrsBucketxx]

are irresponsible

can't they keep their dc's at home till they don't have snotty noses and infecting the other children there.

kinda sick of nursing colds everytime they go to any sort of group.

They are learning to share

My DS has been going to school for 4 years now and I think he's had more colds than before he started.

So far he hasn't presented me with nits, but that maybe because his hair is too short.

YABU

The other thing that gets me about all this is that, unless toddler group is the only time you leave the house with your children, who is to say that they caught it at the group? I can never be sure where mine caught theirs-we are out and about all the time and they interact with things and people wherever they go.

YABU kids need to develop their immune system and if this is done before going to school and having to take time out of their education (when they feel poorly) all the better.

D+v is something else entirely as are chicken pox/measles etc.

Just wait until your eldest starts preschool

Yes you are, its a common cold, deal with it.

Agree with the other D&V / chicken pox are completely different.

BTW DS1s teacher prefers that you send in children if they are feeling a bit ill (obviously not D&V and if they are ill) which includes colds as they often forget it when they get to school, it teaches them the importance of school and to just deal with colds and not skive off. If needed she will send them home, I was quite relieved when she told me as I prefer that approach.

YABU. The only thing which would keep me from sending a snotty child to playgroup/school is the knowledge that there is an immunosuppressed child there - ie receiving medical treatment or whatever which means for them a cold would be far worse.

Otherwise all my dcs would have attended school during June and July. Except when that had a summer cold.

Now, d &/or v? That's another matter. Stay away and keep your germs to yourself.

That's fine as long as I can bunk off work every time I have a cold.

Mrsbucket I agree with you. I have always stayed at home if either of my twins have been ill.

Just been to a music group this morning and the child next to my DD had a stinking cold, sneezing with a wheezy cough, green snot all down her face and all over the instruments etc. We're going on our first overseas holiday tomorrow, and I return to work after end of maternity leave straight after, so will be mightily pissed off if either of my two comes down with a cold. Have to say I did a judgey stare and shuffled two feet further away from her.

Is this a joke??

Hahahaha I sent my dd to group with a snotty nose today

Coughs and cold are fine!

However I get annoyed when people take their children out if they have D&V (or know they had it in the last 48 hours) or conjunctivitis etc. The childminder can't have DS if he has anything really contagious which is fair enough. But it means I have to take the day off work - so I would rather parents didn't inflict these illnesses on everyone!

Snotty noses are fine though, as you just get on as normal with a cold.

It's a great life lesson for sure. The economy will be fucked when all these pfbs start calling in sick every week.

DS has a nose that runs constantly if he's got the slightest touch of any illness. Same as mine. I'm not keeping away from groups if that's the only thing wrong with him/me as we'd never leave the house.

Today we chose not to go to toddler group as DS is grumpy and has a hoarse throat as well as a runny nose. He's 'ill' rather than just has a runny nose so won't be going to groups. But we did go to the supermarket and use a trolley. Which DS was licking and snotting over.

Good grief! I have an immuno suppressed DS. At no point did I expect children with a cold to be kept away from him.

D&V / measles / chickenpox are a totally different matter as others have said.

Ds had a runny nose for nearly a month once. All that was wrong with him.

I kept him in a sealed goldfish bowl for the duration.

Given that colds can be passed round before any visible symptoms, it's pointless really I don't take my child if he is really unwell or very sneezy/coughy, but a touch of runny nose?

I think you need to get a grip OP, a common cold is a feature of life and there is no point blaming other people for the bugs existing in the first place.

If you don't want your kids to get colds, you could stay home yourself and swab them with disinfectant?

Wait til they start preschool/school etc, they get loads of them.

I am always just soooo grateful my kids don't have an immunity issue, that would scare me rigid, because germs are everywhere and most of us can handle it just fine, luckily, but some can't.

Most of the groups we go to are booked for a term at a time, so you pay whether you go or not. Probably why people still insist on coming with DCs who are clearly ill.

YABU. I thought this was a joke. Babies and toddlers always have snotty noses. It's how they build up their own resistance. Some kids would never leave the house otherwise.

Do you stay away from groups every time either one of them has a cold?

There seems to be a general consensus amongst parents of toddlers that we'd all rather our kids got colds than we were quarantined for 2 wks every time they got one IYSWIM. Have to say I'm also of that school of thought especially as you're quite likely to catch them from people who dont even know they've got them yet and they're rarely anything to put the average toddler off their stride.

D&V is another thing entirely (says the woman whose DS got through 5 changes of sheets last Thursday night)

Yes I stay away if mine have colds. Partly as I don't want to pass it on, partly because I have usually had about 1 hours sleep due to being up all night with two crying babies

It's good for their immunity, better to catch loads a few colds than never be exposed.

Different for more serious illnesses though and I would never condone this we were talking about an immuno-suppressed child/adult.